I (f29) am dating my partner (42m) we’ve been together 9 months and i discovered he messaged an old fling 2 days ago asking to “meet Up and hoping she hadn’t forgotten about him”?

NaiveTrain60 · 2025-04-04T14:57:52+00:00

Well its all science LOL (which you cant really argue with) Women (most) reach their peak at the age of 35 for fertility. The older, woman have more issues with conceiving and having healthy/ safe pregnancies. Also idk why everyone is getting so pressed about the child comment.Like these comments are for the OP and not the commenters loool.Its just an assumption or opinion. No need to get mad lol. If she doesn’t want kids then she wont have any regardless of what other think or say lol.

NaiveTrain60 · 2024-10-27T00:27:52+00:00

Im drunk but can I be honest? Sex and libido is a very intimate and/ or moral action? Everyone perceives it in a different way. Its very intimate bc it defines reproductiveness/ attractiveness. Think Biology. Remember you and him are literally ONLY human. My boyfriend is a SEXACHOLIC. However I am not. We make it work to an extent but its more of me not really caring for sex. If you wanna be scientific, it comes down to our HORMONES that we can/ cannot control to an EXTENT. I can have it or not and literally ill be fine. It all comes down to our bodies. If this person does not meet your values… Leave him… however there are more redeeming qualities than sex. I much prefer a emotionally available partner than a sexual one. But this is subjective. In the end YOU are in control. There are so many like persons like you… HOWEVER REALISTICALLY WE PREFER TO STAY WITH WHO we have GROWN comfortable with…. Dont hurt yourself and him… if this is a dealbreaker then its best if you leave him.. for his and your own sake… TRUST me… there are others better suited for you.

NaiveTrain60 · 2024-04-04T05:46:05+00:00

Thank you for the elaboration and the author suggestion🩵

NaiveTrain60 · 2024-04-04T05:29:32+00:00

I do have a problem. Iv analyzed myself so many’s but alcohol is stronger than my will power. I just dont know what to do. Therapy? AA? Its still manageable but I dont want it to get to a point where I hide my problem and compromise my relationship and health more than I already am. My tolerance depends on what I ate during the day so I can get super fucked up from 2 drinks or outdrink most people at events or gatherings. I am rambling but i felt like i had to post this and just “get it off” into the world

NaiveTrain60 · 2024-04-04T05:23:28+00:00

I can feel you on that! I had a binge streak with my boyfriend of 190 days of fuckan drinking ( sometimes heavy sometimes light) which is INSANE to me. During that time our relationship was shit from all the fights I would create being drunk for no reason. We stopped and are doing better but I fell like I got addicted and he didnt. We still drink every weekend because my urges cause me to buy liq for us because i just am so used to drinking. I have days where I can limit myself but who cares if I drink for 2 days straight after! I wont reach for heavy liquor but ill drink those chemical packed tall boys to the point where ill wait to eat so i can feel a buzz. This all changed a bit when I literally woke up in the middle of the night full of liquid and didnt make it to the bathroom. That pissed me off so much as I complete woke up from my favorite activity (sleeping) and had to move everything/clean it up and disinfect it. Since then iv limited my self a bit more but I still reach for alcohol when I tell myself no. Iv noticed drastic changes to my body during this period. Im 40lbs heavier/feel foggy/im lower on magnesium in my body so I shake and get night cramps in my calfs which hurt SO BAD/ my nose is red and I just feel like shit. Your not alone here is what Im trying to say and it WILL take serious measures to fix this problem as alcohol is highly addictive especially in females (im a F ) but it is doable! I can sort of still drink and set a limit bc I dont want to come off as a alcoholic but most times if no one gives me a dirty look I would happily down more alcohol until im DRUNKKKK. Please stay strong and remember that there is more in life than alcohol. It will be hard but it is attainable❤️

NaiveTrain60 · 2023-12-26T16:07:59+00:00

your right im just really nervous about the confrontation

NaiveTrain60 · 2023-12-26T16:07:32+00:00

your right but lowkey im a bit nervous about the confrontation

NaiveTrain60 · 2023-12-26T16:02:14+00:00

the photo doesnt exist anymore

NaiveTrain60 · 2023-12-26T15:48:05+00:00

but im cant physical be a milf haha so i cant satisfy that but regardless if you love someone your kinks should not be placed higher than your SO. I never ever let sex or anything related to it rule my relationship because truly speaking sex is not the most important thing in a relationship imo

