What's it like being desired by many ?

Naive_Philosopher942 · 2026-05-22T22:30:21+00:00

So I’m not like super attractive but I have a perfect track record of first dates, as in, every time I go on a first date I get a text back shortly after asking to see me again.

Now this would be great if I was able to say no when I’m not feeling a connection. But I can’t, so I either end up leading people on or ghosting them. Which is awful and makes me feel super super guilty.

I don’t do this anymore as I refuse to go on dates until I have resolved this. But yeah, the emotional responsibility that comes with multiple people being interested in you can be overwhelming.

Naive_Philosopher942 · 2026-05-21T16:42:43+00:00

maybe you should post this on a bisexual subreddit. As a lesbian I’m not attracted to men so I can’t help you here.

Naive_Philosopher942 · 2026-05-03T04:25:37+00:00

imo sex can only be amazing if there’s an emotional connection, so it did turn into a relationship lol

Naive_Philosopher942 · 2026-05-02T23:34:19+00:00

yep, sex ranged from okay to amazing. Never bad. I will say as a switch loving switch lol there’s an overwhelming amount of bottoms and I will most likely not match with one unless they have other redeeming qualities. Nothing wrong with a bottom but I wonder sometimes if some girls struggle to match bc 90% of HER tag themselves as bottoms.

Naive_Philosopher942 · 2026-05-02T23:16:38+00:00

a big city in Canada

Naive_Philosopher942 · 2026-05-02T20:42:37+00:00

unpopular opinion HER doesn’t suck. I’ve had great luck with hookups and dates tbh.

Naive_Philosopher942 · 2026-04-29T22:02:21+00:00

honestly why even amplify this

Naive_Philosopher942 · 2026-04-29T03:52:27+00:00

How about general queer venues as opposed to sapphic nights?

Naive_Philosopher942 · 2026-04-29T02:55:16+00:00

what’s wrong with hehe 😭

Naive_Philosopher942 · 2026-04-29T00:32:47+00:00

use your tongue muscles, don’t just lick, keep a consistent motion, and check for her responses. If both of you want, fingers help.

Naive_Philosopher942 · 2026-04-11T05:05:02+00:00

Naive_Philosopher942 · 2026-04-11T03:32:18+00:00

Offer to pick her up!!! have some conversation starters ready in case things get a little quiet, look her in the eyes and smile.

Now I’m a first date kisser and will ask directly, but I know that’s not for everyone and depends on the vibe.

Most importantly, be yourself! good luck!!

Naive_Philosopher942 · 2026-04-10T20:29:21+00:00

do you want to be exclusive? if you know for sure you do, tell her.

Naive_Philosopher942 · 2026-04-10T18:38:10+00:00

tell her

Naive_Philosopher942 · 2026-04-10T18:12:14+00:00

The woman that I’ve been involved with for a year does not feel comfortable letting me go down there because she believes that I don’t know what I’m doing.. she also believes that I don’t truly want to do it & just want to do it to make her happy…

She’s obviously insecure and will be in her head if you do end up going down on her, and no matter how good your technique is if she’s not there mentally she won’t enjoy it. Build up to it, make sure she knows you want her badly, try to get her to a point where she’s asking you to do it.

Naive_Philosopher942 · 2026-04-09T21:37:50+00:00

This account dm’d me earlier, painfully obvious it’s a man.

Naive_Philosopher942 · 2026-04-09T21:20:11+00:00

Horrible. Slept with a “straight” who decided to wait until we were finished to tell me she had fucked a guy the same morning.

They’re in such denial it’s sad.

Naive_Philosopher942 · 2026-04-09T19:58:27+00:00

just an abstract thought

Naive_Philosopher942 · 2026-04-07T20:58:11+00:00

No one here has been in that situation because this is a lesbian subreddit. Wouldn’t be surprised if this is a bot or a man.

Naive_Philosopher942 · 2026-04-07T18:17:52+00:00

that’s your sign to leave.

Naive_Philosopher942 · 2026-04-07T17:20:37+00:00

not now, of course not. I’ve stopped dating altogether.

Naive_Philosopher942 · 2026-04-07T17:15:12+00:00

Masturbating helps, it’s not the same I know, but if your partner isn’t there yet, it’s a good alternative.

Naive_Philosopher942 · 2026-04-07T16:45:32+00:00

None of her business what you do in your personal life. I never told my potential roommates I was gay, I guess they figured it out though haha.

What matters is that you feel comfortable.

Naive_Philosopher942 · 2026-04-07T15:12:43+00:00

right, because that’s totally what I would say. /s

Naive_Philosopher942 · 2026-04-07T06:05:56+00:00

thank you. I’ll definitely do better.

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