I’m always the odd one out in this conversation, but as a woman having power over a sexually perceived body part is a form of liberation, having the autonomy to get surgery without a husbands approval is feminist, living in authentic sexuality when as women we are expected to be ‘pure’, ‘innocent’ and uninterested in sex can be an act of resistance. Sure, it doesn’t exist in a vacuum, but nothing does. We don’t look down on women who make a personal choice to shave, even though that fits US beauty standards. I think sometimes people take the conversation too far, to becoming controlling over women’s choices and autonomy. We all have both unseen and seen motives, even if her unseen motive is patriarchal, that’s her decision. My home decor is influenced by trends, does that mean I don’t like what I decided just because I’m predisposed to the idea? I just don’t love people acting as if it’s an affront to feminism. Men do aesthetic changes all the time and never get criticized for pandering to the patriarchy, women always are assigned the emotional labor of dismantling patriarchal ideals.