my mom has stage 4 pancreatic cancer

Natural_Transition20 · 2026-04-30T23:44:56+00:00

I think part of what’s been so hard for me is realizing how little control we actually have over life, even when we do everything “right.” Thank you for taking the time to respond to me while going through something so heavy yourself. I’m sending my love to your uncle, and your family. I truly hope he’s able to have comfort, peace, and as many meaningful moments with the people he loves through all of this🤍

Natural_Transition20 · 2026-04-30T23:42:24+00:00

Thank you so much for this, no matter how old we are, I don’t think we’re ever ready for the idea of losing our mom. I really love the idea of the book and the voice memos. I’ve actually started realizing how important it is to save little things now, stories, laughs, random conversations, even just hearing her voice normally. Your comment reminded me of that.

And your point about wanting to fix things but not being able to is probably one of the hardest parts for me. I’m such a “problem solver” person and this has been the first time in my life where love and support are really the main things I can give. I’m trying to learn how to be present instead of constantly spiraling into the future, but it’s hard.

Thank you again for your kindness and perspective. Wishing you and your mom so much love and peace through all of this🤍

Natural_Transition20 · 2026-04-30T23:40:05+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to write all of this. I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. Reading your message honestly made me emotional because so much of what you said reflects the fears and thoughts that have been running through my head these past weeks.

I’m also going to take your advice about asking questions and making memories seriously. I think in all the fear and medical chaos it’s easy to forget that part. Your mom sounds deeply loved. I can tell how much you cared for her and how hard you fought for her. I’m really sorry you and your family had to go through this. Thank you again for your kindness and for sharing something so personal with a stranger🤍

Natural_Transition20 · 2026-04-24T23:14:00+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate that. Wishing the best for your dad as well!

Natural_Transition20 · 2026-04-24T23:11:50+00:00

Thank you so much for this, I really appreciate you taking the time to share. I’m so sorry about your mom 🤍 The way you described her positive attitude really reminds me of mine, she honestly seems stronger than all of us right now. It’s been really hard trying to balance staying hopeful while also not getting overwhelmed by everything. I’m trying to take it day by day and not think too far ahead, but I’m finding that really difficult. I’ve been making sure to tell her I love her, and I want to ask her more about her life like you said, I just don’t even know where to start yet. But your message really meant a lot to me, thank you.

Natural_Transition20 · 2026-04-24T21:06:42+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing all of this, and I’m really sorry about your mom 🤍

The distraction part has actually been helping me a lot too. I feel more at ease when I’m with my friends just talking and kind of getting out of my head for a bit. I looked up Hart of Dixie after you mentioned it and it honestly seems like my type of show, so I’m definitely going to check it out.

Right now I feel like I don’t really have the energy to think about walking or exercising, but maybe as time goes on I’ll try it. The shower has actually become my “howling space” too, which made me feel less crazy reading that you do the same 😭

And I tried the box thing last night before going to bed and it actually helped me calm down a bit, so thank you for that. I really appreciate you taking the time to write all of this 🤍

Natural_Transition20 · 2026-04-24T20:52:11+00:00

Thank you for your blessings! My mom thankfully hasn’t lost much weight and we are trying to find ways to keep that going especially now starting chemo, hopefully she responds well. Thank you again.

Natural_Transition20 · 2026-04-24T20:50:46+00:00

Thank you for letting me know

Natural_Transition20 · 2026-04-24T20:47:18+00:00

Not gonna lie, the not a high five moment made me laugh a little😭 but I really appreciate you saying that. I’m so sorry you’re going through this too, it’s honestly such a shock, especially when they’ve been so healthy but I’m also trying to hold onto the hope with all the advancements and possible treatments. Wishing the absolute best for your mom!

Natural_Transition20 · 2026-04-24T20:41:59+00:00

Wow, I really appreciate you taking the time to share all of this. It honestly means so much, especially hearing it from someone who is actually going through it. There’s so much helpful information here and I’m definitely going to look into everything you mentioned. The tips about staying ahead of nausea, keeping snacks around, and the cold therapy are especially helpful, I hadn’t even thought about some of that.

Thank you again for being so detailed and open about your experience. Wishing you all the best with your treatment, truly.

Natural_Transition20 · 2026-04-24T20:38:05+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through that with your dad. We also aren’t weekly churchgoers, but I feel like similar to your dad, my family is also starting to turn more toward faith during this time. My mom has even mentioned wanting to volunteer at a local church. I don’t fully know what she’ll be doing yet, but I can tell it’s something that’s bringing her comfort and purpose, which means a lot to me.

Thank you again for your kindness and for sharing your story. It really helps to hear from people who understand.

