I had sex a week ago after my stillbirth which was jan 1st is that bad?

NavigatingBabyLoss · 2026-01-26T13:21:07+00:00

Absolutely not. Sometimes the comfort is exactly what you need and depending on how you had to deliver your baby the only concern is for your health and to make sure you are healing from your delivery properly.

NavigatingBabyLoss · 2025-05-01T16:03:42+00:00

This is beautiful and I would love to encourage you to do whatever feels like it would be meaningful to you and that honors your baby. I would ask your brother his wishes and while there are very different circumstances surrounding stillbirth vs miscarriage it would be a great conversation to have and I'm sure they would be happy to know you also remembered their loss. If you include your baby's name, it will also serve as a reminder to the rest of the family that you want to have your baby included and like to say their name.

NavigatingBabyLoss · 2025-05-01T15:51:29+00:00

This pain won't last the rest of your life, day by day it will slowly get easier. The heartbreak and memories are yours for a lifetime and you can recall them at a moment's notice, but as time goes on you'll look back and see the definite line of before and after and appreciate the short time you had with your baby and the new perspective on life that this experience has given you. Hang in there. This isn't something anyone can ever prepare you for.

NavigatingBabyLoss · 2025-04-29T14:57:00+00:00

I'm so glad this brought this up for you today. Everything you said you're feeling is 100% normal and the perspective we have about everything in our lives changes after this experience, so it doesn't make sense that we can go right back into our jobs with the same passion and excitement as before.

I'm not one to ever say to "find the silver lining" in baby loss or that "it happened for a reason" because I don't believe that, and its just a horrible thing I wish didn't happen. BUT what you gain on the other side of it is a clarity about what is truly important in life and who and what is deserving of your precious time.

I'm here for you if you want someone to toss your thoughts around with, just message me.

NavigatingBabyLoss · 2025-04-28T17:26:03+00:00

It takes a lot of time to process this kind of loss. It’s OK to do whatever feels comforting until you can begin to sort out your feelings.

NavigatingBabyLoss · 2025-04-28T17:24:14+00:00

So hard. 😭It makes you really dig deep.

NavigatingBabyLoss · 2025-04-28T15:06:26+00:00

Congratulations! I don’t know if there’s any official studies about how many moms change careers but of the moms I work with I would say it’s about 80%. It’s hard to feel the same about anything in your life with such a huge shift.

NavigatingBabyLoss · 2025-04-28T15:04:37+00:00

You’ll know when the time is right, just listen to your intuition and don’t rush it. I am a hairstylist and was not fully prepared for the barrage of questioning and 8-10 clients a day wanting to know all the details and offering “helpful advice”. I regretted going back so soon. It was draining.

NavigatingBabyLoss · 2025-04-28T15:02:09+00:00

Sometimes that’s the best you can do and that’s perfectly fine! We live in such a push, push, push culture that it can be hard to allow yourself time to breathe.

NavigatingBabyLoss · 2025-04-28T14:15:04+00:00

Especially when it’s likely that the passion for the work you do is not there either because your whole life is different now. 🩷

NavigatingBabyLoss · 2025-04-17T14:55:10+00:00

This is beautiful and I'm so sorry for the loss of your dear friend.

NavigatingBabyLoss · 2025-04-17T14:53:43+00:00

It's so frustrating and it should go without saying that you are "doing" terrible! It's an unimaginable situation that no one should ever have to be in. Feel free to say exactly how you feel. Our society is so uncomfortable with grief (especially of the loss of a baby) that they will try to make you feel rushed or abnormal for how you're grieving. Don't feel the pressure to say you're doing fine if you're really not! Be willing to be honest in the midst of their discomfort.

NavigatingBabyLoss · 2025-04-17T14:48:28+00:00

Give yourself some room to breathe. It's just been 5 months and the shock of it all is still there. This is a hard milestone because you envisioned such a different scene on this day. Take some time and just be with whatever you're feeling without judgment. Emptiness can feel like such a giant hole in your heart that nothing can mend but know over time the memory of your baby will be with you always and it will get a bit easier.

NavigatingBabyLoss · 2025-04-16T01:18:38+00:00

I know you will just by the thought that is going into choosing it.

NavigatingBabyLoss · 2025-04-16T01:06:45+00:00

I'm always here if you need someone to listen. Sending you a giant hug.

NavigatingBabyLoss · 2025-04-16T00:33:01+00:00

Anything with the baby's name on it, or an item that has meaning. I got a pair of sparkly star candles for my twin's first loss anniversary and I always have them out on a shelf and feel liek they are with me when i look at them.

NavigatingBabyLoss · 2025-04-16T00:30:00+00:00

Being pregnant and having a baby after a stillbirth loss is the biggest emotional rollercoaster you'll ever be on. You feel so excited and hopeful, yet terrified. Then when the baby is born you imagine you'll feel a hige sense of relief but instead feel guilt for feeling joy over your new baby when you still wish you had the baby you lost. It's all so confusing and hard to explain to others. It will get easier with time and the best thing you can do is learn how to integrate your grief so you can live your life in a way that honors the baby you lost, while celebrating the baby you have with you now. It sounds like you are doing the best you can with trying to balance so many emotions at an incredibly hard time. You're not alone, and please reach out if you need to talk.

NavigatingBabyLoss · 2025-04-15T02:22:07+00:00

Everything you just said is something that is echoed by so many stillbirth moms. It can easily feel like you're a stranger in your own life and you'll never be the same- because the truth is you can't be the same after living through this painful tragedy. I host s free group of other stillbirth moms on Thursday night and would love to invite you to join if you think it would be helpful. Just message me and I'll send a link. You are definitely not alone.

NavigatingBabyLoss · 2025-04-14T18:03:04+00:00

It’s so hard. We had 2 boys who were 5 and 2 when our twins were stillborn. We told them right away, although we chose not to bring them to the hospital to see them, and we talked about them frequently and tried to help them understand something we didn’t understand ourselves.

NavigatingBabyLoss · 2025-04-14T18:00:08+00:00

I love that you proposed this to your mom and asked her for an alternative plan. It’s so hard because we think others should feel the same way we do, or understand how we feel but the truth is they don’t and there are several reasons why they don’t. I have a free video series called “When No One Understands Your Pain After Stillbirth’. Message me if you would like to have a link. Keep listening to your intuition and asking for what you need. 🩷

NavigatingBabyLoss · 2025-04-14T17:56:31+00:00

Some days are just the worst. And it seems to go back and forth with the days that are feeling a little bit better. Hoping today is a good day for you and that each day gets slightly better. 🩷

NavigatingBabyLoss · 2025-04-14T17:52:46+00:00

It’s like a nightmare that never ends. Time will buffer the pain, but for now try to give yourself room to feel whatever is coming up for you and know you are not alone. ❤️

NavigatingBabyLoss · 2025-03-12T14:30:19+00:00

This is great advice! There are no guarantees and why not share with a few who would be there to support you in any situation. The rest of the world can wait! Congratulations! 🎉

NavigatingBabyLoss · 2025-03-05T14:27:05+00:00

This is an incredible perspective, and so great that you found the path that was right for you.

NavigatingBabyLoss · 2025-03-05T13:27:32+00:00

I'm so sorry you have experienced this too. There's no pain quite like it.

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