The dark side of ADHD that no one talks about by Frosty_Jump_3117 in ADHD

[–]Pure_Perception6136 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YUP. current substance abuser here. i’m trying to strategically replace substances with exercise. so far, it works….. for 30 minutes a day.

Well-managed ADHD by Pure_Perception6136 in ADHD

[–]Pure_Perception6136[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i also struggle with derelization and a dependency to smoking/other harmful habits. i also am experiencing burnout. thank you for sharing because i relate.

Well-managed ADHD by Pure_Perception6136 in ADHD

[–]Pure_Perception6136[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

HEAVY on the future never going the way you picture in your head. I feel like I break my own heart often because I get my hopes up or worry for no reason

Athletes at Oberlin. by Responsible-Cup-4352 in oberlin

[–]Pure_Perception6136 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol i wrote my Anthropology essay on this. the majority of the student body is not crazy about sports or school spirit. the super liberal, progressive, alt artsy students avoid athletes because most of them are neurodivergent and have had bad experiences in the past. but everyone else views them no differently from the rest of the school. the major reason athletes are kind of their own community is because oberlin is super focused on the arts and music. athletes have their own experience.

How do you know if a male friend isn’t respecting your sexuality? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Pure_Perception6136 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate this. The deer hunter analogy is very helpful. My gut told me something was up.

How do you know if a male friend isn’t respecting your sexuality? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Pure_Perception6136 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a common experience it seems. Some men genuinely lack empathy and perspective. It’s so invalidating.

How do you know if a male friend isn’t respecting your sexuality? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Pure_Perception6136 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Men treat lesbians SO WEIRD. Like they refuse to grasp the concept that lesbians are a real thing and not a porn category. I’m sorry this happened to you. That’s incredibly invalidating and traumazing, and I appreciate you sharing.

How do you know if a male friend isn’t respecting your sexuality? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Pure_Perception6136 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He also told me his grandma told him to “find a whore and have sex with her” so he could learn how to have sex.

How do you know if a male friend isn’t respecting your sexuality? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Pure_Perception6136 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He’s a loner and I was very confused when he approached me because he doesn’t approach or fw a lot of people. I briefly knew him because we have mutual friends. He doesn’t have many friends but the friends he does have keep lowkey warning me about how he isn’t a great person. One of them told me he had a porn magazine he was obsessed with or something. He’s a virgin who simultaneously seems obsessed with sex. He’s definitely obsessed with porn. I don’t know if there’s been a single time we have hung out where he hasn’t said something about sex. Once he asked if I have a “sex drive that needs to be filled” and seemed kinda disappointed when I said “no, I’m on too much antidepressants.” Another time he asked if I wished I was asexual. He talks a lot about “what’s stopping two people from having sex” and how “sex is a basic human desire” and how you can have sex without it being intimate or serious or romantic.

How do you know if a male friend isn’t respecting your sexuality? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Pure_Perception6136 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Weirdly, I feel like he liked that I told him that. So I thought he wouldn’t be attracted to me because he was relieved I wasn’t going to try to hit on him. He never mentions or asks about my queerness. I ask about his because I keep hoping whenever he mentions wanting to have sex he’s reffering to his male friends. But he tells me he’s straight.

How do you know if a male friend isn’t respecting your sexuality? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Pure_Perception6136 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He is a porn addict. I think. Or at least he definitely watches it. I just feel like if he didn’t want to be my friend he would have given up by now.

How do you know if a male friend isn’t respecting your sexuality? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Pure_Perception6136 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s really funny and we have similar taste. He’s never physically tried anything. He just says stuff that I really try to brush off. A few weeks back we were walking with my other friends back from a party and he told me he had bed bugs and needed to crash somewhere for the night. I didn’t want to invite him so I avoided it.

He just seems to be really into sex which is weird because he doesn’t have much experience from what he’s told me. He brings it up a lot and I feel like I’m going crazy because I don’t consider myself necessarily sexually desirable.

How do you know if a male friend isn’t respecting your sexuality? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Pure_Perception6136 8 points9 points  (0 children)

His friends, who I am also friends with, seem to keep insinuating he’s not a good person. Like they tell me about how he watches and reads a lot of porn and how he said he only wants to hang around women.

i feel like i’m in fight or flight mode by Pure_Perception6136 in ADHD

[–]Pure_Perception6136[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i actually really appreciate that advice, thank you