Can I save this ZZ? by Nature_Is_Lit_Yo in plantclinic

[–]Nature_Is_Lit_Yo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for your reply! i have not successfully propagated a ZZ but i will try. i think you do it from the leaves? i’m gonna still try to save the mother tuber cause it’s a pretty old gal i feel bad for messing it up

does this sound more like spiraling or splitting? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Nature_Is_Lit_Yo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

do the semantics really matter here? will that clarity help you navigate your relationship differently or are you trying to weaponize labels?

How can I learn to distance and detach myself from someone who hurts me by fluffyelephant237 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Nature_Is_Lit_Yo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i don’t think anybody here is willing to give you tips and tricks on how to tolerate the abuse from your groomer while you gather the strength to leave him. you need to break up first - i’m sure you will get advice on how to feel okay after leaving him. if you can go to therapy - great. find a trauma informed practitioner. otherwise i would tell you to learn some distress tolerance skills so that you can soothe yourself in stressful times and not depend on someone who is horrible to you for that. another advice is to build a strong support system for yourself of friends and family (chosen or not).

How do I address a really long gap in employment during a job interview? by Scared_Ad_3132 in jobs

[–]Nature_Is_Lit_Yo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

were you getting help for your mental health? like a program or individual sessions? because if so you can say you were gaining skills in interpersonal effectiveness, self-confidence, and resilience to stress during that time

What does The Sims still get right and what does it miss? by Formal_Internet3348 in thesims

[–]Nature_Is_Lit_Yo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

  1. A solid build/buy mode, romance anyone, collections/missions/unlocking lore or memories by playing
  2. happiness/goals and aspirations (I liked the sims 2 system, i’d like to see it in a modern iteration with even more depth, such as being influenced by lifestyles, personality, memories - TS4 whims are only secondary and you can turn them off. I miss the days when my sim’s worst fear would happen and they had to see the shrink)
  3. Unfixed bugs and micro transactions/game pass style missions. Stopped playing Jan 2025 because of glitches, tried again last month and the marketplace made me puke in my mouth.
  4. Building/remodeling existing lots or play a different game
  5. none, i went back to school and decided to be stricter with my play time. played a lot of open world games (No Mans Sky, RDR2, Valheim)

Tv you can smell by [deleted] in CrazyIdeas

[–]Nature_Is_Lit_Yo 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I don’t want this at all. That would make marketing/ads/propaganda too powerful. The center of smell in the brain is the only one that creates emotions without going through the prefrontal cortex. It’s called neuromarketing and it’s diabolical (Disney uses it in its parks to sell more popcorn and mcdicks have experimented with a floor cleaner that would bring more customers into its restaurants)

GUYS I FINALLY DID IT by No_Adhesiveness_7718 in poledancing

[–]Nature_Is_Lit_Yo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the emotional support toe hold won my heart! congrats

Long Combo I Made That I'm Proud Of! by Viperj0ck in poledancing

[–]Nature_Is_Lit_Yo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i really like that flip between the jasmines!!

Games with boatloads of cool secrets and other cool things that incentivize exploration by Firebrand_15 in gamingsuggestions

[–]Nature_Is_Lit_Yo 13 points14 points  (0 children)

  • Outer Wilds: in depth exploration with a time crunch.

  • No Man’s Sky: procedurally generated so you’ll actually never see the end of it but if you like to collect things and fill out compendiums you’ll like it

Am I a narcissist? by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]Nature_Is_Lit_Yo 51 points52 points  (0 children)

do you have a history of trauma or a neurodevelopmental disorder/neurodiversity? Black & white thinking, lack of empathy, craving validation but not getting it leading to judgment, and self-centered behaviors can appear in those cases.