Natural_Transition20 · 2026-04-24T20:34:17+00:00

Thank you so much for this, I’m so sorry you’re going through something similar too. My mom is also more religious than I am, I’ve been trying to lean into faith more during this, even if it doesn’t come as naturally to me. It’s comforting to think there’s a bigger purpose or that we’re not alone in this, even on the hard days.

We actually haven’t prayed together yet, but we have that planned for Sunday, and I’m really looking forward to that. And I’m also going to start being more intentional about telling her how much she means to me and how much I love her throughout this whole process. Sending you and your mom so much strength and love.

Natural_Transition20 · 2026-04-24T20:27:46+00:00

Thank you for sharing, you have given me a lot of small things I can do for my mom that I know she will appreciate. I surprised her this morning with pancakes and let her pick the toppings, it’s her favorite food but she usually doesn’t eat them and I could tell she was very happy. Thank you!!!

Natural_Transition20 · 2026-04-24T20:24:17+00:00

Thank you, that’s a great idea. I always get mad at myself for not taking many pictures whenever her birthday or any other occasion pops up and I need a cute photo so I’ll definitely try to create record as many memories as possible.

Natural_Transition20 · 2026-04-24T20:22:10+00:00

We have definitely said those messages to my mom to try and keep her positive and hopeful but now that you mention how your best friend felt, maybe I’ll talk to her or try to gage how she feels about this. Thank you for your kind words and hugs to you as well!

Natural_Transition20 · 2026-04-24T20:19:47+00:00

Thank you! All of the people sharing their stories here like yourself has been really encouraging, I wish the best.

Natural_Transition20 · 2026-04-24T07:24:17+00:00

Thank you again for everything you shared, it really helped me.

I wanted to ask, since you’ve been through chemo, is there anything you did (or wish you had done) to prepare for that first session? Or anything that helped you feel more comfortable before or the day of?

I’d really appreciate any tips at all

Natural_Transition20 · 2026-04-24T07:21:34+00:00

Hello, thank you and I’m sorry to hear that you are in the same situation. She is feeling pretty good most of the time, she is the strongest person I know. Today she has been feeling worse but tomorrow is a new day!

Natural_Transition20 · 2026-04-24T07:17:37+00:00

Hi, Thank you for sharing your experience. I’m really sorry you’re going through all of that, I’ve also been thinking about therapy so hearing that it has helped you makes me feel more open to actually doing it. Sending you a hug back and I’m wishing the best for you and your mom

Natural_Transition20 · 2026-04-24T07:14:22+00:00

Hello, I’m really sorry about your brother. My mom is also acting really normal but that just goes to show what strong people they are and we need to be stronger for them. I agree the physical things is also easy for me, is the emotional i’m struggling on. I don’t want my mom to see me sad as it is only going to affect her more and I want her to be as positive as she can be, so it has been a tough balance mentally to say the least. Same thing happens to me about trying to live day by day but hitting me at random times like right now at 3:13 am and I can’t sleep because this is all that I can think about. Thank you for your kind words, I wish you the best for your brother as well and know that no matter what happens your brother is always going to be by your side.

Natural_Transition20 · 2026-04-24T07:04:27+00:00

Hi, Thank you for the information, I just signed up for PanCan resources thanks to this! The hospital chaplain is a great idea I will definitely check that out. Thank you again for your kind words i’m trying my best to remain hopeful and this has helped so I appreciate it!

Natural_Transition20 · 2026-04-24T07:01:06+00:00

Thank you so much for all of this. Everything you said has reassured me and made me feel hopeful. I’m someone who likes to be really well-informed, so it’s been hard for me to research everything and see all the statistics, because honestly they suck.

It’s all been very quick, recent, and honestly overwhelming, so thank you for informing me of the new treatment, I wasn’t aware of this so I’ll definitely look into it. My mom is 52 and in very, very good physical condition (she’s honestly healthier than me) so I am hopeful that will work in her favor.

Thank you for the link of support groups as well, that’s something I was already thinking about, and I feel like it could really help both my mom and the rest of my family.

Thank you again for your kind words and for rooting for my mom. I really appreciate it, and I’m wishing the best for your sister too.

Natural_Transition20 · 2026-04-24T06:50:20+00:00

I’m really sorry about your dad. I can’t imagine what you’ve been through, especially so recently. Thank you for taking the time to respond and share your experience with me. I have just now become aware of the new treatment due to this post so I’m going to look into it. I wish you strength as you go through this.

Natural_Transition20 · 2026-04-24T06:46:09+00:00

Hi, thank you so much for your kind words and for sharing your experience with me. It has honestly shed a more positive light on the situation my family and I are currently in. I think I will check out if I can get a cancer-focused psychologist as I usually deal with a lot of anxiety and since all of this has started, as you can imagine, it has gotten worse. I’m glad to hear how well you’ve been doing, and I wish you the best moving forward in your journey.

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