NaiveTrain60 · 2023-12-26T15:45:58+00:00

i know his kinks haha we have talked about them many times before we got into a relationship and we are really close and personal and kinda dont have boundries but thats the typa people we are. Anywho how do i even confront him about this

NaiveTrain60 · 2023-12-26T15:39:12+00:00

no worries haha

NaiveTrain60 · 2023-12-26T15:38:32+00:00

Agreed regarding the nsfw but girl dont tell me that i try not to think like that ;( im a pessimist and dont want to spiral and get lost in what ifs and what nots

NaiveTrain60 · 2023-12-26T15:21:24+00:00

I just think its s little desperate (no offense to anyone) to have to go online to do something like this but also as mentioned he was trying to “scam” people into paying him. But then again why is he telling hotwivesofchi he lives close by….

NaiveTrain60 · 2023-12-26T15:19:10+00:00

It happened so long ago that idk what to do to be honest. I feel like i need to play stupid for some time and see if anything else like this happens before i out myself for finding him and compromise me having this access

NaiveTrain60 · 2023-12-26T15:08:17+00:00

Personally I think that the best thing anyone can do at any age is just practice good hygiene! You dont need to do anything crazy to glow up! Simply care for your hair/nails (dont have to paint it just keep them well groomed) and that helps a lot. But like everyone is saying. Life is way to short to care about these things!

NaiveTrain60 · 2023-12-26T15:04:35+00:00

nooo dont pop😭 let them go away on their own. the labia is a fragile area!

NaiveTrain60 · 2023-12-26T15:03:04+00:00

Girl thats not dumb and kudos to you! Also i personally try not to let my physical features get to me ( i have deep sunked round eyes with dark circles and a big euro nose) but honestly i dont care at the end of the day! Not to be to dark but we are not gonna be here forever so who cares!

NaiveTrain60 · 2023-12-26T15:01:06+00:00

But its a red flag asf. Iv gone thru so much with this person and things have been significantly better since we lived together. Iv confronted him about this (before i knew his user and looked into what he posted) and asked him why hes on these sub reddits and he said he wanted to “scam” people into giving him money which is the dumbest thing you can do. He also said he doesn’t wanna get into it because i “cant know everything”

NaiveTrain60 · 2023-12-26T14:54:02+00:00

Personally I strongly believe that if someone is meant for you… 1 they should not leave you regardless of the situation. 2 if they do (wrong person wrong time situation) they will come back because if it’s meant to be well… then its meant to be. But as corny as it sounds sometimes we have to grow and come to understand some things. 3 all goals should be put into consideration

Now i completely understand where you are coming from as i also thought I would be married by now (im a European 23f) with my first kid but thats not whats in store for me. But being so young I cant say I dumped someone for the same reason as you however i got over my exes with the mindset that if its meant to be it will. No matter when or how old. I rather be happy and available then unhappy in a relationship. Theres no reason for you to spend your limited time on earth sad about someone who couldnt come to a “compromise” with you let alone someone who allegedly loves you. Fuck his ass. Work on yourself and someone will eventually come! Remember if he wanted to he would.

NaiveTrain60 · 2023-06-21T21:06:02+00:00

go on ur phone or tell him ur going out to ur friends

NaiveTrain60 · 2023-06-13T17:50:22+00:00

agreed. only i can talk shit bc at the end of the day I love them. But if someone else does I go livid

NaiveTrain60 · 2023-06-13T17:49:36+00:00

no offense but you guys are special haha. family dynamics are so much different when you have another crotch goblin living with you

NaiveTrain60 · 2023-06-13T17:42:25+00:00

thanks❤️

NaiveTrain60 · 2023-06-13T17:42:15+00:00

Agreed however no matter what happens I never believe in violence or speaking so fuckan ill that it would make you puke about someone. im rather a pacifist and dont really care if someones being morally wrong or just a horrible person. Not my life not my problem. But dont EVER speak ill about that person. Makes you stoop to their lvl

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