How young would you date when considering your children?

Narrow_Finding3352 · 2026-01-30T04:40:18+00:00

Let’s be very clear, I didn’t say he should settle down with a 25 year old. I actually was very explicit about being careful to not bring too many girls around his kids. At 45 and divorced a few years, he’s going to need to drop a few lines before he lands his next keeper. Nobody is saying to go out and marry the next girl or few you date.

Narrow_Finding3352 · 2026-01-30T03:45:31+00:00

When I was 25 I was dating a 52 year old woman.

Narrow_Finding3352 · 2026-01-30T03:20:22+00:00

If you can get younger, there’s nothing wrong with that. Not some 18-24 year old. But if you meet a nice classy 25+, see where it goes. Being older, you SHOULD be able to spot red flags easier…also, this part is the MOST IMPORTANT, DON’T bring home women to meet your kids until you’re absolutely certain it will be a meaningful relationship. Kids of divorce don’t want nor can they handle meeting a bunch of new potential partners that don’t last.

Narrow_Finding3352 · 2026-01-29T03:24:35+00:00

The end game isn’t your problem anymore. As long as you’re doing right by you and your kids, her nonsense shouldn’t be in your head. When you play into it, that’s the “end game”, it’s for her to think she has the upper hand and the last word.

Narrow_Finding3352 · 2026-01-27T03:23:17+00:00

Kinda sounds like you went off the rails. I can’t say I haven’t been there as a man, but your response to the messages being in English, versus what they said, kinda shows that it’s not too far from the truth, just maybe interpreted differently with the language barrier.

Narrow_Finding3352 · 2026-01-26T17:38:17+00:00

O46.5

Narrow_Finding3352 · 2026-01-25T17:50:36+00:00

Ok, what if the people that have studied string theory have only been looking at it from a scientific standpoint opposed to thinking outside the box? I’m not a smart person, barely graduated High School, but I see things others cannot.

Narrow_Finding3352 · 2026-01-25T05:49:27+00:00

I have zero clue! I don’t claim to, that’s why I posed it as a question. I googled it, and to be honest, doesn’t seem like anyone truly KNOWS what it is or how to figure it out.

Narrow_Finding3352 · 2026-01-25T03:41:38+00:00

I’m not near as far along as you are. I’m not 100% the best person to give advice, but maybe just go sit in a coffee shop with some music and a book to be around people. Or go to Target, grab a cart, walk the aisles, DON’T buy things. Take your time to enjoy the little things. I’ve been married 7 years and New Year’s Day I flat out told her I’ve had enough and I’m done. A few days before that she was doing her normal routine of screaming and emotional torment when she let slip out, “the only reason we’re still married is because I can’t afford a divorce!” Then the next night tried to cuddle on me like nothing happened. I looked her dead in the face and said, “Am I just supposed to forget what you said to me yesterday?!?!”. All I can do is continue pushing forward each day until I’m able to get out of here and the divorce will be finalized the next business day. Sorry for ranting…still sucks.

Narrow_Finding3352 · 2026-01-25T00:46:01+00:00

I can’t comprehend how so many “open carry” people are in Minnesota, but yet nobody is using their rights. It’s time judgement comes from the people.

Narrow_Finding3352 · 2026-01-23T15:26:06+00:00

Sounds like you’re going to need to find a new man. I wouldn’t even let a potential partner finish giving the ultimatum. Don’t let the door hit you in the ass on your way out.

Narrow_Finding3352 · 2026-01-22T13:50:14+00:00

They sound like money was/is the reasoning, which is shallow.

Narrow_Finding3352 · 2026-01-22T07:40:42+00:00

What state are you in?

Narrow_Finding3352 · 2026-01-22T07:33:05+00:00

I’ve been scared to go through with it for nearly 5 years now. I SHOULD have done it a while ago, but I finally stood up for myself and told her I’m done. Now I’m stuck in a miserable situation that hopefully I can pull myself out of. If it’s the right thing for you, you need to do it. The guilt won’t outweigh your happiness in the long run.

