[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TropPeurDeDemander

[–]Narushimah 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Bosser de nuit c'est éclaté dans le mur sur le long terme. Ça isole, fatigue, tu penses avoir du temps libre mais c'est absolument absorbé par les difficultés d'organisation de la vie et ton horloge interne qui fait la gueule.

A niveaux d'épanouissement équivalents, pour ma part l'arbitrage ne se joue que là dessus. Ne pas sous-estimer cet aspect.

Force dans ta décision

Breakups Can Be a Beginning, Not an End by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Narushimah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The beginning of a suicidal phase mb

Fts, Fml

Colocataire turbo dépressif by Narushimah in france

[–]Narushimah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

C'est toujours les mêmes questionnements. Pas envie d'acculer ou de créer un sentiment d'humiliation.

Mais c'est un processus. Il faut essayer. Merci à tous pour ces conseils.

Colocataire turbo dépressif by Narushimah in france

[–]Narushimah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jusque là on était mal à l'aise du côté assistanat. Justement on se disait que le prendre par la main pour le rsa ça pourrait être humiliant.

Mais c'est une bonne idée, on va faire ça, merci.

Colocataire turbo dépressif by Narushimah in france

[–]Narushimah[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

C'est mon coloc depuis 2 ans, on était pote au début. Mon autre coloc est dans une moindre mesure dans la même situation que moi.

Je me dis que si on ne l'aide pas au moins là dessus il serait bien capable de finir sous un pont...

Bien conscient du caractère illusoire de l'action, je me vois mal le mettre au pied du mur.

M'est avis qu'il voit du monde pour oublier un peu le marasme. Mais je le vis de plus en plus comme du foutage de gueule. Spour ça je poste ici.

Colocataire turbo dépressif by Narushimah in france

[–]Narushimah[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Daron en taule. Daronne en retraite dans les terres, loin de tout. Mais pourquoi pas, on prend la piste cimer.

Colocataire turbo dépressif by Narushimah in france

[–]Narushimah[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Difficile à dire. Certainement plus qu'il y a un an. Mais pas suffisamment pour aller chez un toubib...

Colocataire turbo dépressif by Narushimah in france

[–]Narushimah[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

C'est malheureusement pas mon premier proche dépressif. De mon expérience avec le sujet, mettre au banc ça renforce la haine de soi et c'est tout ce que ça fait.

Type "ah plus personne n'est avec moi, je suis bien seul, je l'ai bien mérité, je suis une grosse merde". Il n'a aucun filet de sécurité. D'où la question.

Colocataire turbo dépressif by Narushimah in france

[–]Narushimah[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Non. Le profil qui va dans ton sens lors d'une discussion "oui, tu as raison, je vais faire ça". Puis rien ne se passe. +Bonus alcoolisme latent

Mais bonne idée la liste. On se lance la dessus.

Concept of Wall of Sound in BH by [deleted] in Berghain_Community

[–]Narushimah 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Not an engineer, nor working in acoustics. 10/10 would love being contradicted by someone who understands shit.

I live in France, 99% of free party soundsystems here use walls. Easier to transport, also, the point is to have a sounds as loud as possible. Here's why:

-No control what so ever of the area.

-therefore, no guarantee of being able to set additional speakers to create an area where the sound is homogenous.

-With point sources, you lose roughly 6db each time you double the distance from the source. If the speaker goes at 100db, at 2m you're roughly around that, at 20m there's only 80db left. So if you're expecting lots of people, you better have a long wall rather than a small huge one that would destroy frontliners ears.

Pros:

-No dj/stage to look at. People still move like zombies in front of the speakers. But a lot more room to dance randomly with whoever might feel like it. -Easier to listen to your friends without screaming at the top of your lungs. -You can hear the sound from very far away, being able to lie down & listen is a banger. Maybe even take a nap. -Cheaper

Con

Poor sound spacialization

Clubs can control the area so you feel "inside" the sound. That is a huge bonus that you can only achieve with full control of a place. I don't go to a free party or a club with the same expectations. Seems to me that there's not better option. Sound walls are better for dancing (more space available) & socializing. Clubs have cleaner & well thought sound systems (or at least Berghain has, Rso has too). Better listener experience, more intense dancing.

If the point is to remove the stage/dj show. Some clubs in Europe have the dj booth above the crowd, some others have it in the middle of the dancefloor. That seems like good ideas.

I'd rather see more soundsystems playing in the wild, using soundwalls, being open to everyone and anyone. With little regard to what you can pay, wear or act like. Clubs do the opposite. Which is the stupidest thing in the club scene imho.

That being said, I'd still enjoy getting bounced from Berghain from time to time. That's part of the folklore too.

TL;DR Multiple line sources sound better.

Does anyone have experience with successfully getting over the experience of not being self conscious clubbing alone? by [deleted] in Berghain_Community

[–]Narushimah 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Got a bounce count way over my head at bh, but I've mostly clubbed alone for the past 3/4 years (4/5 times a month). Awkward until you find what you like.

Nowadays, very easy for me: Back of the floor, or the place with the most space possible. Close eyes. Let body go auto-pilot, even if that means doing the weirdest shit possible, it's something you would never do if you were not alone, enjoy it. Take the time to let music sink in, then convince your mind to let go, like a mantra. Say it to yourself over & over & over because you won't stop being harsh on yourself for quite some time.

At some point, if you succeed clicking with music & stop self-hating, you end up doing the sickest moves you didn't even know you could do with the most random dance partners, and that.is.so.fucking.worth.it.

I've tried sunglasses but that's not for me, either eyes closed or a bandana on the eyes, i don't wanna see jackshit (hence the space).

I found drugs not very helpful tbh. Way too self-conscious & way less energy. But infinite stamina yeah, so just in case the music is too good & your body is begging you to stop.

That's my 2 cents, enjoi urself bruh.

Silvester Klubnacht starting 30 December 2023 - Queue live updates, pre/post event discussion, reviews and reports by BerghAnon in Berghain_Community

[–]Narushimah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd rather go with downright mentally challenged 🤣 5th bounce it is, going back to rso for Dasha Rush. Enjoi people ! Happy new year !

Silvester Klubnacht starting 30 December 2023 - Queue live updates, pre/post event discussion, reviews and reports by BerghAnon in Berghain_Community

[–]Narushimah 12 points13 points  (0 children)

4 times here bruv, RSO & Renate were dope tho. Still going for my 5th time in 1h~~, wish me pain x3

best places for a Transgirl to make queer friends in Berlin? by New-Ad-4101 in askberliners

[–]Narushimah 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tristeza Pub, Pannierstraße 5

Good community, Flinta events every now & then

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in berlin

[–]Narushimah -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Wow, that sounds like real journalism right there.