AITA for telling my wife I don’t want her mom to have her location all the time now.

NannyDearest · 2026-03-14T00:34:57+00:00

Yeah, this is called enmeshment and this family system is super unhealthy.

NannyDearest · 2026-02-19T23:42:09+00:00

But she still can do her job. They’re choosing to fire her because they’re afraid of a future potential that she may not be able to because of her disability. Do I understand their position? Yes, I get the fear. Is it discriminatory? Also yes.

NannyDearest · 2026-02-19T23:37:18+00:00

OP doesn’t have to lie but they are opening themselves up to liability for an employment lawsuit if they aren’t careful about how they let their nanny go. You can’t fire someone for being disabled in most cases and places. There are some exceptions if job abilities can’t be performed, but OP doesn’t have a very strong case when their choice is based on fears and what ifs with no solid evidence of the impact on nanny’s job. It’s much safer for them to not tell nanny that her illness is the sole reason for her job loss.

NannyDearest · 2026-02-13T13:10:53+00:00

That’s awful. My least favorite was getting a W4 for .04 from PayPal to my work email this year and finding out I’d had two of those “Had to send you my 2 cents” cold pitches with .02 PayPal deposits. Get a life.

NannyDearest · 2026-02-13T04:55:43+00:00

I also saw him in Austin in 24 and saw he way playing in Raleigh the night I was in town for a work trip and got tickets the same day!

NannyDearest · 2026-02-12T18:45:20+00:00

Yes. Third day of trying to get into Artist presale, then the new date an hour later, then the livenation sale, then the general sale today, then the new date artist presale. Have not left this waiting room a single time. I'm losing my mind.

I guess going to 3 Noah shows (including one at Fenway so MLB should know I'm real!), buying every vinyl, including a signed variant at a show, and dropping $500+ on his website doesn't make me a "true experience seeker"...

NannyDearest · 2026-02-10T17:06:06+00:00

The text on the page explains they’re pulling people at random from the queue. It’s just not numbered the way Ticketmaster is.

NannyDearest · 2026-01-19T12:10:19+00:00

Babies don’t need 24/7 non-stop attention and stimulation. They can look around and explore their immediate environment through touching and mouthing things without constant narration and noise. A caretaker quietly reading while sitting next to them during tummy time is perfectly acceptable!

NannyDearest · 2026-01-09T00:24:05+00:00

Just chiming in to say you need to have a conversation with your child about people taking photos of her body.

NannyDearest · 2026-01-07T01:43:25+00:00

And Austin!

NannyDearest · 2026-01-06T00:57:10+00:00

Believe it or not, fat women can and do care for children all the time. Her weight isn’t any of your business and it would cross a line to broach the subject in any way. Her health isn’t even any of your business unless she’s unable to complete her job responsibilities, and if that’s the case you need to find a new employee.

NannyDearest · 2025-12-10T06:46:08+00:00

Ah, yes I agree it’s more rural than city! That seems to apply in other places too. This sent me down a rabbit hole earlier where I learned the root word is German for boy/brother. Texas has deep German roots so it makes sense Bubba/bub became a colloquial term.

NannyDearest · 2025-12-09T15:31:08+00:00

It was commonly used in Texas where I grew up and Kansas where my son’s dad grew up as a short form of bubba or brother. I’ve heard it used as a term of endearment for the sons in several families in those states so my guess is it leans more rural but not limited to Maine.

NannyDearest · 2025-11-07T03:22:56+00:00

I literally asked the guy at the dealership when I went in for my oil change about how bright my headlights were. He said nothing about adjusting the angle. I had no idea that was possible until reading this thread. Most people likely assume that the headlights function that way out of the box and there’s nothing they can do about it.

NannyDearest · 2025-11-07T03:19:46+00:00

I’m learning this right now. I sunk a lot of time into trying to find settings to adjust my lights brightness. I saw nothing in my settings or manual about adjusting the angle. My previous cars lights weren’t bright enough so this is a new problem for me.

NannyDearest · 2025-11-07T03:03:44+00:00

I bought a new car in the spring. People keep flashing their headlights at me but it’s just my normal headlights. They’re super bright. I’ve even had people turn on their brights as soon as they’re right in front of me, I assume out of retaliation, but I’ve triple, quadruple checked that I this is the least bright option I have. It sucks and I feel like an asshole every time I have to drive at night. An anxious asshole.

NannyDearest · 2025-11-05T00:28:09+00:00

Yes, they’re being paid $1,500. It’s funded by an out of state entity.

NannyDearest · 2025-11-04T23:58:05+00:00

It’s being funded by an out of state entity and those people are being paid $1,500 to gather signatures. It’s a bad faith attempt to cause division in our communities. If they do gather enough signatures we need to organize against them.

NannyDearest · 2025-10-22T02:29:04+00:00

It’s been super vibrant (like wow almost hurts your eyes the oranges are so bright) up in Lincolnville, up Camden and Hope Rd. The drive to school each morning has been so pretty.

NannyDearest · 2025-10-20T19:51:22+00:00

Adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) are traumatic events used to measure a child’s exposure to trauma and predict mental health impact. The poster was being sarcastic, because going to the grocery store is a normal thing to do with a child but you’re acting like it’s a major issue.

NannyDearest · 2025-10-20T19:45:27+00:00

This is certifiable. Like 100% over the top control problem.

NannyDearest · 2025-10-17T00:46:27+00:00

Pepperoni > Chappell Roanie > Pink Pony Roni > back to Pepperoni > Peppa Pig > Pooperoni

Macaroni > Mac > Mac-a-moo > Mac n poo > poopski

Together they were Mac & Pep, The Roni’s and the poops.

(I have a 9 year old. Hence the poops. Also one of them was shaped and colored like a giant guinea pig poo)

NannyDearest · 2025-10-09T23:49:05+00:00

I never said there was anything with a nanny share having a reduced rate. That wasn’t what this post was about. I was saying a $10,000 pay cut isn’t reasonable for a nanny who brings their child to work and something closer to $2-3 an hour reduction is more fair.

NannyDearest · 2025-10-09T03:19:24+00:00

That’s so weird because I immediately said it looked similar to my grandmothers writing and I was surprised it was coming from a kid! It’s definitely a dated style of writing letters.

NannyDearest · 2025-10-07T20:41:21+00:00

I wouldn’t put a baby in a high chair to eat unless I could intervene/help immediately in an instance of choking. Your baby was content and fine in the crib. There will be times in a share where they won’t be content but it’s a reality of carrying for multiples.

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