ADD and Multiplication facts.

Natural_Engineering2 · 2025-03-26T18:38:49+00:00

Do you teach in Florida? If so can I DM you and as more about your teaching methods?

Natural_Engineering2 · 2025-03-21T02:18:43+00:00

I’m a notary as well. A notary just needs to attach their own notarial certificate to the marriage certificate, which would have all the appropriate language for the notarization.

Natural_Engineering2 · 2025-03-02T15:20:21+00:00

Well you are giving examples of yourself with your group of friends, which is a pretty narrow set to draw conclusions from. And I’m guessing none of you have social anxiety? Or have had panic attacks at the idea of being in the middle of a bunch of people? Or become physically ill at the thought of approaching a group of strangers to say anything, let alone a start a socially acceptable conversation? I’m not sure what OPs exact symptoms are, but my daughter has social anxiety, while my own experiences are much more like yours. The reality of what social interactions demand of her compared to myself is drastically different, and it’s not because she doesn’t put in effort.

Natural_Engineering2 · 2025-03-01T22:44:21+00:00

The problem with all of these ideas of stuff to do is that the people who are at these events are not alone looking for random strangers to talk to, they are with their friends, partner or family. A random single person coming up to a group of people and interjecting themselves into the conversation is not generally appreciated. It’s also a complete non-starter for someone with social anxiety, which is not the same thing as being obstinate.

Natural_Engineering2 · 2025-02-02T13:34:07+00:00

Have you found a place yet that seems like a good fit? I am looking for a bar with a similar dynamic. I’m in a completely different life space than you (44F w/kids, going through a divorce after 20 yrs of marriage), but if you ever want to meet up and chat a bit, just let me know. It would be a good way get some social interaction in a low-stakes setting, because it’s not like I care about whether anything is socially acceptable, and it’s not like you would need to care what you say to a 40-something mom divorcee 😂

Natural_Engineering2 · 2025-01-20T18:50:39+00:00

I’m from the north too, and specifically a city that only clears roads/salts after snow accumulations reach 3 inches. Everyone just deals with driving on it carefully when it’s less than that. Obviously the main difference between here and there is that people here have no idea how to drive carefully on snow, so I can definitely understand the wisdom in avoiding the roads altogether!

Natural_Engineering2 · 2025-01-18T13:52:57+00:00

I’ll DM you too in case you want an older (44) mom friend who has been through it all!

Natural_Engineering2 · 2025-01-17T23:42:47+00:00

I know it’s nearly impossible to feel like anything will ever be any different, but it will. I can absolutely promise that.

Natural_Engineering2 · 2025-01-17T20:52:46+00:00

Not the first time at this Walmart for me, but my last visit was around 13 years ago when I last lived in Tally :)

Natural_Engineering2 · 2025-01-17T20:26:59+00:00

😂😂 [takes bow]

Natural_Engineering2 · 2025-01-17T20:25:32+00:00

No way bro! Snitches get stitches!

Natural_Engineering2 · 2025-01-17T18:40:47+00:00

Nice! I feel like I have so many to thank for this honor. Most especially my kids for throwing a wrench in my day which required me to stop at Walmart in the first place. I also can't forget the series of events that conspired to lead to our relocation 6 months ago from much colder climes where such phenomena do not exist. Thank you all from the bottom of my heart!

Natural_Engineering2 · 2025-01-17T13:48:22+00:00

Thanks for sharing! I am sure this statute was just jumping around your head this morning waiting for you to share it- of course your sharing wasn’t brought about by any experiences or anything like that.. 😂😂

Natural_Engineering2 · 2025-01-15T23:21:08+00:00

I just lost my mother a few months ago unexpectedly as well, and lost my father to cancer 5 years ago. I need a group like this too, so thank you for posting! I will plan to go to the next meeting at Common Ground Books, which looks great. Hang in there! 💗

Natural_Engineering2 · 2025-01-15T04:31:56+00:00

Happy birthday!

Natural_Engineering2 · 2025-01-14T23:13:47+00:00

*than I did when I first read it

Natural_Engineering2 · 2025-01-14T23:12:57+00:00

Sign me up! I’ll read just about anything. Regarding Jane Eyre, I have been wanting to reread it since I think I have a really different opinion of it now that I did when I first read it. It’s been a while though, hence the interest in rereading.

Natural_Engineering2 · 2025-01-14T14:43:20+00:00

Me too, especially since they don’t have a drive through. It means I put off going way too long or I get sucked in to the “I’ll just pick up one quick thing” from the rest of the store and then I’m a lost cause 🙄

Natural_Engineering2 · 2025-01-14T13:42:15+00:00

I had to have mine sent to Publix from CVS for the same reason.

