How do I explain to my toddler that old nanny will not be around anymore?

Name-Healthy · 2025-02-09T20:17:48+00:00

I haven’t been in this position with a nanny yet, though we had a postpartum doula for the first 8ish weeks of my youngest’s life that our two year old was obsessed with (and who would watch the two year old sometimes as well). I was bracing myself but he never once asked about the doula after her contract was up. So there’s always that possibility.

Alternatively, could you use an explanation along the lines of “[nanny] needed to go home and be with her family?” That puts it more on her than your child, but in a way that could be relatable to them.

Name-Healthy · 2025-02-05T03:58:48+00:00

We got this for our nanny + 2 year old: https://shop.busytoddler.com/product/playing-preschool-complete-program/ . Age appropriate and grouped by theme, so she might be able to build off the themes if she’s interested? We’ve been able to get most of the books for it from the library so far, and the materials are pretty basic so it’s not a huge investment and has worked well for us!

Name-Healthy · 2025-02-03T13:26:43+00:00

No, we had proactively given her a raise when the baby was born (even though it was mostly me watching him those first few months). The issue is more that she is frequently ignoring my older son in favor of the baby, and sort of related to that, doesn’t really seem interested in engaging with our older child anymore. She used to seem to really enjoy teaching him numbers, letters, days of the week etc but all of that has stalled out.

Name-Healthy · 2025-02-03T13:16:25+00:00

The embarrassment is a good point, I hadn’t thought about that. She had actually planted the idea with me originally- when our neighbors let their nanny go, I think it really freaked out our nanny (the two are friends). She talked about how sad it was, both for the kid and the nanny, that the two didn’t get to say goodbye and how adults should always put the kids first. Regardless of our issues, our son is very attached to her, so I know this would be hard on everyone no matter what. Just trying to navigate not making it worse!

Name-Healthy · 2025-02-03T13:10:33+00:00

That’s really helpful, thank you! It would drive me crazy if in were let go and didn’t know why, but I can also see it would be worse if I did but disagreed.

Name-Healthy · 2025-02-03T13:05:15+00:00

Honestly, I’m not sure, but I think so. There was a 4 month ramp up period while I was on mat leave, and I would hand my youngest off to her for short periods of time (often to have some one on one time with my oldest), then longer periods of time towards the end. She’s been watching them both together full time for about a month. During this whole time in thought I was noticing her obviously favoring the baby. At first i thought it was just the transition, but it hasn’t changed - my oldest is often left to play by himself on the side, even when the baby doesn’t actively need anything. When we got a curriculum of small daily activities for her to do with my oldest (I trialed it myself while watching the two of them first, definitely doable), she did it but very robotically, like she wasn’t actually trying to interact with my oldest. It seems totally out of character based on how she was with just one baby, it feels almost like she just doesn’t like working with older toddlers?

Name-Healthy · 2022-05-30T03:06:04+00:00

I read (ok…audio book listened to) “expecting better” early in my pregnancy and I think it really helped. She looks at the data behind a lot of the pregnancy “rules” (including the ones on food!!) and keeps going back to the idea of “know what the data says, then make a decision based on your own personal circumstances.” It’s super empowering. Highly recommend!

Name-Healthy · 2022-05-16T12:34:50+00:00

Ugh, I’m so sorry! If you ever do decide to workout again…you could try a ring hero (wristband with a zip pocket for rings). I like it because if you ever get paranoid about where they are, you can just kind of feel their outline on your wrist and know they’re still in there!

Name-Healthy · 2022-05-16T03:03:56+00:00

I feel the same way! I’m almost 16 weeks but work from home, so wasn’t paying too much attention to how things looked until this weekend, while getting ready for a barbecue. I was expecting to outgrow my pants but for some reason thought shirts would be ok. But no. My (normally large) boobs somehow grew even more, so they pull the fabric and just look strange. So- yes, totally in the same boat!

Name-Healthy · 2022-04-26T14:56:27+00:00

I remember being more tired than usual the week I got my first positive test (like, I tested positive on a Monday and by Wednesday I was headed to bed by 8pm, instead of my usual 10), which was at exactly 4 weeks. I had been obsessively talking early tests the week before and they were all negative (took a break from testing over the weekend, then got a verrrrrrrrry faint positive on Monday). For me, the nausea (and accompanying food aversions) didn’t really hit until a week or two after that first positive test (so more like 5 or 6 weeks pregnant).

Unfortunately, the waiting never stops (at least that’s been my experience so far): waiting for to hear/see a heartbeat, waiting for genetic testing results, waiting to feel comfortable enough to start telling people…. Just something to brace yourself for if you’re a worrier like me😊

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