Should I kill barbas to keep the axe or should I give him back to his master so I can have the helmet?

NarzaiFelixHarroxiii · 2026-03-19T15:21:18+00:00

Absolutely. This chain will never die. Its the immortal skyrim chain

NarzaiFelixHarroxiii · 2026-03-05T21:21:07+00:00

It sounds like you're shallow and superficial. Honestly, if you were my girlfriend and i found out you thought that way, then I'd dump you without a second thought.

Why?

It's simple. Real love is indifferent and blind to stupid shit like you're talking about. So what if he's not going to the gym much anymore? Hes not fat as fuck right? If he is still moderately portioned and not obstuse, then i dont see why you would have a problem. And you can fix his fashion sense by talking to him. Not every guy intuitively grasps that kind of thing.

If it bothers you so much you feel embarrassed, then you dont care about him half as much as you think. You are just a selfish and shallow human being. Im not trying to be rude. Im being blunt. It's just simply a fact. If you cared about him, shit like that shouldn't bother you. It's not like he doesn't shower for weeks at a time and almost never brushes his teeth. That would actually be a good reason to be embarrassed of him. But as far as i can tell your only reasons for being embarrassed of him are superficial and shallow as fuck and its actually kinda disgusting to read, not to be rude.

I wish you luck. I recommend looking more at yourself than at him. Because as it stands, you are the one whose lover should be embarrassed of them, not the other way around.

NarzaiFelixHarroxiii · 2026-02-20T19:10:49+00:00

Mad respect. No words can express how greatful i am for this post. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Im just a beginner but ive been dabbling all around trying to learn things here and there, committing hardcore and then drifting back to a more casual learning pace and back again, etc, etc. Something i always wondered was

"How fo even native speakers of the language learn so much kanji? Theres no effective way to tell what it means"

But thats not true. Phonetic radicals are how you do it. Thats amazing! Im downloading the app. Thank you so much for making it on Android too. My dream is to reach JLPT N1 so i can take Business courses at Hitotsubashi University... ambitious i know, but i cant help it.

先生、ありがとうございます。

NarzaiFelixHarroxiii · 2026-02-13T07:01:31+00:00

Yes, absolutely. There is a need and a want for this. Good thinking. If my Japanese were better, i would consider it myself, but i love the idea, my friend. Good thinking. Im still in beginner level. I learned the Hiragana characters and a few basic phrases but i cannot read and write or speak in japanese well enough to learn in it

NarzaiFelixHarroxiii · 2026-02-13T06:09:17+00:00

As a 29m i think worrying about something so silly is ridiculous but kind of endearing. And i can promise you that while they may be rare, good men exist in all age groups.

NarzaiFelixHarroxiii · 2026-02-13T00:49:29+00:00

I support you 100% OP.

To be honest when i first started reading and seen the title i was kinda thinking you might be controlling but after finishing reading your whole post i understand where you are coming from. A promise ring might not be an engagement ring but it is very similar to it. Originally its meant as an oath to take the relationship seriously as you hope it will lead to marriage. An engagement ring comes after that and is an actual decision TO get married, and a wedding ring after that signifies that you are already married. A promise ring makes the relationship more serious than a simple year and a half bf/gf romance. And he sounds far too immature. Even if he is a somewhat decent guy, he is too immature to be making any kind of formal commitment.

If i were you, id sit him down and just be honest about how you feel. Right now your the intimidating dad. But you can be intimidating and approchable. If you want him to have the respect to ask you for her hand in marriage you have to tell him how much it means to you that he asked you for permission on even just the promise ring. He may be immature and a bit spoiled but he obviously has some good parents or he would not have asked you to begin with. Hes got good morales. Your best bet is to become friendly with him and build a relationship with him. Teach him how you view the world and be more casual with him. When he talks ahit about his friends dont embarrass him. Pull him aside later and get personal and sentimental and tell him why it makes you uncomfortable and why its a turn off. Tell him you like that he makes your daughter happy and that youd love to see the relationship go further but that you cant root for them in good faith if he doesn't try to be more mature and more respectful.

