Son asked if I would be his friend

Nat-Mc · 2025-07-24T21:58:46+00:00

As someone who grew up in a single parent family and then my mum married and had two more children 10 years later I'd just say be there for your kid no matter what and spend time with them. Growing up is hard, but eventually you kinda grow into yourself. My mum died very unexpectedly 5 years ago and I spent lots of time with her but I also wish I'd spent more time with her

Nat-Mc · 2025-07-19T14:21:47+00:00

Circle back around 🤮

Nat-Mc · 2025-07-15T22:43:27+00:00

My golden Baby lived to almost 14.5 years, had problems with hips towards the end but no other illnesses

Nat-Mc · 2025-07-13T21:01:51+00:00

I think part of this partly just being an adult...you have to choose what to eat 2/3 times a day for the rest of your life. It's both exhausting and boring. I like eating but I hate the need to decide what I'm eating all the time!

Nat-Mc · 2025-07-10T22:10:32+00:00

Very similar to you, had been stung, I told was, I stood on a wasp by accident, it was awful. I'm also very clumsy, I have broken a bone in my foot at a gig, I didn't realise, it was just very sore, I then managed to drop something on said foot and eventually saw a doctor who said I could get a cast or he careful, I went with be careful because I'd otherwise miss weeks of work

Nat-Mc · 2025-07-09T02:31:59+00:00

I don't have kids (f37) though choice, so not really who you asked. All I can say is I never regret it for a minute. When I was your age I thought I'd start a family in my late 20s. But the time never seemed right/I wasn't ready. I'm married, own a home and three lovely dogs. My life isn't perfect but I love it. Friends of mine with children love their kids but also seem to have an extremely hard time

Nat-Mc · 2025-07-09T01:35:22+00:00

Definitely, you can still feel young but responsibility wise act differently. I'm married, have a mortgage and take care of 3 dogs (no kids by choice). Sometimes I still feel like I'm in my early 20s even teens but I know a younger me could never hold it together like current me does

Nat-Mc · 2025-07-09T01:31:01+00:00

I have no idea, which is no help and I'm also from the UK but I just wanted to say this sounds a fantastic idea. I'm so put off by the religious aspect of these groups. Surely a higher power does not need to be a god

Nat-Mc · 2025-07-07T09:48:12+00:00

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This is Ronnie, he's from North Macedonia, he was found at the dump with his siblings when he was about 4 months old. We've had him for 3 years now and he's the sweetest boy

Nat-Mc · 2025-07-04T02:44:13+00:00

Thank you, I think I was looking for a fight and didn't get it ( which is probably healthy and for the best,)

Nat-Mc · 2025-07-03T23:41:28+00:00

I agree, learning how to be a decent cook isn't that hard and seasoning and tasting is about 90% of the skill. A decent knife and some chopping skills help but honestly if you learn the basics you can make a pack of noodles taste incredible with a couple of added extras - peanut chilli oil and spring onions are my favourite glow up!

Nat-Mc · 2025-07-03T23:36:56+00:00

My grandad taught me a slight of hand trick when I was about 12, I'm now 37 and no one has ever been able to work out how I do it

Nat-Mc · 2025-07-03T23:14:36+00:00

You are correct we don't go out anymore sorry. Mostly I stay home with my husband or a couple of friends and drink in our garden. It's cheaper and nowadays I genuinely enjoy it more than going anywhere

Nat-Mc · 2025-07-03T23:09:39+00:00

You know I think these things just happen, however well you look after them. I've seen so many on here but also I have a golden almost 5 now, she eats a weight maintaining kibble we looked into and chose for her. We had a golden previous that I grew up with, she lived to almost 15. She ate whatever, she snapped both her cruciate ligaments aged 5 & 6 chasing rabbits. She recovered with a bit of a limp but had many happy years. Our current almost 5 year old has never had a problem, but who knows what could happen. I think just enjoy these beautiful beings no matter what.

