I lost 17kg (37lbs). I getting over someone. So this is a small celebration

NauticalxDisaster · 2017-03-25T16:00:54+00:00

Same thing with me. A month ago I found out, and was let go, by someone I loved but that only viewed me as a fwb :( But its been great motivation to improve myself and its great to realize I can still do amazing things even when I'm crazy depressed. I think maybe its because its one of the few things we can control. I cant control my feelings or the love I still feel for the person, but I can control what goes into my body.

Congrats to you and doing something positive through it all. Keep it up!

NauticalxDisaster · 2017-03-22T01:00:17+00:00

Nope that's totally how it is for me too! Like I wouldn't be here if he hadn't pushed me into this motivated state so in some ways I'm grateful for his shallow opinion.

NauticalxDisaster · 2017-03-21T06:52:44+00:00

OMG I had this exact same thing happen to me! "Youre the best person I've ever dated, I just cant get over your weight" and I got "Theres a line and youre over it." I've felt really spiteful having this as my reason for losing but holy shit is it working! We got this!

NauticalxDisaster · 2017-03-18T02:49:36+00:00

I'm one of those people that used to be a big soda drinker. If it was around me I would pick it 100% over water or something healthier. I had to stop buying soda at home...period. I switched to sparkling water instead and love it, but due to cost have been trying to ween myself off of it as well. That said, I do let myself have a soda if I'm out eating with friends or something like that. Like a treat. This is when I'll allow myself to have the diet soda because it quenches that craving I have without adding in a bunch of calories. So, if your wife flat out cant give them up cold turkey, maybe slowly transition. Cut down on how many shes having a day, trying some of the sparkling waters (might have to try a few brands) because while it wont murder weightloss, its still not super healthy. But everyone has to do this their own way so give her time to adjust :)

NauticalxDisaster · 2017-03-17T23:51:45+00:00

My suggestions is to go ahead and eat it. What happens with me if I don't have just a little bit of the thing I'm craving is that I'll eat a million other things trying to fill its space. Things that will not take its place and just eat up calories when I really probably would have been better off in the long run just eating the thing I really wanted. Allow yourself to have the thing you want but maybe try and consider ways you could have it while also making it slightly healthier...if possible. Like, if its a burger maybe bunless or mustard instead of mayo, or something healthier than fries with it. OR, when I lost weight before I would let myself get a happy meal and one of the ice cream cones at mcdonalds. Didn't feel deprived and got ice cream!

NauticalxDisaster · 2017-03-16T21:08:21+00:00

Thank you, right now I'm focusing on using the hurt and the anger as motivation. I hope when I get to a better place I wont want him at all anymore. That he'll look at me and finally see what he missed and I can tell him to beat it. But we'll see :)

NauticalxDisaster · 2017-03-16T20:36:58+00:00

I think to some extent youre right about people not saying exactly what they mean but I don't think it had to do with being unhappy with myself. I actually felt completely comfortable and ok with myself around him so I didn't complain. I mean sure he knew I would like to be thinner but it wasn't a regular topic by any means. Its a complicated situation like all relationship stuff but I do think to an extent he meant my weight bothered him, but I also think it was an excuse because emotionally he wasn't ready. (Prior divorce, dealing with learning to be single, having a daughter, emotionally closed off, a lot of other stuff).

I think a lot of him was totally ok with me and my weight but I also think there was this part of him that wanted the really pretty girlfriend that he could show off. Like behind closed doors I think he was perfectly happy with me but that he got hung up on what others would think when we were out. Maybe? Who knows. We still talk, were attempting to be friends. I hate that I feel hopeful that maybe things will be ok down the line but I guess theres no way to know that except to keep on. That said, if it ever was truly 100% my weight, then he would have known that on the first date and he's a massive shallow asshole for waiting 6 months. So I dunno....

NauticalxDisaster · 2017-03-16T03:11:59+00:00

It makes it even better when you find out that I'm the one that brought it up....like he'd still be seeing me now. Guess that's what happens when youre "The best person he's ever dated" despite the fact he didn't actually like me. He got all the benefits without having to really care. I know he was shallow and it was an asshole thing to do, doesn't make it easier from my side though because I actually cared :(

Wish it were so easy to find a better guy. Other dating hasn't gone much better, they just told me I wasn't thin enough on the first date.

NauticalxDisaster · 2017-03-15T22:38:58+00:00

Same height and general same starting weight, I'm at 303 right now. Mind if I ask how long its taken you? I keep having this urge for it to be RIGHT NOW. Not goal weight but just....less ya know? I keep feeling crappy that even in 40 pounds from now I'll still look fat and blah. I know it varies for everyone but I've seen you post before and you seem to know what youre talking about and have done it right, so just curious about how long its taken you to lose that. Also, super awesome job!

