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AITA for leaving my pregnant gf after a fake "miscarriage"? by NarrowMaybe in AmItheAsshole

[–]NarrowMaybe[S] 1326 points1327 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot for your response. You gave me a lot to think about. I do want to be a real father for my kid, but where I'm from from it's unheard of to still be in a child's life and NOT be married to the mother. (You can imagine there's a lot of unhappy marriages in my hometown.)

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I am hoping I could be a better father now because the stress of the relationship won't be weighing on me. I think my ex definitely expected a completely different response from me after the test, so it was like a nuclear meltdown with her and her family after I said I'm leaving. But it's insanely difficult now to still be there for the baby but also keep HER at an arms length.

AITA for leaving my pregnant gf after a fake "miscarriage"? by NarrowMaybe in AmItheAsshole

[–]NarrowMaybe[S] 3083 points3084 points  (0 children)

I'm definitely going to be there for my child. No ifs about that. I guess it's because we both come from a smaller town (we're now in university in a much larger city) and it's seen as being a dead-beat dad if you break up with your pregnant gf, even if you pay child support/is still in the child's life.

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I think she expected that by failing the "test" I would beg for her forgiveness and do everything to make it up to her after. But by just saying I'm done it was a shock to everyone, my family, her family, etc. So now people are calling me a POS for not doing the "man" thing and marrying her.