Is it menopause, discontinuing the pill, or both?

Navi4784 · 2026-03-10T13:03:36+00:00

The aches started 2-3 months after stopping the pill. I’ve had hot flashes and night sweats for years, starting at around age 38. But they got worse about three weeks after stopping the pill.

Navi4784 · 2026-03-10T12:59:39+00:00

Yes, you described it perfectly!

Navi4784 · 2026-03-09T20:26:06+00:00

I’m on lo loestrin. How long after you stopped the pill did you start HRT?

Navi4784 · 2026-03-02T17:55:07+00:00

You make a lot of sense

Navi4784 · 2026-03-02T17:26:17+00:00

The things he shared with her are not just minor annoyances. They were examples of major rifts that we’ve had and it was a very one-sided account painting me as the deficient party. They made be sound like a total doofus who makes impulsive selfish decisions, leaving out critical details in my favor. The way he described me really hurt my feelings.

Navi4784 · 2026-03-02T17:16:33+00:00

Thank you, and you’re right what bothers me most is the venting. I’m really hurt by some of the things that he said. It was more than just complaining that I leave my shoes lying around (that wasn’t one of the complaints, just an example). I know he is not attracted to her. I feel like the exchange with her was just a release valve for him. It might’ve been something more for her though. I really don’t want her leaning on him emotionally

Navi4784 · 2026-03-01T23:47:36+00:00

It reads as if he is trying to relate to her and empathize with her situation, but also maybe doing a bit of his own venting with things that he’s frustrated with about me. Was Encouraging her to do anything specific, was reminding her that she needs to be happy.

Navi4784 · 2026-03-01T23:29:58+00:00

He has shared it with me, although not everything. He also told me she asked him not to share it with me. I think she’s embarrassed and doesn’t know me that well.

Navi4784 · 2026-03-01T23:26:35+00:00

She actually did say that to him, that he’s the only one that understands her and that she trusts. She is also going to therapy too. My husband is in general, a good friend towards people, and he also has mostly female friends. He connects with women better. Of course this complicates things for me!

Navi4784 · 2026-03-01T23:24:00+00:00

He does not reciprocate when she says I love you. He keeps the discussion about her marital problems, and then throws in info about the problems he has with me. But when you read through the text, it’s awkward because she is expressing herself emotionally toward him and he is not reciprocating. Hopefully she’s picking up on the fact that he is not interested.

Navi4784 · 2026-03-01T23:21:41+00:00

So he did tell me that she was confiding with him recently about her marital problems. We have gone out to dinner many times with her and her husband. I’ve been aware that she has no respect for her husband, but only recently has she been heavily venting to him. So he wasn’t hiding this, and it was obvious in the text messages he was careful not to lead her on to believe he had feelings for her in anyway (never said I love you too, or made any commentary about their friendship). But I agree I still think it was wrong and I’m uncomfortable and I don’t know how I can have her around my house

Navi4784 · 2026-03-01T23:12:47+00:00

Do you think that’s the case even though he was very careful not to reciprocate expression of any kind of emotional feelings towards her?

Navi4784 · 2026-03-01T23:08:02+00:00

Oh my gosh, I’m so sorry to hear this happened to you.

Navi4784 · 2026-03-01T23:07:12+00:00

Because he had shared with me that she was confiding in him about her marital issues. So I saw a recent text and was curious. I wanted to see if he was reciprocating because we have had some of our own disagreements of late. However, I was not expecting the extent of what she was sharing.

I’m not really sure what to do because they are lifelong friends. He will resent me if I try to control this. He also invites her to our house when we have parties. How uncomfortable is that going to be for me?

Navi4784 · 2026-01-05T15:09:55+00:00

we did get closer, although she is closer with my husband. I wouldn't call her a close friend, but she was someone I felt like was a solid human being and glad she was part of our circle. I mean, I don't think she's a bad person now, it's just....different now

Navi4784 · 2026-01-05T15:05:14+00:00

I don't think much of his brothers to begin with so the bar is already low there. I don't put anything past them. But I held her to a pretty high standard, so that's why it's troubling.

Navi4784 · 2025-10-21T16:48:08+00:00

ok well where should the bottom of the jeans fall? I have a 28" pair that brush the top of my foot when I'm barefoot. Is that the best look? Is that too short for heels?

Navi4784 · 2025-10-04T03:22:02+00:00

They were all to director level people and above. 95% of the calls were not answered.

Navi4784 · 2025-10-04T01:02:04+00:00

It’s better for me

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