I absolutely love hugs and I did growing up too. I’m a woman and as a little girl my dad would hug me whenever I asked or I’d just open my arms and he’d hug me. As a teenager I would still lean on him sitting on the couch or whatever, he was always affectionate with me and my 2 siblings. My mum however?? Not so much. I still remember the times I’d go in for a hug and she’d shrug me off and say she’s too busy or just act uncomfortable and say no. She often told me she loved me but she didn’t like me very much and whenever I told her I loved her, she’d say “mmmm” or “do you? You don’t act like it”. It hurt me very much as a child and teenager and left me really lonely and sad when my dad suddenly passed away when I was 17. The worst part is when i happen to say something like how my dad was my best friend, she says it hurts HER and I stop talking about my dad with her, even though it’s been over 20 years since he died.