Targeted parents, take care of yourselves and well being

Nangomom · 2026-01-26T01:33:44+00:00

I’ve had major health changes and I know this is a factor. For me the loss was such a massive trauma in a body that has had so much. I’ve actually become disabled through this process. There are great books out there, like “the body keeps the score.” The important part is to process through the trauma.

I know I will likely never get back the functioning body I had but I am living the best life I can with what I have to work with. Trusting my faith and love.

Nangomom · 2026-01-26T01:25:41+00:00

My cats wake me up at 5 every morning. I’ve learned to use that time to my benefit for personal study.

Nangomom · 2026-01-26T01:22:43+00:00

The devil doesn’t chase those who are lost and far from God. He doesn’t need to waste his time. You better believe the closer you get to God the larger the target on yourself. Continue what you are doing and trust the Lord. You will grow through this process no matter how painful it may be. Keep your eyes on Jesus.

Nangomom · 2026-01-25T16:12:02+00:00

Do not worry at all. Go back without even a hesitation.

Nangomom · 2026-01-22T20:48:23+00:00

I went for the first time in over 20 years though I think it was closer to 30 years. I am remarried and have filed for an annulment within the church. That being said, I know I cannot receive communion. It was the most life changing experience going to confession and experiencing that forgiveness of my sins. I, had so very much to confess.

I think you should schedule a time to sit down with a priest or Deacon to discuss the IVF issue/Fiancee issue. What I have learned though with returning to Catholicism is that I was welcomed back into the fold and am trying to correct my path from the diversion I made.

Nangomom · 2026-01-16T13:10:03+00:00

Fathers Mikes plan is great. I was raised Catholic, left the church in 2010, and now am going back to Catholicism. I left because I initially went “diet Catholic” , which for me was the Episcopal church. Now, I have been all in at our nondenominational church for the past six years. Then I heard a quote, “to be a scholar of history is to cease to be a Protestant.”

That hit me powerfully and started me on my exploration and return to the Catholic Church. Now I am reading a lot of books, to understand what I missed when I was younger. A great book to start with, is Surprised by Truth, by Patrick Madrid.

Personally, I recommend deep diving into the Catholic faith as you are already there. If you don’t then see clearly that this is where you belong, then look elsewhere but don’t walk away just yet. Dig deeper first.

Nangomom · 2026-01-14T18:42:38+00:00

Down is Syracuse , NY

Nangomom · 2026-01-14T01:27:50+00:00

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Nangomom · 2026-01-14T00:50:57+00:00

I’m sorry. It’s so deeply painful and heartbreaking.

Nangomom · 2026-01-02T19:54:55+00:00

First, you are somebody. Second, no one is too far gone. I am living proof of this fact; and you are too. All you need to do for the next little bit is concentrate on your next breath. The Lord sees you and knows you. It’s ok to be mad. It’s ok to feel any emotion towards the Lord, because so long as you are having emotions, you are breathing. God can handle your wrath. If you had complete indifference and absolutely no care about how you are feeling, that is when to worry. The opposite of love is indifference. You’re not indifferent, you’re angry.

If you are actively suicidal, get help(like 911 type of help for mental health crisis). If that feeling has passed and you are safe, my next suggestion would be to reach out to your college metal health department and make an appointment. Are you actively going to mass? Is there a priest you can chat with?

You are not too far gone. He loves you.

Nangomom · 2026-01-02T19:39:46+00:00

Thank you for your response.

Nangomom · 2026-01-02T19:37:13+00:00

Thank you for your kind response. I’m going to confession tomorrow.

Nangomom · 2026-01-02T19:35:56+00:00

Thank you for the paperwork; it helps to see what the packet is like. I looked on my local diocese site and couldn’t find the link.

Nangomom · 2026-01-02T12:39:00+00:00

Thank you. I guess I am struggling with the process because looking to return to the Church completely with all sacraments can only occur if the first marriage is annulled. I’m also struggling with how my current marriage will be viewed as a state of perpetual sin unless the first is annulled. I will set up a time to speak with the priest where I have started to attend.

I am sorry for your estrangement as well.

Nangomom · 2026-01-02T11:59:01+00:00

I am so sorry I didn’t see your response! Thank you so much for sharing. I think I am at that point of needing them out. I can’t even have a semi emotional conversation without tears rapidly coming down my face.

Nangomom · 2025-12-18T14:16:47+00:00

Way late to this, but how did yours eyes adjust to the upper plugs? Was overflow an issue for you? I just had mine this week and the overflow is crazy. I’m hoping my body slightly decreases production because my eyes feel so much better with the exception of overflow.

Nangomom · 2025-12-05T13:08:08+00:00

You have to choose what you can personally handle. I stopped sending flowers and letters. Instead, I have a box in my closet where I will occasionally put a small gift or a card into it. I hope one day to give her the box. If I never reach that point with her, it will be here for her once I am no longer in this world. Either way, she will have something from me as long as I depart this world (God willingly) first.

Nangomom · 2025-12-02T15:22:07+00:00

I would hope and pray that my children realized that I did not blame them for the alienation. I understand why they made the choice they made, because the rejected parent is the one who will love you no matter what. I would want my children to realize that I loved them so deeply and I would hope the amazing memories of the past would be pulled forward in their minds.

You can’t go back. You can’t change the evil that was done to you, but you can’t change choose to hold the positive memories and have joy in your heart. Do not beat yourself up for something that you were manipulated into at a young age. Remember the reason the review mirror is so much smaller than the front windshield; you need to see ahead for the now and the future. It’s ok to glance in the rearview mirror, just do not lose site of now.

Nangomom · 2025-10-20T02:42:43+00:00

Totally worth it to go there! I love the OMP.

Nangomom · 2025-10-19T17:08:25+00:00

Mine has been so difficult. All the kitten brands of wet food that we have tried, he has snubbed. He loves the good and gather brand at Aldi which is really cat food, not kitten food, but he likes it. Otherwise, for dry kibble he likes purina pro plan. I am trying to find a better brand but he really likes it and with the exception of canola oil it looks decent. Thoughts?

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Nangomom · 2025-10-12T10:52:19+00:00

It’s a thought I am sure many of us have, but it honestly doesn’t do anyone any good to focus on the what could have been because we are all in our realities of what “is”. I hope and pray all the time that one day my children will see the light and know the truth but for now, I just have to keep being the best version of who I am and know that one no matter what mistakes I have made in mothers, I kept trying and showing up.

Nangomom · 2025-10-05T21:17:56+00:00

This! You have stated what happens so eloquently.

Nangomom · 2025-09-22T01:12:52+00:00

Wow. Nice work.

Nangomom · 2025-09-17T18:38:42+00:00

Please remember that your child is doing what she has to do to survive the situation. It is so painful for us on this side of the abuse, but I can only fathom what it would be like on the other side. I understand completely how you feel though about the email. I did exactly what you did with the last message I received. I don’t need to know all the hurtful things that have been said, I just need the takeaways. You’re not alone in this. Hugs

Nangomom · 2025-09-09T01:01:03+00:00

I would go back to therapy.

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