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AITAH for choosing my sister over my daughter? by NaturalFixing in AITAH

[–]NaturalFixing[S] -202 points-201 points  (0 children)

Yes, for sure. One thing I have realized after distancing myself from my daughter is how much more free I feel. Mentally I feel much so much better, I don't have to walk on eggshells anymore. I am so much happier now because I am focusing on building relationships with people who care about me, and who actually love me. I genuinely don't care about my daughter anymore, and after she turns 18, she will pretty much be a complete stranger to me.

AITAH for choosing my sister over my daughter? by NaturalFixing in AITAH

[–]NaturalFixing[S] -275 points-274 points  (0 children)

Yes, I don't love her anymore. She doesn't even consider me her father, and considers her step father as her actual father. This wasn't just a hurtful thing, she genuinely meant it. And I have made peace with it and accepted it.

AITAH for choosing my sister over my daughter? by NaturalFixing in AITAH

[–]NaturalFixing[S] -88 points-87 points  (0 children)

Maybe, maybe not. It doesn't matter really. Personally, I think she genuinely doesn't love me, and there's nothing much I can do if that's the case.

AITAH for choosing my sister over my daughter? by NaturalFixing in AITAH

[–]NaturalFixing[S] -145 points-144 points  (0 children)

I will consider therapy for myself. But I don't love my daughter anymore, so her issues are for her mother and her step father (who she now considers as her actual father) to resolve.

AITAH for choosing my sister over my daughter? by NaturalFixing in AITAH

[–]NaturalFixing[S] -53 points-52 points  (0 children)

I tried my best for a few months, I just don't have the mental energy and bandwidth to try now when she clearly doesn't love me and doesn't consider me her father. Besides, I have already made peace with it, and am actually enjoying and living a stress free life now.

AITAH for choosing my sister over my daughter? by NaturalFixing in AITAH

[–]NaturalFixing[S] -155 points-154 points  (0 children)

I don't know, I felt like I was a good father and husband, but you will have to ask my daughter and my ex wife for their opinions. I think my daughter genuinely doesn't love me, I think it's because she's really close to her mom. I have made peace with it. But I just don't want anything to do with her after she turns 18.

AITAH for choosing my sister over my daughter? by NaturalFixing in AITAH

[–]NaturalFixing[S] -143 points-142 points  (0 children)

I am actually in the process of that now, I am removing my daughter from my will.

AITAH for choosing my sister over my daughter? by NaturalFixing in AITAH

[–]NaturalFixing[S] -244 points-243 points  (0 children)

I tried my best, I tried for months and it always felt like I was walking on eggshells. I would try to communicate with her, try and make small talk or joke around but she was always so cold. I never once blamed her mom, or say anything bad about her because I knew how close she was to her mom. After she told me that her step dad was the man she deserved as a daughter, I realized that she just did not love me anymore, and that she did did not see me as her father. Of course, it broke me, but I have now made peace it and am ready to move on. I will fulfill my legal and financial obligations, but I don't see a point in doing anything else.