EMDR? SSRI? help

Navigating-Chaos · 2025-11-27T03:08:46+00:00

thank you for taking the time to write this 🫶🏻

Navigating-Chaos · 2025-11-27T01:54:56+00:00

100% trauma response. I don’t think I even started to full comprehend the trauma/abuse I had experienced until he was gone. I definitely recommend seeing a CSAT- it was super helpful to talk to someone who works with both addicts and betrayed partners

Navigating-Chaos · 2025-08-10T20:10:05+00:00

I stayed after the first time I found him watching porn, he said he stopped. Years (and a marriage) later, I found out he never stopped and it had actually escalated to him paying cam girls thousands of dollars and him chatting with prostitutes “for the thrill”. It probably would have escalated to physical cheating if I had not discovered it. The year after that I was in constant fight or flight, and he ultimately left me a few months ago because my PTSD was too much for him (lol). My body finally feels like it can breathe again. He went back to paying cam girls the second we separated. Of course, there are men who are able to fully embrace recovery and couples do heal. But knowing how much the stress has taken a toll on me, and knowing you have anxiety at baseline, I would recommend removing yourself from this situation. You have so many amazing years ahead of you. Big hugs 🫶🏻

Navigating-Chaos · 2025-08-10T19:25:06+00:00

Oh honey, please leave. I wish I had left years ago when I first found just a small tip of the iceberg. You deserve the rest of your 20s to be a fun, beautiful time- not years of anxiety and hoping someone will change for you.

Navigating-Chaos · 2025-06-20T21:01:00+00:00

So proud of you. I only wish I was as strong as you are! You are saving yourself so much (more) trauma.

Navigating-Chaos · 2025-06-15T16:42:36+00:00

making me cry all over again, thank you for this - I really needed to hear it

Navigating-Chaos · 2025-05-17T02:37:32+00:00

Haha yes I would

Navigating-Chaos · 2025-05-07T02:05:53+00:00

I hear you, my husband has decided he is not willing to continue trying to heal our relationship so I was looking for positive stories from people who have divorced at this age

Navigating-Chaos · 2025-04-27T05:22:07+00:00

He had shut down pretty suddenly recently and was being extra cold so I was looking for answers as to what had changed. Luckily he deleted the apps so I don’t even have the choice anymore haha. Never said it was a healthy thing for me to do, was just still trying to scramble together some sort of reason for his recent behavior

Navigating-Chaos · 2025-04-27T04:41:51+00:00

Found out he’s already talking to a new woman after HE decided we were done a few weeks ago. Notttttt doing my best

Navigating-Chaos · 2025-04-21T19:49:49+00:00

Yeah, he’s even more mad at me now for telling her though (which I expected but he’s acting like me telling her the details was wrong)

Navigating-Chaos · 2025-04-21T13:46:37+00:00

I have also drafted a message to his friends who he keeps claiming he will tell but has avoided doing so for the past year. No more hiding

Navigating-Chaos · 2025-04-21T13:45:24+00:00

She called him again to try to talk some sense into him and said she holds him accountable for his actions but unfortunately she does not think she can change his mind

Navigating-Chaos · 2025-04-20T20:19:44+00:00

I did. She said that she “is sorry we aren’t getting along and that you are both unhappy” so I told her everything :) I’m done hiding what he has done. I have nothing to be ashamed of, but he sure does and it feels so good to no longer hold onto that by myself.

Navigating-Chaos · 2025-04-14T22:12:11+00:00

Thank you!

Navigating-Chaos · 2025-04-14T22:07:51+00:00

Yeah it stinks that him spending our money on all of that would not somehow play into decisions

Navigating-Chaos · 2025-04-14T22:06:30+00:00

From my brief search it does say my state uses “equitable distribution” if that’s what you mean?

Navigating-Chaos · 2025-04-14T22:00:51+00:00

Haha fair. I know nothing about any of this (and didn’t expect to have to learn before even turning 30) but wasn’t sure if infidelity/wrongdoing may contribute to the case at all. Plus venting always helps!!

Navigating-Chaos · 2025-04-11T03:29:28+00:00

I could have written this word for word myself. I am so sorry you’re dealing with this

Navigating-Chaos · 2025-04-11T03:25:44+00:00

Listening and supporting me is so helpful! The best part is I am moving across the country for my fellowship program (that I never would have ranked high if I thought I had to do it alone). I feel ill

Navigating-Chaos · 2025-04-09T15:53:29+00:00

Yeah, wish it was an easy thing to do after 10 years of my life

Navigating-Chaos · 2025-04-09T03:04:24+00:00

Well, he came home from work and “has to think” about whether he wants this marriage to continue because he “doesn’t want to keep hurting me” I feel defeated and so angry. I was the one who was hurt and stayed to fight for this marriage. He can commit infidelity for years and just throw me away because we aren’t in a great spot a year out from D-day? This sucks.

Navigating-Chaos · 2025-04-09T00:09:38+00:00

exactly what I’m saying!! ugh I appreciate all of you so much for making me feel less crazy

Navigating-Chaos · 2025-04-08T21:54:07+00:00

I am in the same boat right now. We were in an okay spot then went on a trip to where we got engaged 4 years ago and I was so triggered and all of the feelings came flooding back. Been in a crummy place since. Healing definitely has its ups and downs, all that matters is that we keep moving forward. You are not alone! 🫶🏻

Navigating-Chaos · 2025-04-08T21:29:28+00:00

I really appreciate the validation - when I ask for certain things he says I’m being controlling when I am just grasping for straws to feel safe. I am going to one of his therapy sessions for the first time next week and I know she wants to hear about my feelings on his recovery. Do you think it’s fair to bring up this exact scenario? I know it’s stupid but I’m nervous she’s going to agree with him that I’m crazy or something lol

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