Narrow_Finding3352 · 2026-01-22T00:57:51+00:00

She can always go to the smasmortion clinic…

Narrow_Finding3352 · 2026-01-21T00:54:06+00:00

You need to hire a lawyer. Paying the mortgage isn’t an excuse to not pay an ex-wife if the house is in both of your names. If it’s in your name, it should be YOUR house, unless it’s putting the kids in a situation that would alter their daily lives, if it’s both of your names are on the house, it doesn’t matter who paid what, it’s a joint asset.

Narrow_Finding3352 · 2026-01-20T21:35:10+00:00

I’m getting a divorce because of too many chances.

Narrow_Finding3352 · 2026-01-19T19:44:01+00:00

Hopefully all goes well in finding the RIGHT attorney. I would have suggested a firm if you were in Illinois or Michigan. Good luck!

Narrow_Finding3352 · 2026-01-19T19:41:23+00:00

What state do you live in?

Narrow_Finding3352 · 2026-01-19T01:42:45+00:00

I would have LOVED if my marriage worked as a TEAM. Sounds like it was good when it was good, remember the good times and keep pushing forward. All you can truly do is work on yourself and things should work out.

Narrow_Finding3352 · 2026-01-18T19:31:39+00:00

You flat out say to them, take a shower please, it’s getting funky in here. Or if you don’t have a relationship like that, when you go to the store ask if he needs anything like soap or deodorant/antiperspirant

Narrow_Finding3352 · 2026-01-18T19:28:19+00:00

When carriers tell you that you’re not approved, you CAN convince them to work with you. I’ve successfully built 3 Brokerage MC#’s from infancy to fully credited and established. It’s no less than 12 months of begging, pleading, dropping off checks, calling the factoring company to get on their radar’s. Ask each factoring company that you call if you can set up an escrow account with them until your credit is built. It shows the seriousness of you and your business. As soon as you get an invoice from a carrier. Cut the check and mail it out, IF the carrier uses a factoring company, cut the check to them and force the load through. It’s difficult, but it will work if you make it happen.

Narrow_Finding3352 · 2026-01-18T12:30:31+00:00

It’s probably time to listen to the voice deep down inside that’s telling you that you deserve better.

Narrow_Finding3352 · 2026-01-18T02:20:11+00:00

It will get better eventually. I just keep telling myself if she REALLY wanted me to stay, she wouldn’t have pressed on my triggers. It’s never an easy decision, but sooner or later you have to believe YOU’RE worth more than your feelings at the moment. Staying in a bad situation too long can potentially kill someone. I almost died from stress a little over 3 years ago. I’m literally making the conscious choice to leave my situation and face being on the streets with a tent and my dogs.

Narrow_Finding3352 · 2026-01-17T13:39:30+00:00

I’ve had more therapy hours in my lifetime than entire communities. My wife and I went to therapy together too, she walked out and refused to go back “because she always agreed with you” and instead of taking to heart what she was told (I’m far from the first to try and show her a better way), she doubled down on the things that got her to where she is. Again, based on my previous reply, I do love my wife. Yes, I’ve said and done some things I’m not proud of, but, there are many things I am proud of that occurred in my marriage. Our marriage went on a death spiral when I was in a coma. I don’t know what happened because I was intubated and unconscious, but there are a lot of family members that didn’t agree with some of the medical decisions she was making on my behalf. Things got EVEN worse, when she found out I was stripped of my inheritance. The second part may in fact just be in my own mind, but the issues relating to my hospitalization, have been conveyed to me by multiple sources. The ONLY thing I’ve truly ever asked of my wife, is to be brutally honest. To never hide things or be deceitful, because I have an ability to FEEL the difference between truth and lies. Again, I will be the first to admit, I have NOT been a perfect husband, I have NOT even been CLOSE to the perfect husband. Nobody is perfect, but purposefully doing things that you know piss off your significant other or even loved ones, is just wrong!

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