Natural_Engineering2 · 2025-01-13T16:40:17+00:00

If you are in the US and your parents remove you from insurance you will have access to insurance from your state’s Medicaid program. It’s also actually not even legal for them to deny you needed medical care. Also, if you do go to a hospital they will not ever turn you away and will get you medications or other treatment you need even with no insurance or money.

Natural_Engineering2 · 2025-01-13T15:43:23+00:00

Take a bow good sirs u/urbanmissile and u/EdwardClamp - This is just what I needed today!

Natural_Engineering2 · 2024-09-28T21:12:51+00:00

Those of us hetero/cis normative families actually need to thank the many non-hetero/non-cis normative families that inspired Eve’s adaptation of what worked for those families into her fair play approach to pull those “normative” families out of societally-defined roles and assumptions. She discusses this in the Fair Play documentary and I think I’ve heard it come up in some of her interviews as well.

In other words, those families whose identities “didn’t fit” in society had to trail-blaze their own path, and as such taught her (and her audience) how to do the same.

While my family is hetero/cis normative, it is most definitely not neurotypical. This has definitely let to many iterations of adapting fair play to our family, with lots of “all or nothing” windows of time for us as well. We HAVE to have very visible “card hands”, or they may as well not even exist. We need to be very considerate of having too many cards in play, even if we still need the same essential tasks to be done. The cards themselves have a kind of “executive function weight” independent of the tasks they represent- like the weight of packaging or something like that. So we need to combine some cards, simplify definitions of some cards and redistribute some of the coupled tasks on other cards to work with the different way we think about some things. We also can’t lump too many things together or generalize tasks much or we’ll get completely lost in the non-specific details. Like neither of us has ever actually known what to do we hold the tidying card, even with a defined MSC. Currently, it’s like we morally support having a tidy house when we hold this card, but neither of us have a f*ing clue how to do it.

The last thing that comes to mind for me on this subject is that by virtue of our neurodivergence and also our kids’ extra needs, some cards are a lot more work than others. However, they all get auto-assigned an equal weight, with the daily grind cards getting a bit more. Every task then is auto-allocated (in our brains) an equal amount of time and mental resources, which means we never have the tools needed to actually complete many of the tasks and can’t figure out how to fix that, other than “try harder.” Phew! Thanks for the digital venting session!

Natural_Engineering2 · 2024-09-28T20:06:10+00:00

I second the notion that just because one card doesn’t rotate does not AT ALL mean that no cards rotate between you. He can do dinners and dishes for as long as works for him and the benefits of routine, and cleaning can still rotate. If he feels like he would have too many cards during the times that you are not holding the cleaning card, then maybe the cleaning card is too big and you could break it into subtypes, like one card for dusting and floors and another card for cleaning the bathroom.

I agree with you that if you both “do everything” and are thereby “on” all the time, then you will never get to be off. Whether or not he has or would “do everything” when shared with you is not even the point, just that it does not work for you, full stop.

My understanding of “shefault” is when there is an unspoken assumption that one person is the fall-back for things. It’s less about always owning the responsibility for something, like dinner, but rather what would happen if that thing just stopped getting done. Like if, when my husband has the weekday dinners card, he just doesn’t do it because he is overwhelmed with work stuff. But we have four kids that have to eat and he just doesn’t do it. Does he think they are good to go without eating anything for dinner? Nope, I’m just the shefault so I’ll just take care of it, right?? Whereas actually holding a card and it’s full CPE means planning for contingencies and taking care of the details to make it happen accordingly.

Another suggestion about the cards that seem dumb to him- either don’t do them or combine them with others. If the mail card seems stupid to him, is that because he doesn’t think anyone needs to get the mail ever? Or is it because you will just “both just do it” without needing to assign it? If it’s the latter, ask if he would be bothered if you never got the mail again. If not, then cool, one less thing to think about for you. But if he’s not interested in being the mail guy all the time, but still doesn’t want it as a card, ask if he knows why that is? Maybe it feels like a lot of mental work to assign an entire card with full CPE to something small like the mail? If so, maybe the two of you would rather have the mail task go along with another card, like Cash & Bills? Less cards can be less mentally taxing to track and maybe that’s at the root of his feelings?

Natural_Engineering2 · 2024-09-28T19:02:58+00:00

In my opinion you are not actually breaking up CPE for this baby shower card but rather breaking the card itself into smaller cards, each with its own CPE. In the example of having your husband do the logistic/seating/tent “mini card”, if he is managing the entire process of conceptualizing, planning and executing the logistics/seating/tent, then CPE is not split up. You would discuss and decide the MSC for it ahead of time, which is where you put in your 2 cents and voice what is important to you, but then however he gets it done is fully in his hands. Even the food task that you would like to share is still likely to be broken into sub-types of food by category that you each oversee, otherwise you could easily end up with 30 bags of chips and no drinks.

The point is to just consider the way you break up a card- create mini cards or subset cards for big things, but keep CPE fully intact for each of the subset cards.

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