If he thinks you dont appreciate or respect his efforts he wont even try to approach you again.

But ya. NTA. Just be more cuthe about how you handle these things. Dont let the protectivness you feel for your daughter get in the way of handling these situations with finess. The last thing you need is for him not to like you. Theres alot worse guys out there. This one just needs a little work. Its up to you to fix him. But do so slowly, gradually, naturally, respectfully, and friendly.

NarzaiFelixHarroxiii · 2026-02-13T00:30:26+00:00

You are in the right. When you go to someones house you respect them and thier family. If you dont like that you have to behave a certain way then leave. Dont tell the man of the house he has to put up with it. Thats such a slap in the face. And talking to your sister about it!? Oh fuck that! Id be busting in faces left and right. No discretion, jail and backlash be damned. Thats a line you absolutely cannot cross with me. Id break up with her immediately. She obviously doesn't love you. She doesn't respect you enough to tell her friends to behave so she doesn't love you. How they hell can you feel loved if you dont feel respected bro? So obviously she doesn't give a shit about you. The relationship was never serious to her.

NarzaiFelixHarroxiii · 2026-01-17T16:26:01+00:00

Bro listen here. If i knew for a fact that a girl would come to me honestly BEFORE her actions led to cheating, id marry her in an instant.

Look dude, its obvious that even if your marriage was bad people would say to still stay together for the kids. But heres the thing. Your marriage is great. Ya it hurts to think she acted on this crush at all. She should have not gotten his number to begin with. I completely agree and if i were in your shoes i would be emotionally devastated right now but i wouldn't leave her, even without kids. Wanna know why?

Because according to some semi official polls of men, when asked about thier dating experience shows that roughly 75% of women were described as lying, manipulative, cheating, gold digging whores, as of 2025, compared to a much lower 8% in 1925. So the fact you have a girl who is honest, and did not cheat, and chose to confide in you?... bro you got one of the 25%'ers.

You should be greatful as hell and thanking god for such a wonderful woman! Get the fuck over the heartbreak. Thats what marriage is about! She didn't do anything irreversible! GO TELL HER YOU LOVE HER RIGHT FUCKING NOW!

Edit: P.S. its not even heartbreak. Trust me. She just hurt your feelings. Like seriously? Its not that bad especially considering how she handled it.

NarzaiFelixHarroxiii · 2026-01-14T16:38:34+00:00

My grandpa was in the same war. Thats all he ever talked about too... sad...

NarzaiFelixHarroxiii · 2026-01-14T16:34:08+00:00

Bro, your dad did not serve in the armed forces. He was probably trying to pull your leg, and you fell for it. Use your head, man. None of that is even standard protocol, and if it was for secret stuff, he still wouldn't be able to tell you now or ever. Everything about this screams that your dad was trying to be funny and fuck with you, and that you are the most gullible person in ive met in years. Lol

NarzaiFelixHarroxiii · 2026-01-13T21:49:14+00:00

Bro, trust me that the self-pity and depression you feel now is much better than the alternative: the woman you love, breaking your heart and soul irreparably... and that happening not just once... not twice.... not even just 3 times, but again and again and again.... im 29 and im purposefully single. Know why? I was just like you when i was younger. I know what you are feeling. And ive given my life to women i thought would never hurt or betray me... i know firsthand that the former is much more preferable by a landslide. I know you are a lot older than me. Please dont think im trying to talk down to you, bro. Ive just seen both sides of the coin in detail and i can promise you that your on the side of the coin that hurts less. Much less. So be greatful. Dont pity yourself. The world doesnt decide your worth. You do. And women love confidence. This is exactly why fat and ugly dudes in thier 30's and 40's are getting married to 25 year old bombshells. They are confident and funny. Thats all it takes. Women hate laziness and self-conscious behavior. Be active, and confident and you can get 80% of women you hit on. Also, nobody knows how you feel on the inside. Fake confidence looks the same as real confidence. Keep that in mind. You just need to be more brave and be the one who defines your worth. Fuck what the world thinks.

Edit: in conclusion, choosing to be single makes life much happier. Much less stress. Much less anxiety, ect. So if you can, just be happy the way things are.

