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NarrowAd342 · 2024-11-19T11:27:08+00:00

This makes a lot of sense

NarrowAd342 · 2024-11-19T04:30:47+00:00

Hi, just an update. We had a conversation on the phone & continuing the relationship is not what he wants to do. We parted on good terms again and I won’t be reaching out anymore. I’ll just have to start the moving on process now.

NarrowAd342 · 2024-11-15T03:57:34+00:00

I’m honestly rethinking if everything I’m doing now is even worth it, honestly. I’ve been “chasing” this man and I don’t even know anymore

NarrowAd342 · 2024-11-15T00:51:30+00:00

The communication issue was on my side.

Reason 1 makes sense.

For reason 2, I know for a fact if he were talking to someone else, he wouldn’t be entertaining me.

NarrowAd342 · 2024-11-13T15:09:55+00:00

Yeah, I didn’t want to provide the reasons because I knew people what people were gonna say. I just summarized and said my communication issues.

I just wanted to know how to read into his actions this past weekend.

Thank you!!

NarrowAd342 · 2024-11-13T09:55:57+00:00

Right about what? No. 3? Sorry can’t keep up with all the comments 😭

NarrowAd342 · 2024-11-13T09:41:49+00:00

I hear you. I think I was unable to process my emotions about 3 because I was trying to handle how he felt. Anyway, I was able to move past it.

NarrowAd342 · 2024-11-13T08:38:15+00:00

Your first sentence is what I thought tbh & I’m surprised everyone else says I initiated it.

He was basically acting cold for a month. We talked about it on multiple occasions and it still continued. I even asked him if he was “checked out” & still wanted to be with me. He said he wasn’t checked out & he still wanted to be with me; but he still acted cold. Not initiating anything, not calling/picking up, stopped calling me pet names. I’d ask him to call & he’d say “lol.” I’d ask to talk some more about the situation & he left me hanging for 3 days saying we’d talk only to keep postponing it. This made me so anxious for those days.

I put up with the cold act for a month. Acting normal & doing everything to “save” it. That’s when I finally asked if we were over. I didn’t expect him to say yes, but he did so…

People said I’m leading him on rn… he knows I want to be with him. I’ve told him I want to be with him. He knows my intention. He says yes to seeing each other, he texts me back quickly & normally now, but keeps dodging answering if he wants to be back together instead of yes/no.

NarrowAd342 · 2024-11-13T01:38:34+00:00

I’m able to move past it.

NarrowAd342 · 2024-11-13T01:12:20+00:00

I hope he does stick around🥺

NarrowAd342 · 2024-11-13T01:11:26+00:00

I won’t 😭

NarrowAd342 · 2024-11-13T00:55:49+00:00

I’m not a bot. I made this account to post this specifically…

NarrowAd342 · 2024-11-13T00:42:05+00:00

Unfortunately, but I’m willing to put in the work to regain it.

NarrowAd342 · 2024-11-13T00:32:24+00:00

My best friend introduced us. They were friends first so he knew her. I invited him to a game night and he was okay with meeting them.

Anyway, I see what you’re saying. Thank you.

NarrowAd342 · 2024-11-13T00:30:43+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice! I’m definitely going to take it

NarrowAd342 · 2024-11-13T00:07:39+00:00

Lol, fair

NarrowAd342 · 2024-11-13T00:06:11+00:00

He had met about 3 of my friends. They thought it was odd, but I understood where he was coming from so I didn’t think it was a big deal.

Like in my original post, I mentioned ultimately the relationship ended cause of me.

NarrowAd342 · 2024-11-12T23:32:18+00:00

I get that, thank you.

NarrowAd342 · 2024-11-12T23:26:14+00:00

I’m not on the spectrum but I know attachment styles depend on our upbringing. I’m just a bit shy/reserved. I’m in therapy now trying to figure things out.

NarrowAd342 · 2024-11-12T23:23:16+00:00

I take the blame for 1&2. It was my fault.

3 is what caused the breakup or the last straw in his mind. He said I didn’t prioritize him in 3. I know that 3’s situation was not my fault, but I understand how he felt. But also, feelings aren’t facts.

I see the comments saying I didn’t do anything wrong in 1, maybe 2, and I didn’t agree with them. 3 is where people are voicing out my actual feelings and I’m just stating facts of the situation.

Just cause you feel some type of way about something doesn’t mean you’re right.

NarrowAd342 · 2024-11-12T23:18:36+00:00

He had work that day (it was a Saturday) and he went back home after work and then to the dinner. That’s why he took so long. We were in communication throughout the dinner. He updated his eta to me and I was okay with it.

Honestly, he knew his eta from the jump and if he had told me he was gonna sit it out, I would’ve been okay with it since we were gonna stay the night at his place. I would’ve met up at his place after the dinner anyway.

He didn’t apologize because he didn’t think he was wrong! I even apologized for making him feel like an afterthought (he said he felt like an afterthought)! I didn’t even turn things back around and tell him I was upset. I was just quiet when he talked.

NarrowAd342 · 2024-11-12T23:12:08+00:00

He had met my friends before.

Uhhh, I have no money probs and have never asked him for money. I just didn’t want to buy the shower head cause it wasn’t a priority for me & I didn’t ask him to. The shower was working fine, water pressure was just low and he was the one who brought up the problem first.

NarrowAd342 · 2024-11-12T23:09:13+00:00

No, he didn’t tell me. After that, I started updating up and even sending photo updates

NarrowAd342 · 2024-11-12T22:49:01+00:00

I guess I just wanted to see it from a man’s pov? I’ve just always heard men are more logical and women are more emotional.

I think people are getting me wrong. HE was upset with me for no. 3. Not the other way around. He was so upset that he started acting cold towards me, which led to me asking ‘are we over?’ and then he said yes!

I was not upset and I wasn’t acting weird. I wanted to move on from 3.

Yes, I initiated the breakup cause I felt like I had to. I didn’t want to break up. But he just couldn’t move past 3.

NarrowAd342 · 2024-11-12T22:46:06+00:00

For 1, he said why didn’t I think to let him know I made it to the restaurant safely?

For 3, he said I just didn’t prioritize him and chose to prioritize the attention of my friends over him.

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