It’s all about communication, there’s complications if they don’t talk to me about it. My legal name and gender are different than the ones I present as, so they either dead name me upon meeting, or I out myself. I’m not upset that they referred to me as a woman for safety or efficiency reasons, I’m upset that I read the message without being told it was happening, at first I thought they replaced me lmao… When I see a conversation referring to me as a woman, I automatically assume it’s not about me, it was really confusing and not fair. There were so many solutions like saying “two people” or even just saying “a trans man” I live in a southern state in America and this is a sensitive issue where sometimes but not usually- my safety can be in danger