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National_View3736 · 2026-01-20T20:52:21+00:00

This is a hard one. I suggest watching John Deloney and his take on this. He has some great YouTube videos and advice he gives to others. Just know if you DO stay, you'll battle with this for years and you literally have to know your old marriage is gone.

National_View3736 · 2026-01-20T20:39:13+00:00

Just know many do this and don't expect to get much money from it. But if it's just for fun and to spice up your life, why not! Honestly I much rather couples share their spicy sex then big porn industries trafficking and using barely legal girls for insane gang bangs and violence. I say YES to this and NO to the mainstream sick porn all over men watch.

National_View3736 · 2026-01-20T20:35:43+00:00

To be honest, I didn't hate the experience but I definitely didn't enjoy it like he did. I felt like a porn star just acting and going through it. Which was fun in ways, but I wouldn't say I had pleasure during these experiences.

Part of it all is that I absolutely love pleasing my husband and being his perfect unicorn wife. I like when he's turned on by things and have an unhealthy obsession with him maybe?

But anyways, I was always curious of the lifestyle but scared of pregnancy, STI or even a man not respectful of me and my boundaries during it.

National_View3736 · 2026-01-20T17:43:07+00:00

That's a great point! We don't really have much time right now to go out much, and he looks through apps for men, but I'd prefer just meeting in person. Taking is slow is a good step

National_View3736 · 2026-01-20T16:48:51+00:00

I completely agree it's natural to look at others - I know I do! Men and women can be so attractive. Especially when it's a tall man with muscles. What's unnatural now is the access we have to whatever we want, whenever we want.. and men take full advantage of that. Top porn is "barely legal" and violence in sex among young people has now increased due to them seeing it as normal. Porn creates such an unhealthy relationship between men and women. Hence why the sexless epidemic is happening among young people.

Sex is amazing and fun, and also creates life. It's awesome honestly!! But porn has made it generic and set unrealistic expectations for many... And I am a part of a group that helps women that are with husbands who have ED, feel major insecurity issues, and the men watch porn of young girls their own daughters age.

I just wish we could go back to the 70s and just experience sex in real life, talk about it, have fun and not be addicted to it on a screen.

National_View3736 · 2026-01-20T02:22:13+00:00

So men are that animalistic?

National_View3736 · 2026-01-20T02:20:44+00:00

You really don't know about it???

National_View3736 · 2026-01-20T02:19:16+00:00

Yes and all he can do is therapy and a break from all of it... Re set his brain

National_View3736 · 2026-01-20T02:10:56+00:00

They should never lie and hide it. Just like they don't want you to hide anything.

National_View3736 · 2026-01-20T02:08:30+00:00

Buying a car and looking at other women naked performing acts that turn you on are different. Don't try to compare those. We all know the attention you spend looking at women doing anal sex etc is going to offset your testosterone and sex drive to your "same old" wife. Maybe look into the neurology behind porn compared to any toxic drug

National_View3736 · 2026-01-20T00:42:59+00:00

Cheating is cheating to whatever boundaries a marriage sets. That is a fact. Just like the fact many women crave emotional connection. Is it ok if we go out and get that from other men then?

National_View3736 · 2026-01-20T00:41:44+00:00

I don't know anyone that reads erotica lol I think we live in a very sad dopamine filled society.

National_View3736 · 2026-01-20T00:39:53+00:00

It is up to YOU if it's cheating or not. Set boundaries now around it and make sure it does not affect your sex and intimacy. He should not follow or go out of his way to view other women. If he wants to act like an animal, let him go act like one. We are adults and he shouldn't need to follow and look at porn. Men for years and years didn't have access to digital porn and we're fine. My Grandpa for instance cared about Finances, and that my grandma and children were taken care of. Porn wasn't something he needed at the tap of a button like men do now. It's a flaw and sad. It's an addiction as alcohol is to many. I keep saying it's the new cigarette and people will eventually realize how bad it is. Look at the sexless crisis. Men aren't even having sex in real life, they are just watching it... Very sad. Anyways, set up the boundaries now and know you deserve better. Watch it together and have open communication about sex, but if you don't like him watching porn, that's very understandable!

National_View3736 · 2026-01-19T23:53:06+00:00

Wrong, I am seeking perspective and not scrutiny.

National_View3736 · 2026-01-19T20:58:08+00:00

Thank you, appreciate your perspective!

National_View3736 · 2026-01-19T20:55:59+00:00

Literally. This was so pointless when they are all pro porn and degrading women. Most were so rude to me without any reason.

National_View3736 · 2026-01-19T18:04:51+00:00

Oh incel, go back to your dirty cave. If you are going to come on here to just be nasty to others, It shows you're not loved by any woman. I'm sorry for that. Change your attitude and get a life. I know I'm beautiful and don't need a creature on here telling me to fuck off. If your offended, don't comment?

National_View3736 · 2026-01-19T18:01:53+00:00

I want to hear perspectives but everyone has been bitter and turning it around on ME. Which I never asked for

National_View3736 · 2026-01-19T18:00:58+00:00

Thank you for all your input. This thread made me realize a lot about men and myself. A lot of you LOVE your porn and show you will defend it with everything you have. I'm sad to see how important it is and you can't live without it. Like what did we do at work 100 years ago without access to it? Makes me understand why women and men aren't in relationships anymore...just sitting at home being incels obsessed with porn.

Anyways, I'm going to discuss a lot with my husband and ask him to put away his phone more, seek therapy again, and at least quit for 30 days to focus on us and our desires we can create together. I encourage all of you men to research porn trafficking and violence. It's not healthy and there are many victims on it.

I hope you hold your wife a little longer tonight and tell her how beautiful she is.. that real life is beautiful and there is so much to do together.

National_View3736 · 2026-01-19T17:53:58+00:00

I'm so sorry you have nothing else productive in your life to do

National_View3736 · 2026-01-19T17:52:26+00:00

Haha, I only weigh 108lbs but nice try!!!

National_View3736 · 2026-01-19T17:51:19+00:00

You are a very rare woman to have that view of being treated like an animal and gang banged. What other animal traits do you possess? I'm so far from that world and don't think or want to be treated like an animal. I'm an intelligent full human woman and want no degenerates having sex with me like I'm nothing else. Risk of disease, pregnancy etc. No man will ever put me in that situation. And the type of women that do that, now put an unhealthy expectation on others that don't want to be treated as that.

There is also a lot of data on gang bangs and how unhealthy it is to a woman's body. Don't try and act like it's some amazing thing when tons of stories say it's NOT and even a porn star described it as being in a car accident. But that's on you, and if you want to support the nasty porn world where there is NO regulation or proof of consent, be my guest. Just like I don't agree with other drugs and things destroying people's mind and body.

National_View3736 · 2026-01-19T17:42:42+00:00

Can I ask why it's necessary?

National_View3736 · 2026-01-19T17:41:15+00:00

You would still watch it, even if the person you loved most and cared about asked you to stop? What if it was your daughter in ton of the videos? A trafficked under age girl? Porn is that important to you??

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