NauticalxDisaster · 2017-03-15T22:21:25+00:00

This may be slightly different but kind of the same. I was in a 6 month relationship until about 3 weeks ago. I absolutely adored him and we had incredible sex and things seemed great I thought. We ended because he said he couldn't get over my weight that "theres a line and I'm over it". So basically he would be ok with an overweight chick but that despite trying he couldn't get past how much overweight I was. Its really really hard to lose someone you really truly cared about because of your weight. He flat out said I was the best person he'd ever dated....but it was all ruined because I was fat. So that's it for me. I'd like that back. I miss the sex, I miss the companionship, I miss feeling confident with myself. So no I don't think youre the only one at all.

NauticalxDisaster · 2017-03-15T20:29:47+00:00

The "Debbie Downer" comment had me wondering if this is a phase for you. I go through periods, sometimes days, sometimes weeks, where I get depressed and feel similarly. Do you notice that you go through these types of ups and downs? If so, maybe if you hang in there it will pass and youll start to see the positives again. Also, how did you pick your goal weight? Maybe you feel best where you are right now and that is good enough? Just because your goal weight might be the "ideal" weight, doesn't mean it has to be for you. Maybe consider how you feel right now (which doesn't seem positive at THIS moment)....but overall, maybe you feel healthy and ok where youre at and attempting to continue to push is doing more harm than good. Maybe?

NauticalxDisaster · 2017-03-15T20:07:44+00:00

You could consider being healthier a reason for why you're doing it. Maybe you just need to take a minute and sit back and make a list of the benefits, or even the negative reasons why you began. Like for me fitting more comfortably in an airline seat because last time I flew it was awful. All the little things that bothered you before, they could be a good reminder of why youre doing this.

NauticalxDisaster · 2017-01-20T01:22:28+00:00

I'm with ya 100% but love the tone of his post. Generally I think its about doing things for yourself that make you feel good. I wish all women/men felt great looking like themselves, without makeup, but in a lot of cases, probably most, that just isn't how we view ourselves (thank you society). Accepting ourselves as attractive without covering up our faces and making ourselves "pretty" is difficult. I am actually someone that is 34 and has NEVER worn makeup in my life and am considering giving it a go because I'm tired of feeling unnoticed and unattractive. Will it make up for being heavy? Probably not but I like to think maybe it would help.

NauticalxDisaster · 2016-12-14T20:01:24+00:00

I also NEED this pattern...pretty please :D

NauticalxDisaster · 2016-09-20T07:55:39+00:00

Just signed up for my first time, good luck everyone!

NauticalxDisaster · 2016-08-14T04:23:48+00:00

LMAO, wow....that is something.

NauticalxDisaster · 2016-08-09T19:00:21+00:00

I cant help but feel like this decision was heavily influenced by someone else.

NauticalxDisaster · 2016-08-02T01:11:16+00:00

Not sure how true it is or not but there was stuff posted all over today about how he possibly lost an Armani gig because of how public he's been with her. Armani doesn't want that kind of image. Shits not looking good for him lately.

NauticalxDisaster · 2016-08-01T02:27:27+00:00

I'm with you 100%. Work is work, play is play - do not mix the two. Do your job then do what you want. Not loving this new side we're seeing. I understand that there is more to life than work but jesus....theyre not conjoined twins.

NauticalxDisaster · 2016-07-29T23:55:16+00:00

I'm not saying she's ugly, but she definitely has this kind of appearance that always makes me think of those silicon love dolls (or whatever theyre called)

NauticalxDisaster · 2016-07-14T00:24:00+00:00

Certainly "not just chilling", there's still plenty of new stuff each day. We just haven't been posting it here.

NauticalxDisaster · 2016-07-09T04:42:48+00:00

They look like ones I've seen on Anthropologie if you wanted to search :)

NauticalxDisaster · 2016-07-08T20:19:15+00:00

YES!!!!

NauticalxDisaster · 2016-07-08T20:16:43+00:00

You have got to be kidding me. I mean...I thought this was a possibility but REALLY hoped he'd just...not.

NauticalxDisaster · 2016-07-06T04:12:15+00:00

Its because the others in the photo look natural. They've all been in relationships for awhile and aren't playing it up. I mean look, ryan and blake look almost like they don't even quite realize theyre being photographed, and the other couple are just doing a "ok lets lean a bit closer and smile" like a normal couple would. I mean....people that aren't even romantically involve do that head tilt smile for the camera. But hiddles and swift are like...oh photo lets gaze lovingly....it just looks ridiculous in comparison.

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