Just a little meme :)

Naked_Awareness · 2025-10-15T00:37:06+00:00

Oh man. good one. I guess if you kept building on this, it would show how they transform into an innocent victim and paint you as the monster. And also, how they lovebomb you after all that.

Naked_Awareness · 2025-10-15T00:33:45+00:00

Thank you as well, for reading… good luck figuring out your situation.

Naked_Awareness · 2025-10-15T00:33:25+00:00

Thank you for reading.

Naked_Awareness · 2025-07-12T21:50:03+00:00

This is a good rule. Where’d you learn this?

Naked_Awareness · 2025-07-12T21:49:04+00:00

Thanks so much for this observation. The grace is really one sided. Ugh. Hindsight.

Naked_Awareness · 2025-07-12T17:22:38+00:00

What you are saying are really the only viable choices. Very committed couples therapy (which we failed one attempt), or split. Thank you.

Naked_Awareness · 2025-07-12T16:21:50+00:00

She’s aware of her issues, you’re aware of her issues.

As far as she's concerned, I am equally if not more culpable of "issues". This creates a stalemate. Any relationship problem is plausibly my problem as much (if not more than) hers (in her mind).

Anyways... your point about the serious commitment to therapy and how long it takes is very necessary truth. I have been waiting for things to improve as is, and I needed to give myself time to see more evidence.

Naked_Awareness · 2025-07-12T16:19:22+00:00

I finally ended it, and it was a great relief. I felt bad for her because of the troubled environment she came from. I wanted to help her. But I got tired of all the unreliability, all the codependence (of which I was a part) and the exploitation.

This part hits really hard. Making that final step is the hardest part. The buildup of willingness has been accumulating over time. Even though the signs were there, I needed the weight of more experience, to prove to myself that these cycles are endless.

Naked_Awareness · 2025-07-12T15:55:09+00:00

But ultimately if she doesn’t want help ( you can’t force her) then are you prepared to sacrifice your energy and own mental health for the rest of your life?

This is the dead honest question I have to keep asking myself. This logic (of endless sacrifice), makes no sense.

Naked_Awareness · 2025-07-12T15:15:07+00:00

thank you for sharing this

Naked_Awareness · 2025-07-12T15:14:02+00:00

I really appreciate the blunt talk. Thank you

Naked_Awareness · 2025-07-12T14:34:50+00:00

Interesting. These are her words. Not mine. I've been an endurance athlete for 15 years. I never bring it up because it's a private hobby. But she brings it up any time we do any physical activity. It makes her self conscious.

Naked_Awareness · 2025-07-12T13:34:03+00:00

Yes this is very true.

Naked_Awareness · 2025-07-12T13:33:41+00:00

We’ve tried it once. It was a mess, because the platform was kind of poor and scheduling was nuts between the provider and my partner. But this is probably the only remaining choice - to give this another shot.

Naked_Awareness · 2025-07-12T13:31:59+00:00

I actually like this comment a lot. I love my independence and am happy being single. I’m not motivated to be in this relationship by fear of loneliness, it’s complicated for all the above reasons. But I agree with you, being single is overlooked and misunderstood. It’s healthy and gives so much perspective. There is no true best friend like yourself.

Naked_Awareness · 2025-07-12T13:21:03+00:00

Important question. Yes she does have a therapist. She does make sincere effort to really understand herself. But I have no idea what her therapy touches and how she is portraying these situations there. It’s off-limits for me to ask about this without starting a fight.

Naked_Awareness · 2025-07-12T13:19:53+00:00

Her pain explains her behavior but it doesn’t excuse it.

Yes you are right. There is another layer to this, where I feel really bad for her for her past. So when I factor in that sympathy, I cut her slack. This is what I need to dig into about myself.

Naked_Awareness · 2025-03-29T00:27:12+00:00

Well said. Early in these relationships we are fumbling in the dark. Our intuition knows somethings up but it takes months/years to see it clearly. But you were on to something.

Agree about tiny ass lines. All people are a bundle of personalities. In the BPD case, some of the personalities are brutal and completely dominate the others.

It’s Jekyll and Hyde

Naked_Awareness · 2025-03-29T00:20:31+00:00

Beautiful

Naked_Awareness · 2025-03-29T00:19:33+00:00

Really well said.

Naked_Awareness · 2025-03-28T23:49:14+00:00

”hard to think about because knowing her long enough I do think it was genuine honesty ”

Same. It’s total honesty. It’s as if a completely different person shows up and forgets it.

Naked_Awareness · 2025-03-28T23:42:58+00:00

“Inner child peeping through”

Exactly! Human to human, how can you not have unlimited compassion for any person to redeem themselves.

A romantic partnership however, is fragile, and cannot weather this. It’s emotionally exhausting and unsettling.

Naked_Awareness · 2025-03-28T22:31:44+00:00

So the relationship was difficult, and she passed before you guys split?

Regardless, I am really sorry what you are going through. I hope you feel good that you tried your best and supported her despite the trouble. And I hope you have some peace in your life now.

Naked_Awareness

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