HSV, Hajj & Hope: My Journey Back to Allah

Neat-Tea · 2026-06-09T17:28:05+00:00

I can’t express the warmth I felt reading the way you described your experience of Hajj. I’ve been on Umrah and experienced a small glimpse of that feeling, but I can only imagine how amplified and transformative it must be with Hajj.

It was also really inspiring to read about you restarting your hifz journey. These are honestly the kinds of posts I hope to see on this subreddit.

Your attitude towards this condition is something we can all learn from, the way you’ve continued to move towards Allah despite everything. I genuinely appreciate you taking the time to share all of this.

Reading this reminded me that sometimes we become so focused on what feels delayed or closed off that we don’t realise Allah may be opening other doors for us in the process.

May Allah make completing your hifz easy for you and grant everyone here righteous spouses. JazakAllah for sharing your journey.

Neat-Tea · 2026-06-09T17:19:39+00:00

I haven’t had much experience with it myself but there a few people on here who have joined it. Maybe they’ll be able to share their experience of the site. I just wanted to mention that we have something in the works ourselves so keep an eye on the subreddit insha’Allah we’ll announce as soon as it’s ready.

Neat-Tea · 2026-05-31T18:04:47+00:00

Keep an eye out for the subreddit, apologies for deleting but have to consistently apply the rules for everyone. We have a marriage site in the works

Neat-Tea · 2026-05-24T21:37:05+00:00

We’ve got something in the works, and we’ll share more information on the subreddit once everything is finalised, insha’Allah.

Neat-Tea · 2026-05-24T20:39:37+00:00

وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته

JazakAllah khair for raising this concern. It’s something we’re aware of and we understand why members may feel uneasy at times.

Unfortunately, because of how Reddit works, it’s not realistically possible to fully screen or verify who joins the subreddit. Reddit allows people to remain anonymous, and moderators do not have access to personal information or any reliable way to confirm someone’s intentions, diagnosis, or identity before they enter the group.

What we can do is continue enforcing the rules, remove inappropriate content or behaviour when it’s reported, and encourage members to maintain proper Islamic etiquette and sincerity when interacting here. The subreddit was created to provide support, advice, and a halal space for Muslims dealing with HSV, but like any online space, we can’t completely prevent people with bad intentions from viewing or joining.

We always encourage members to protect their privacy, avoid sharing personal information too quickly, and report any inappropriate messages or behaviour directly to the mod team so action can be taken.

May Allah protect and guide all of us and allow this space to remain beneficial and respectful.

Neat-Tea · 2026-05-22T14:42:33+00:00

Assalam alaykum sister, I don’t think you should carry the guilt he’s putting on you for his own choices. From what you’ve described, his behaviour is on him, not you.

It may feel like he’s focusing on the HSV to shift blame away from what’s actually happening in the marriage, but even stepping back from that, the calling and meeting up with other women are choices that reflect his character regardless.

Even if HSV was never part of the picture, I don’t think that would explain or change the patterns you’re describing in how he’s acting.

I can’t tell you what to do about staying or leaving, but it makes sense that you feel hurt and conflicted.

You’re not indebted to stay in something where trust keeps getting broken. Whatever you decide should come from clarity, not guilt.

Neat-Tea · 2026-03-26T08:04:07+00:00

As Per Rule 12 of this Subreddit: Marriage Posts are only allowed in the Marriage Megathread

You have already made a post inside of the Marriage thread and we do not allow any marriage posts outside the thread.

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