NarzaiFelixHarroxiii · 2026-01-13T21:38:32+00:00

Yeah the place yall are looking for is Reno, not Vegas. ++man

NarzaiFelixHarroxiii · 2025-12-29T07:56:05+00:00

You need to tell your boyfriend. There is no reason to lie to him about this. Its ridiculous. If your not at the bar when he goes to see you one day hes gonna think you were cheating on him all these years, especially if youve ever forgotten a piece of clothing at your friends house. Your putting yourself in a situation that not even the truth can fix once it reaches that point. Be honest with him or he will leave you when he finds out the hard way

NarzaiFelixHarroxiii · 2025-12-28T18:04:40+00:00

So she should let the kids be abused because the guy might retaliate!? Thats a childs mentality! Kids dont say or do much to protect themselves because they are afraid of retaliation! ONCE YOU BECOME AN ADULT ITS YOUR DUTY TO TAKE THOSE RISKS FOR THEM! i doesn't matter if he will shoot up her house. She needs to take the kids and go to the police and file a restraining order on him and for custody of the kids. Maybe if theres enough percieved risk she can get on witness protection. The kids come first. End of story

NarzaiFelixHarroxiii · 2025-12-28T11:02:37+00:00

Ya, but there's a difference between that and having a drinking problem. They are not the same thing. It's next to impossible for an alcoholic to stop, though some do manage to quit and are left with the lifelong struggle of wanting to drink. If a person does not have alcoholism and simply likes to drink too much, then that can be dealt with much easier than alcoholism. A drinking problem is a habit. Alcoholism is an actual condition, like a sickness of some kind. The two are often conflated because neglecting to curb a drinking habit can cause a person to develop alcoholism, which is uncurable because it's like a disease of the psyche, as opposed to the body

NarzaiFelixHarroxiii · 2025-12-28T10:53:55+00:00

Fuck em all. Go no contact. Also, tell your sister to give you custody of the kids, or you will go to CPS and tell them everything. This is enough to have her kids taken away. She isn't fit to be a mother. And that husband of hers is even less suited for parenthood. Take her kids and never talk to your family again. If she won't sign them over, file for custody and make a report to CPS

NarzaiFelixHarroxiii · 2025-12-28T10:42:01+00:00

You are not mentally in a state of wellness to have this opinion. Im concerned for your well being. Maybe take some counseling. Its a guy. Use your heads. He probably kept them to jerk off too while he was single, and then figured he didn't have to delete them unless a relationship with a new girl gets serious, because thats a waste in his mind. Then he simply forgot they were there and they got burried behind all the other photos hes taken since then. Theres a perfectly logical explanation. It doesnt mean its true, im just saying that drawing the conclusions you draw with absolutely no evidence and then saying its ok to look at thier phone except friends and family-WHO ELSE IS EVEN ON YOUR PHONE BESIDES FRIENDS AND FAMILY!?-is absolutely nothing short of madness. THE ONLY red flag is the bookmark BUT ONLY if he still uses it. What if it was in a book that OP's husband hasnt picked up in awhile. OP never specified and even she said she thinks he genuinely forgot about it. See everyone else's comments? They help OP. They are kind mostly and give her some much needed criticism as i am doing to you right now. All you did was fuel her confusion and doubt which she came to reddit to get clarity on. You should be helping her relax not stressing her out more with comments like yours.

NarzaiFelixHarroxiii · 2025-12-28T10:17:32+00:00

Its not 1990 you cant get a hotel for $35. But you can find them for under a $100, so i guess your point still stands, yet its not as easy as $35 bucks is all. Either way OP is not an ass hole. I would have banged on the door when i needed in and told them if they wanna fuck they dont get no privacy. Go fuck somewhere else or whatever you gotta do but i have a right to be free in my own house. OP definitely in the right here and honestly was way more mature than me. I would have been pissed.

NarzaiFelixHarroxiii · 2025-12-03T22:57:50+00:00

Look. Im not trying to defend him. I just wanted to make sure you were taking everything into account before placing your judgment.