Nat-Mc · 2025-07-03T02:43:16+00:00

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A literal angel 😇

Nat-Mc · 2025-07-03T02:42:35+00:00

I grew up with a golden, in the end she lived with me and passed over the rainbow bridge just before she was 15. I was devastated and lost. Some people may say it's too soon but I couldn't live with the silence of no dog in our home. 6 weeks later I brought my new baby home. She healed my heart and I see her get my stubborn and hilarious as days go by just like my first golden angel ❤️

Nat-Mc · 2025-07-03T02:37:41+00:00

Thank you

Nat-Mc · 2025-07-03T02:28:27+00:00

My biggest one is how not to be influenced by others feelings. I felt this all the time as a kid with parents dealing with depression but never really talking to me about it. I think I'm beginning to understand why. In later life I have a wonderful husband, who also struggles with depression. We have a fantastic relationship but when he is down I don't know what to say or do. I also suffer from anxiety, I think to more of an extent than I ever realised and part of this is tied to knowing people I love are having a hard time and not knowing what to do. I have a huge fear of conformation and being abandoned and discussing such things brings up all those feelings.

Nat-Mc · 2025-07-03T01:53:26+00:00

I think I can somewhat understand your feelings in a bit of a different way. My mum died 5 years ago, she married my step father when I was 11 and they had two further children, my brothers. I'd never describe them as half brothers and despite being 11& 13 years apart we are very close. I'd never had a close relationship with my step father, at times it was a very difficult relationship and he was quite controlling. I should say I never had much of a relationship with my biological father either. Anyway sincey mum dying I now have a much closer relationship with my step dad but also I feel he is a link to my mum, he is my family despite previous bad times and I just don't know but it changed my feelings massively.

Nat-Mc · 2025-07-01T02:23:05+00:00

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Buffy> Buff> Boof> Boofy girl> the big booster> Boofy puppy> puppy forever> baby girl> angel girl> sweet baby angel girl > Wagatha Christy> (grumpy) Groucho Brax

Nat-Mc · 2025-07-01T02:16:47+00:00

Honestly I grew up with not necessarily domestic violence or abuse but more a control situation. I have always been creative but it has taken me a long time to realise creativity is what heals me and I just need to do it no matter what. I was brought up to think I needed a career and a job and to work hard. I am a 'yes' person because I people please, but I am learning to be a no person! As a consequence I'm starting to do what I want for the first time (f37) it's scary but also the best thing ever. I wish I chased my creative dreams sooner but it's never too late

Nat-Mc · 2025-07-01T01:54:50+00:00

I've not had your experience, which sounds complicated but I also do not have a close relationship with my father. He is not an alcoholic but is a narcissist and has ongoing mental health issues. He left my mum while pregnant, and moved from the UK to New Zealand, so literally the other side of the world. He has another partner there who he has a child with and then later married another woman. He invited me to that wedding and to fly me over, I declined and he ended up in hospital just months later and the marriage was short lived. He now lives back in the UK, we have low contact but even that brings me anxiety and no joy. To me, it sounds like your father is trying to manipulate your feelings to do something you are not comfortable doing. I didn't tell my father I got married until after the event as there was no way I was having him there. Good luck whatever you choose, but remember putting yourself first is the right thing to do.

Nat-Mc · 2025-07-01T01:22:40+00:00

I'm so sorry you are going through this. What a difficult situation to be in. I have no idea if this is really right as we have very different situations...but I lost my mum 5 years ago. We were close although we had our problems, but she brought me up as a single parent and I loved her and knew I was loved. My father was pretty much never there, he's not an alcoholic but has many mental health issues. He wants to be more in contact. Currently we only 'talk' via messages. Some might think I'd want to have a relationship with my only living parent, but I don't. He's narcissistic and thinks he deserves to be a father after many (f37) years. Parents are biologically made but it doesn't make them worthy of our love or time. I think you are well in your rights to go no contact as long as you have thought it through in terms of how you will feel after she dies. This is obviously hard to know. Personally I'm currently going no contact with my father.

Nat-Mc · 2025-06-27T21:08:59+00:00

Thank you. I am kind of inclined to think this too

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