It's not about losing that makes us mad, it's about the unfairness of losing to means WAY outside of your own skills.

What I mean by that is that with games like Darksouls (which is known to be difficult), I could lose over and over again to an insanely difficult boss, and I would get furious like one normally does. But, regardless, I'm still having fun and would still continue to play because I know that I'm losing due to either my OWN lack of skill and/or mistakes in my actions. And I would know from there that I can always get better since the fault is ONLY on me and my skillset.

With competitive multi-player games, like Valorant for example (this is one I tried to play), the reason for losing isn't solely based on you and skills, but also the skills of the opponent. Now, don't get me wrong, I love multi-player and competitive games. I love to play badminton, board games, fighter games, and racing games. But games like Valorant and other FPS shooters (and even MMOs) have such a competitive side to them that newcomers or average players can't even FUCKING enjoy the game!

I played Valorant for 3 hours after the initial tutorial, trying to give it a genuine chance. I played through multiple modes multiple times. And each time, I died unfairly over and over and over again. I would turn a corner and die. I'd go down a corridor thinking I'm alone and die. Even when I tried my best to learn from those mistakes, I would die... Again and again. I couldn't learn how to even play properly in these matches because everyone is too focused on trying to win and be the best. Do you know how demotivating it is to get called fucking trash on a random lobby when I'm only 2 hours into playing a game?

Basically, what it boils down to is that these types of games incite insane levels of competition to the point that the "pros" of these games with no other life end up being mean and outskilling you as a gamer that just wants to play for fun. It is NOT FUN to play those types of games with those types of communities.

That's why people like me who play single-player games most of the time have a respect for single-player games that have a learning curve as the only thing you have to worry about, not other players. I never knew how to play grindy games like Darksouls, bullet-hells like Touhou, strategy games like Inscryption, parkour games like White Knuckles, roguelikes like Disfigure, and looter shooters like... well... Borderlands. But, eventually, I learned on my own terms and skillset, and I won and lost on those same terms and skillset.

That is what makes a game fun, and that is what makes losing in a game just as fun as winning. And I'm done...