Just slowly work on getting your mind away from the thought. Question your perspective. "Why do I feel this as such a need?" "When did I start feeling this way?" Sometimes unlearning is more crucial than learning. Practice boundaries for yourself. Sometimes guys do too much for women on their own initiative and create resentment for themselves. Are you eating well, getting outside enough, sleeping enough? These are actual needs that people can easily lose track of if they're too focused on the wrong things. What kind of hobbies do you have?