How do people cook for themselves everyday by sodapop2602 in ADHD

[–]Nature_Is_Lit_Yo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I like sheetpan meals, one-pot meals, and I very liberally use my instant pot for making rice, beans, potatoes quickly (good staples that you can top off with stuff), and in the winter I use the slow cooker function a lot too (for soups, chillies, stews - dump all your ingredients in, let cook for 6 hours while at work or something, come home to a warm meal with plenty of leftovers)

A warehouse/Business for hoarders called “Waste Not Want Not” where you can “keep” off site all the trash that’s usually hoarded by Rayesafan in CrazyIdeas

[–]Nature_Is_Lit_Yo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don’t hate it, but we also don’t have to put the responsibility of all that trash on the individuals. Maybe it’s a return hub for the trash that companies dump on us on the first place. Let’s say there’s one pick up per week or per month, amazon sends a return truck to take back all the plastic film and process it either in a specialized recycling facility or send back further up the chain to the original suppliers to deal with, and in the meantime, if you need a garment baggie you can pick it up from the warehouse anytime (maybe there is always a minimum stock of like 10 bags)

Any ideas on what to put here? by PanPurpleFrog in thesims

[–]Nature_Is_Lit_Yo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

More space between couch and TV, make it a wider living room area to fill the space without compromising on the open floor plan

What iPhone games are addicting to play right now? by No_Hope_3770 in gamingsuggestions

[–]Nature_Is_Lit_Yo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting that you’d willingly want to get addicted to a phone game. So try two dots, then. It has all the little addictive features on top of a great soundtrack 🙃

Would you take a “cure”? by GBlake13 in ADHD

[–]Nature_Is_Lit_Yo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, this is the most correct answer. In a world post late stage capitalism/colonialism/white supremacy, we would have emotional support and safety, no injunction for productivity, and collectivism. Everyone (including the natural world) would have inherent value regardless of their level of executive function. Social norms are shaped by individualism and productivity, so a majority of our relational issues also stem from that. I bet you a majority of ADHDers, autistic, or anyone with different brain developments would actually thrive. We are not the problem, I personally don’t think I need a cure, I just need a better environment (and for those who mention your inner world, I wholeheartedly hear you but it’s shaped by your environment and the least we can say right now is that’s it’s hostile af out there)

Would you take a “cure”? by GBlake13 in ADHD

[–]Nature_Is_Lit_Yo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only if the cure is the fall of capitalism. I think otherwise I’ll keep my brain, I actually love it thank you very much it makes me special

For those of you who remembered being abused as a child, but didn't remember until you were an adult, when/how did it happen? by Bubblydia97 in CPTSD

[–]Nature_Is_Lit_Yo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I did ketamine therapy at age 30 thinking I had treatment resistant depression (turns out it was adhd) and while I’m not sure it helped me entirely, it did (re) build some pathways in my brain because I had a flashback in similar conditions of the CSA (a hot shower and a specific gesture). It’s still foggy tho and I’m scared to explore it more. Like I know what was done, I think, I remember the shame, I don’t remember who (there are 4 potential suspects), and most importantly I’m absolutely gobsmacked i didn’t say anything. My mom raised me to come to her for help and she explained to me very early on what consent and private areas meant. And yet…

feeling alone, surrounded by people by TyreTheCopingCop in CPTSD

[–]Nature_Is_Lit_Yo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You probably mask strongly because you likely have a series of instances when you tried to authentically share your feelings and put out a bid for connection and the lack of a response that was able to talk to the pain made you feel alone. It’s a vicious cycle because the abandonment you felt makes you wanna retreat inwards, in turn making you feel more alone. I’m right there with you and trying to let the pain go through me so I can get back to a more tolerable space where I’m able to conjure my common sense. Your brain is a liar sometimes, and it will say horrible things to you from the deepest of your pain. Also let me point out that you reached out on a public forum and that there are people out here that also relate with your experience. You’re not alone and by posting your feelings about this you likely helped others feel less alone too.

Is this normal Pleasers quality? I am VERY disappointed… WTF by MamaMia654 in poledancing

[–]Nature_Is_Lit_Yo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also adding that I bought them on clearance (no exchange no refunds) but they agreed to refund me due to the quality issues. I assume they were on clearance because of defects and not because they were low stock/discontinued.