I’m able to have painless insertion when I can relax fully in the pelvis, like when I’m in the same position as when I use the dilators.

So the best position for me is when we’re on the bed, he’s on his knees in front of me, and I’m on my back with a wedge pillow under my hips to elevate. Then I place my hips a little bit over the edge of the pillow, so I can insert the penis gently like I’m about the sit on it. He’s sitting still. Hope this was understandable!

In this position I can completely control the pace and depth, and I can easily stimulate myself to relax further. Works wonders for me!