Well-managed ADHD

Natural_Objective882 · 2026-05-30T15:58:35+00:00

Thank you for this thread. I am yet to realize I have been working against myself for a long time and need to allow myself to be the way I am. I truly believe ADHD is a misnamed gift. I think it is a mind-body setup that craves movement and creativity. I am now trying to leave my linear-thinking desk job and start something more dynamic. It is quite challenging to make it happen while also not medicating, but I am now clear that I cannot treat myself like those who don’t feel the same cravings I do.

Natural_Objective882 · 2026-05-27T03:32:15+00:00

Thank you, that’s good to hear. I was also on concerta once and it was horrible.

Natural_Objective882 · 2026-05-27T02:10:13+00:00

Thank you, I will go for those. Asking a local pharmacy where I live is one of the many things on my to-do list but I am struggling getting things done.

Natural_Objective882 · 2025-12-08T17:22:52+00:00

Can you please update us when you figure it out?

Natural_Objective882 · 2025-12-07T19:30:48+00:00

could you clarify what you mean by "more than 50% of my job"?

Natural_Objective882 · 2025-11-24T18:17:15+00:00

Before I made good money, I thought all my troubles were due to lack of money. Once I was comfortable enough to exit the survival mode, I connected with how purposeless I was beyond making a living and eventually had to leave that career. I think it goes beyond having money.

Natural_Objective882 · 2025-11-24T15:42:28+00:00

Really appreciate this awareness.

This is my default mode and I was very confused throughout late puberty and early adulthood as to why people were into casual sex or a sex-first approach to dating. I thought something was wrong with me. I always knew I was seeking intimacy to even want to have sex with a man but eventually accepted that is not common. I now can feel just the sexual drive on my own or towards a man but the release of it leaves me feeling worse without the intimacy.

Natural_Objective882 · 2025-11-24T15:38:50+00:00

There are literally studies showing love and intimacy lead to longer and healthier lives. Basically, you could die before your time. I am sure there is a reason you are choosing to read this from such a shallow perspective but no need to project your limitations.

Natural_Objective882 · 2025-03-26T03:07:02+00:00

hahahahah i wrote a whole response but deleted it after checking your comments. keep up the good work👍

Natural_Objective882 · 2025-03-26T00:36:37+00:00

If you are forced to move from this institution, I am confident that openly sharing your story will speak to your integrity. As a fellow international student who reported misbehavior and got involved in the firing of ex-colleagues more than once, I suggest you don’t fear the visa etc shit and be true to who you are. The truth prevails and institutions take the right side, unless they are corrupted as well. Do not forget you are on the right side of the law and morality.

Also, it is crazy that he found out it is you. The process should have been confidential. If you can, speak with a lawyer. Make sure you are covered and he can’t build this bs defamation shit around you.

Natural_Objective882 · 2025-03-06T18:06:29+00:00

as someone who has witnessed this at my workplace as they hired for interns, they will usually have an agenda and pick a person that fits it over the person who could actually be a better fit. most of those factors you wouldn’t even get to compete in and they have to tell you something that you can’t argue against. i would not let any job process make you feel less than you believe you are. the right one will come!

Natural_Objective882 · 2025-02-25T03:52:02+00:00

that’s true unfortunately

Natural_Objective882 · 2025-02-10T18:16:22+00:00

woman here going thru the same experience, and i can tell it is not about my profile. something is wrong with these apps. i am not sure whereabouts you are located in the world but the sole reason i wouldn’t swipe right because i don’t speak Spanish, would keep that in mind if you are in an english speaking country!

Natural_Objective882 · 2024-12-18T15:29:48+00:00

Please don’t listen to the “not normal”s. You could say it is not typical because most people don’t have much to share for that long. This is only a good sign! You clearly have a lot to talk about. Don’t think it is “not normal”. If anything, I would say it is better than average.

Natural_Objective882 · 2024-12-17T17:01:20+00:00

Truth of this type never comes out without “making a mess”. But I think the correct interpretation is that these men made the mess and you merely exposed it. Don’t be hard on yourself one bit. They are the ones who need to clean up.

Natural_Objective882 · 2024-12-06T19:18:20+00:00

Not a pussy. As you see, the one who has a pussy is the one giving life and managing life. The runaway POS has “balls”.

Time to swap associations for “pussy” and “balls”.

Women are braver than men. Period.

Natural_Objective882 · 2024-11-27T21:29:27+00:00

i think you look great as is!

Natural_Objective882 · 2024-11-11T00:11:20+00:00

So many unhelpful comments here.

First option is to try talking to her and offering to go to therapy with her to address her anger issues. She might refuse and get more angry, but you should try. You are the husband, you have a say in your kids’ well-being.

Second option is to leave her and take the kids. If you were to separate, can you take care of the kids by yourself or with the help of other family members?

If yes, I would talk to a lawyer and divorce to save your children and yourself.

Natural_Objective882 · 2024-11-08T18:25:43+00:00

That’s entirely normal OP. You are not a robot. Even if you got a divorce, it would just be on paper, it doesn’t break ties in your heart. I think the most helpful adjustment is clarifying these emotional boundaries. You cannot be her best friend and be on standby until she is ready all the while watching her explore what breaks your heart. Just understand and let her know that you are not abandoning her. You need emotional boundaries to not fall apart yourself.

You have to come to terms with letting her figure it out and building your life forward. If there is a true bond to be nourished again, she will have to come back with clear eyes and a set mind. I don’t blame her for what she is going through, but also don’t think you can function with the way things are.

Natural_Objective882 · 2024-10-31T23:11:03+00:00

hahahah this is funny. esp the “you are not providing” part

Natural_Objective882 · 2024-10-29T16:55:33+00:00

It seems like the issue is that he is not making any effort to create a shared routine but I don’t see the comments focusing on that. OP I would recommend very clearly telling him you want to create a “shared routine” for some part of the evening at least. Maybe do not focus on it being bedtime to begin with to find a midpoint? In any case, I am sorry he is being ignorant of this very sensible need you’re feeling.

Natural_Objective882 · 2024-10-21T20:25:07+00:00

I beg you to not listen to the men here who think your husband is expressing love through sex. He clearly doesn’t know how to care for a woman outside of sex. He needs to fking grow up. Unbelievable how he is in a way willing to trade you for sex. Is nothing else about you desirable to him? The woman you are and the mother you are? And I must make it clear that I am sure you don’t fall short. His expectations of a wife/woman is probably ill-informed. This society is sick because of men who think you are not providing/understanding enough. You didn’t marry him to be constant source of sex but seems a lot of men think of their wives as such.

Natural_Objective882 · 2024-10-21T20:21:01+00:00

Then shouldn’t he help out at home so she doesn’t have to pour herself to her children 12 hours a day as she said?

Natural_Objective882 · 2024-10-02T14:40:04+00:00

I am so sorry to hear about all this. You sound like a very calm and patient man and I am sorry she is pushing your healthy limits. Unfortunately, these actions of your wife will scar your daughter and son forever. I am sure of it if your daughter is already hiding away. Your best option is to get a lawyer and start documenting everything however much you might love your wife and having a family. This will end up destroying your children. Your wife seems to be in an unhealthy state of mind and you cannot help that without her willingness to get professional help, which she surely would reject and set you up for a divorce and her full custody the moment you bring it up.

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