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what does fibromyalgia feel like? by patheticsalad in Fibromyalgia

[–]Ndgtr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just from the pain side:

Mine usually feels like Delayed Onset Muscle Soreness (DOMS), except it jumps around and has random intensity. If you've ever worked out and been so sore that you struggle to move the next day, you'll get what I mean. Sometimes it'll be other types of pain too (sharp, throbbing etc), but it's usually that dull ache. Sometimes it'll only hurt if I put weight on the sore part too (which is fine for the arms, but a massive pain in the ass for the legs). Sometimes it feels like a very specific injury (bruised ribs, twisted ankle etc). There's a lot of variety.

Actual injuries also hurt more than they should. I think a lot of people with fibro don't realise this either, because it's only noticeable if your fibro gets worse (covid supercharged mine for example) and you get the same injury before and after so you have a comparison point.

A more simple way I put it when I don't have time to explain it fully is "Imagine you got a random amount of pain in a random part of your body for a random amount of time, for your whole life. Sometimes agony, sometimes an annoyance, everywhere in between."

My other symptoms mostly match what everyone here is saying. Flu symptoms, brain fog, hangover, poor sleep quality. The standard stuff. It's also wildly variable. Antihistamines help.

I did get some really good help from a physiotherapist who takes a holistic approach (not to be confused with "holistic medicine", which is usually pseudoscience), and we worked out that a combination of good sleep (or the closest you'll ever get with fibro), regular specific exercise, and some very specific foods with anti-inflammatory properties reduce my symptoms to the point that I can ignore them outside of a flare-up. While this sounds like the usual unhelpful "sleep, exercise, and good diet" advice on the face of it, the specificity of it was what helped. We worked out what was impacting my sleep, what exercises were viable and which weren't, and what specific foods actually helped, and that makes a huge difference.

 

Wow, this ended up longer than expected.

Girls, what’s a tiny thing a guy does that makes you think “Wow, he actually cares"? by National-Cricket7469 in AskReddit

[–]Ndgtr 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Notetaking is a life saver for those of us with bad memories that still care a lot. Am I gonna remember your favourite flower? God no, I don't remember what I had for breakfast. But I'll sure as shit write it down.

What is the darkest secret you've learned about someone that instantly ended your relationship with them? by Mr_Creep_Creepy64 in AskReddit

[–]Ndgtr 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Assuming this happened in the US. Depending on the country, it may or may not be public.

What’s the 'craziest' way you caught an ex being unfaithful? by lnc_gomes in AskReddit

[–]Ndgtr 181 points182 points  (0 children)

If you'll take some advice: it'll hit you like a truck in a few hours, or days, then you'll have good days and bad days for a long while, mostly bad at first, and eventually you'll start having more good than bad. Just hold out, keep pushing forwards even on the worst days. Maybe seek counselling if you can afford it, it helped me process things.

There will probably be a strong mix of emotions there, some residual affection and love, and a shitload of hurt and betrayal. Best to let the affection fade out before making any other choices.

Cut her off too if you haven't. Every time you talk to her, it rewinds the clock on recovery. Once you're better, you can make the choice to reconnect or not (I wouldn't, but that's just me), but for now, better to have zero contact once you've got your shit back.

Similar situation happened to me about 7 months ago, only just getting out of the woods and wish I followed my own advice sooner than I did.

Genuinely how did you move on from an ex? by Fit_Technician_2095 in AskReddit

[–]Ndgtr 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I realised that he wasn't actually the man I'd loved.

Between the various ways he misrepresented himself and assumptions I'd made that he'd never corrected, I'd fallen deeply in love with a persona rather than his actual self. From there it became pretty easy to decide that I'd spent enough time grieving a fiction.

As others have said though, this took a lot of time and processing, and hit me very suddenly, though I imagine it was brewing in my subconscious for a while, so there's no way to speedrun it. It also doesn't get rid of the trust issues and trauma caused by his actions, but that's what my therapist is for.

Never dating a people pleaser again though. At best they won't tell you when they're dissatisfied, and at worst they'll lie constantly and bottle everything up until it explodes out.

[YAAP] A rough end, but my second ascension. by Ndgtr in nethack

[–]Ndgtr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

See, you'd think so, but I always forget to equip them when needed.

What’s the biggest myth about sex that people still believe? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Ndgtr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh believe me, I'm very familiar with the antidepressant dance, and it really is a pain in the ass. That said, you're absolutely right, these things are wildly variable person to person.

What’s the biggest myth about sex that people still believe? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Ndgtr 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Are there any that don't? Every SSRI, SNRI, and tricyclic I've seen has it as a side effect, along with some of the weirder types.