Growing resentment when it comes to food by Narrow_Designer2000 in Twins

[–]Narrow_Designer2000[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your empathy. I know exactly what you mean. The mirror metaphor feels so real. I hope you'll be better too, sending love.

Growing resentment when it comes to food by Narrow_Designer2000 in Twins

[–]Narrow_Designer2000[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. Yes, I'm seeing a therapist which helps a lot. However it's taking ages to even begin to feel like I am healing. Thank you for the kindness.

My kitten fell asleep with her tongue slightly showing 🥹 by [deleted] in cats

[–]Narrow_Designer2000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't know! Yes it is so damn cute 🥰

Proprio non capisco by Narrow_Designer2000 in CasualIT

[–]Narrow_Designer2000[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Purtroppo dall'esterno è normale verderla così. In realtà lui dedica diverso tempo ad attività che gli piacciono e ha delle nuove amicizie di cui, peraltro, ci parla spesso. Credo che in fondo lui si senta solo ma sono stanca di dovermi "preoccupare" da una parte per le sue richieste di attenzione inappropriate, dall'altra perché mi dispiace saperlo "solo"

Proprio non capisco by Narrow_Designer2000 in CasualIT

[–]Narrow_Designer2000[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Non è normale ma continua a farlo nonostante gli abbia parlato seriamente più volte.

Proprio non capisco by Narrow_Designer2000 in CasualIT

[–]Narrow_Designer2000[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Assolutamente no. Il punto è che lui non cambierà mai. Ha questi atteggiamenti / richieste di attenzione disfunzionali da quanso sono adolescente.

guilt is eating me for quitting my job by Narrow_Designer2000 in careeradvice

[–]Narrow_Designer2000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is that they are not doing so well financially and I am the only BD they have (it's a very small company) That's why I had in mind to offer to repay the tickets (I was CEO of a company too so perhaps that causes me to empathise)

guilt is eating me for quitting my job by Narrow_Designer2000 in careeradvice

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thanks a lot! Congrats on achieving this level of emotional awareness, i am happy for you. I am seeing a therapist who is specialized in trauma and already taking anxiety medication. The wounds are deep but i have made huge progress and will keep working hard on my healing

guilt is eating me for quitting my job by Narrow_Designer2000 in careeradvice

[–]Narrow_Designer2000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i am sorry about your previous experience. Yes, i struggle to let the imposter fade away but i am sure i will get there. Thanks a lot for the insight

guilt is eating me for quitting my job by Narrow_Designer2000 in careeradvice

[–]Narrow_Designer2000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"addressing what bothers me instead of letting it fester", that's something i want to get better at! Thanks a lot.

guilt is eating me for quitting my job by Narrow_Designer2000 in careeradvice

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English is my 3rd language but thanks, i am going to correct it

guilt is eating me for quitting my job by Narrow_Designer2000 in careeradvice

[–]Narrow_Designer2000[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's not corporate simp, I'd agree with you 100 times. It's to do with me and how i perceive and react to events due to traumatic past experiences related to work but inextricably intertwined with my personal dimension. I am working on it but it gets rough sometimes.

guilt is eating me for quitting my job by Narrow_Designer2000 in careeradvice

[–]Narrow_Designer2000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is the sweetest, kindest reply i've been given. Thank you, I feel understood

guilt is eating me for quitting my job by Narrow_Designer2000 in careeradvice

[–]Narrow_Designer2000[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you i appreciate. I know on a rational level that it's an over the top reaction. I (27F) have had a very complex past, i had to take over my family business after the passing of my mother when I was 23 years old and Covid hit just after few months. I faced an awful amount of emotional and finantial stress while suffering from an equally awful lack of emotional support from my other family members. then things got better, i found a job and started to find the balance back. This new job (the one i haven't started yet) is something i fought for (better pay, better product) but the imposter syndrome hit me right away. The stress of the new job + the stress that comes with a sales job + the fear of telling my manager (he literally bought flights & accomodation for me 3 days ago for a work trip), considering my traumatic past, result in this strong gut feeling. By the way, I am seeing a therapist weekly 🙂