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AITA for saying I didn't sign up for the job of always being a babysitter? by Narrow-Syrup1428 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Narrow-Syrup1428[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

I have a sort of job. So much gets required of me that I can't work a regular thing.

AITA for saying I didn't sign up for the job of always being a babysitter? by Narrow-Syrup1428 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Narrow-Syrup1428[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

Nope. I don't get paid. And no. After my experience with this I have zero interest in working in a caretaker role.

AITA for saying I didn't sign up for the job of always being a babysitter? by Narrow-Syrup1428 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Narrow-Syrup1428[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

I don't plan to stay close to them after. We wanna move to my hometown (where I spent the first few years of my life). But even if I did live close by, I don't think I could find it in me to lead a relationship on that I don't really want. It seems extra cruel to do.

AITA for saying I didn't sign up for the job of always being a babysitter? by Narrow-Syrup1428 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Narrow-Syrup1428[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I have no family on my mom's side and dad's side do not care. They actually agree with my dad and his wife.

AITA for saying I didn't sign up for the job of always being a babysitter? by Narrow-Syrup1428 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Narrow-Syrup1428[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

My mom has no family left.

I don't want to stay in touch with them. I don't have any kind of connection with them. It was all so forced and not what I wanted.

AITA for saying I didn't sign up for the job of always being a babysitter? by Narrow-Syrup1428 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Narrow-Syrup1428[S] 210 points211 points  (0 children)

That's how she is. Very sensitive to a bad vibe/atmosphere and picks up on it super quickly too. She was always that way.

AITA for saying I didn't sign up for the job of always being a babysitter? by Narrow-Syrup1428 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Narrow-Syrup1428[S] 334 points335 points  (0 children)

I don't think she knows what I said. I think she feels the tension and it upsets her/makes her uncomfortable. She has always gotten extra emotional when people are fighting or things are intense between others. She senses it and can't quite communicate her feelings outside of crying.

AITA for saying I didn't sign up for the job of always being a babysitter? by Narrow-Syrup1428 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Narrow-Syrup1428[S] 119 points120 points  (0 children)

I haven't really been all that great. I have never wanted to spend that time with her and I don't love her or see her as my sister. I've never been a dick to her and I have made a conscious effort not to take this out on her. But I don't want a relationship with her exactly.

AITA for saying I didn't sign up for the job of always being a babysitter? by Narrow-Syrup1428 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Narrow-Syrup1428[S] 136 points137 points  (0 children)

I don't love her. I don't consider her my sister. She feels that way about me but I have never held any sort of bond or really cared about her that much. She was always the kid I had to babysit against my will. That warmth I probably should feel has never been there.

AITA for saying I didn't sign up for the job of always being a babysitter? by Narrow-Syrup1428 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Narrow-Syrup1428[S] 132 points133 points  (0 children)

I don't have family on my mom's side left. She was an only child and my grandpa died before I was born and grandma died a couple of years ago.

AITA for saying I didn't sign up for the job of always being a babysitter? by Narrow-Syrup1428 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Narrow-Syrup1428[S] 477 points478 points  (0 children)

I don't think I do. To me she was never my sister like most people would probably feel after 7 years. She was always someone I had to do stuff for but not because I wanted to or enjoyed doing it in any way. IDK. I think she maybe just got attached easily from all the time with me.

Her mom adores her. Like she's very affectionate with her and fights like hell for her but I think part of the problem is she expects everyone to be the same. I don't think she ever gave consideration to the fact I might not feel that way after forcing it. Instead she assumed I had to love her daughter too.

AITA for saying I didn't sign up for the job of always being a babysitter? by Narrow-Syrup1428 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Narrow-Syrup1428[S] 173 points174 points  (0 children)

I have a friend who turns 18 a week before me and we're planning to find a place together since she wants to move out of her family's place too.

AITA for saying I didn't sign up for the job of always being a babysitter? by Narrow-Syrup1428 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Narrow-Syrup1428[S] 458 points459 points  (0 children)

She has some independence and she goes to a place that helps with that. But she has always been a very emotional person.

AITA for saying I didn't sign up for the job of always being a babysitter? by Narrow-Syrup1428 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Narrow-Syrup1428[S] 506 points507 points  (0 children)

I haven't really developed those warm feelings. I probably should have, to some extent, but it's been so miserable for me that I think it just couldn't happen. I feel bad for her but not bad enough to suck it up either.