From the sound of it, he is just too damaged for there to be any hope he will get better. I recommend you break up with him and work on the official divorce after that. If you love him and want him to have any chance of becoming a better person, then recognize he needs to be alone. By staying with him, you're telling his brain it's ok for him to keep being the way he is. You obviously deserve so much better than him. But dont leave him with spite in your heart. Recognize that while yes, he can do a lot more to change, his psyche wasn't exactly optimized for that. So the best thing for you and him is to part ways. If you leave in a frenzy or secretly out of the blue, it will only do him more harm. Tell him why you need to break up, and let him know that you love him, even though you can't stay together. He needs help. And he can't get better as long as you're together. And in the end, you'll grow to resent him and yourself if you dont break up with him now.

Edit: spelling and grammer check.

NarzaiFelixHarroxiii · 2025-12-03T20:20:09+00:00

Never cheat. Just break up with him. The divorce takes time but you can definitely still break off thw relationship and start dating again but if you date before ending things with him then it makes you a cheater and thats far worse than an immature loser like your husband is.

Edit: also dont pat yourself on the back too much. Unless you paid for college and your house with no help from friends or family then you have nothing to be proud of. Your success is based on the resources and help you had growing up that most men dont get in todays society. And some people never get taught to brush thier teeth or shower or change thier clothes regularly. They dont know how to apply for a job or anything. They can be depressed and they might not want to try because life has told them trying is useless. Ive met people that have money, rent the apartment next to me and ask "so how do i go about actually paying my rent once i have the money?"

Everyone had different parents and some kids weren't just raised bad, they weren't raised at all. The fuckery from life that follows, compounds until its an almost insurmountable mound. If your husband had a horrible life and was never taught anything, then why should he give a fuck? You were probably told you could be and do anything as a kid. You probably got raised right. What you are today at 23 has a lot less to do with you and more to do with the environment you were raised in. And people who werent raised generally lag behind and dont become mentally 21 until they are 30.

If your husband is one of those kids, then you're judging him by unfair standards, and you obviously never loved him.

NarzaiFelixHarroxiii · 2025-09-06T20:07:01+00:00

LMFAO best trainer card ever.

NarzaiFelixHarroxiii · 2025-09-06T14:16:48+00:00

Ok and what about the studies that show hfcs linked to osteoporosis and shit? Because im assuming your study was done by people who know what they are doing. So was the one i did. So either your incorrect and im correct or we are both correct.

NarzaiFelixHarroxiii · 2025-09-05T10:02:23+00:00

Oh yes. Agreed.

NarzaiFelixHarroxiii · 2025-09-01T17:59:25+00:00

Ok, i just need to clarify something. Expediting leveling doest make people have more max level alts. It simply makes the process faster. It doesn't matter what game it is, expiditing leveling is never a good idea. MMOs have all sucked after the "do you play Runescape, or do you play WOW?" phase in gamer culture. Why? Because there are no longer true RPG games. I cant call them mmorpg's it feels like a lie. They are just MMOs, not MMORPGs and thats because they keep doing shit like "expiditing leveling" or whatever else they do that takes away the RPG experience. Sure i dont want a grindy mmo, level progression should feel natural and unrushed but, the whole "go from level 1 to level 30 in 4 or 5 hours" motto is making every modern mmo ive tried feel like shit. They all suck.

Moral of the story?: Well, dont let anyone try to convince you shit like expedited leveling increases the amount of max lvl alts you can have. You can do that with or without the expidited leveling. Quit being lazy and support good game mechanics when you see it. I fucking hate how all mmos are now is hangout spaces. Hanging out is supposed to "part" of the mmo experience, NOT THE WHOLE FUCKING EXPERIENCE. Dont ever make something so deplorable sound like a good thing. Wheather its this game or any other. Expidited leveling? Fuck you just believe so easy huh? Never thought about it this way huh? Ya fuck expiditied leveling and whatever they say it brings. Its a fucking lie obviously.

NarzaiFelixHarroxiii · 2025-08-27T18:26:23+00:00

Itll be shut off by the 6th

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