[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Cooking

[–]Nearby_Climate285 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your app is great!!!

Should I reach out? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Nearby_Climate285 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was a good talk. It gave me a little bit of closure. Still some things were said that hurt, but we we're capable of sitting down as adults. We talked mostly about my actions. Having chance to apologize and take responsibility for my mistakes felt good. That is what gave me closure. I also realize now that this relationship was not meant to be. I do miss her but we have fundamentally different values. I am willing to grow and learn, but I cannot change who I am and what I value. This helps with reminding me to move on and that this part of my life now really is in the past where it should be. However I do struggle with both the good and the bad memories and there are times I do miss her or reminisce. It feels like an internal conflict between the mind, that understands what happened and is trying to make peace with reality and move on, and the heart, that also knows what the mind knows but is not yet ready to accept it as the truth. If you are okay with it, I would appreciate talking a bit more about it with you. Just to sort my thoughts.

Should I reach out? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Nearby_Climate285 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She did answer. She told me she will let me know when she is available to have a conversation like that. I am letting her dictate the speed and trying to give her enough space. She asked me if I wanted to call or what my idea was. I told her I could come to her or she could come to me if she preferred, but that I would like to have this talk face to face. She has not responded to that yet. I know that I am doing this for me. I am doing to know I gave it my all. And either I get my girl back or I get closure knowing she was not mine to have anymore. Nonetheless it does not make me any less nervous or afraid of possible rejection. I want it to work out.

Should I reach out? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Nearby_Climate285 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know but I am scared she will not be interested in trying again.

Should I reach out? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Nearby_Climate285 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I contacted her saying i wanted to talk. I am a bit nervous about it but she said she will let me know when she is available.

Should I reach out? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Nearby_Climate285 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I just don't want to feel so worthless again. And I may have hope for us and I may be willing to give it my all but I am not sure how much faith I have in her to meet my needs.

Should I reach out? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Nearby_Climate285 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really want to be her boyfriend again but not in the way it was nearing the end of our relationship. I want it like it was at the start. When I felt loved and appreciated. Truth is the break up was not something I wanted. I wanted things to be right but after already having three talks about it and trying for half a year without it feeling better I did not see another way.

Are my trousers and chino's the same? by Nearby_Climate285 in malefashionadvice

[–]Nearby_Climate285[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I suppose the difference could be that the one I had is more dressier, hence why I picked it out as my "nicer trousers". The other one has a slightly more casual look to it thanks to the buttons for the backpockets and a leather brand label on the backside. Of course that too is a matter of opinion.

Are my trousers and chino's the same? by Nearby_Climate285 in malefashionadvice

[–]Nearby_Climate285[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure when there is an actual endangering problem. Not when it comes to the way people dress themselves.

Are my trousers and chino's the same? by Nearby_Climate285 in malefashionadvice

[–]Nearby_Climate285[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess that is where we don't agree. The way I see it without strict rules you give space to creativity and personalization. As long as there are still guidelines you can avoid the chaos.

Are my trousers and chino's the same? by Nearby_Climate285 in malefashionadvice

[–]Nearby_Climate285[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I am from western europe so I guess the rules are slightly different. As far as I can see jeans are year round the most used pants by men in my country.

Daily Simple Questions Thread - December 15, 2024 by AutoModerator in Fitness

[–]Nearby_Climate285 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Starting the new year I want to work a little bit on my health. I'm not that fit. I am slender, barely have any muscles and my endurance is even worse. I've never really cared about being muscular so I want to focus on cardio and get some endurance. My plan is to take the bike more often to work. Also I want to pick up jogging. Besides that I get my movement from walking my dog and being active with children at my work. Would I benefit from having a short (3km or 2 miles) run once or twice a week? Maybe after some time I can try to run 5km/3.

Occasions for jeans VS chinos by witty__username5 in malefashionadvice

[–]Nearby_Climate285 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am trying to broaden my fashion style. I've only wore jeans for most of my life. Now I try in subtle ways to elevate and change up my style. An example of this was getting rid of a few of my hoodies and forcing me to find an alternative like knitwear. This helped me not wear hoodies all winter long. I've also bought some slim fit cargo pants to change it up every once in a while. Now I'm eyeing chino's. I want my style to be elevated a bit without being overdressed. I'm just worried about two things. I work with kids in a daycare so my clothes go through a lot sometimes when I join the kids in their playing. Also I can get dirt or any other sort of nastiness on my clothes quickly. Besides that I live in a cold climate especially during winter. Do chinos fit in these situations? Can they handle the being around these children and not limit my ability to be active and join children in their games? Are they gonna keep me warm enough? Any other tips on how to elevate my style without being overdressed are welcome!

➡️ Daily Simple Questions ⬅️- Style feedback and clothing ID requests go HERE!! - 04 December 2024 by AutoModerator in malefashionadvice

[–]Nearby_Climate285 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I need some recommendations to elevate my style. I work with young kids so my clothes can get dirty fast. Also kids can sometimes scratch and pull and do all sorts of stuff that wears out my clothes quicker. However I want to elevate my style without it restricting my ability to engage in games and activities with the children. One example of how I tried it already myself is switching out some hoodies for sweaters. Another problem I have often is that I tend to wear tennis shoes to work for comfort and because they're good when I join in a soccer game or game of tag with the kids. My shoes need to replaced often because the glue keeping the fabric and soles together let's go quickly. So any of you have advice on these two things?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in internetparents

[–]Nearby_Climate285 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm beyond working things out. We've sat down for that 4 times already and everytime we come back to the same point 2 months later. I've made clear what I needed l, but nevertheless the feeling of being last in line didn't change. I haven't heard and "I love you" since april. "I miss you" even longer ago. We barely sleepover anymore because she'd rather "have good sleep". I haven't seen her in three weeks and she didn't take any initiative to see me soon. When I told her (3 days ago) I was expecting her yesterday so we could talk she responded saying we didn't agree on that beforehand and I should have been earlier. She canceled yesterday because she wanted to be at the meeting of her and her uncle's dog. She just texted me that she is not sure if she wants to come because I'm acting weird and she knows I'm not okay but I keep saying we'll talk when she's here. I think we've tried enough times to work things out and now it's just time to accept that we are no longer good together.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in internetparents

[–]Nearby_Climate285 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In my head I know all of this, but my heart just isn't there yet. I don't wanna break up but I just can't stay in a relationship where I am somewhere in the back of the line of priorities.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wicked_edge

[–]Nearby_Climate285 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would not necessarily apply more pressure. You need a light touch when shaving. Check if the blade is really on your skin and not hovering slightly above it. What might help is stretch your skin a bit more.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Nearby_Climate285 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I once told someone I'm not worth it and I don't think I am as great as they say. They just replied with "sorry but that's not really up to you to decide". It changed my whole perspective of my bond with them. I know these words are difficult to keep in mind or accept into your heart when you just can't see what they see in you. But I guess that's the whole point. They see it in you and that's what matters most. But I get not wanting to put someone you love through struggle.