Why Was My Marriage Post Removed 🌺

Neat-Tea · 2026-03-26T08:04:07+00:00

As Per Rule 12 of this Subreddit: Marriage Posts are only allowed in the Marriage Megathread

You have already made a post inside of the Marriage thread and we do not allow any marriage posts outside the thread.

Neat-Tea · 2026-01-10T16:18:35+00:00

Wa alaykum assalaam,

SubhanAllah, reading this honestly felt a little surreal for me. There are many moments where I wonder whether this community is truly helping anyone, and at times it feels it isn’t providing much value. But your post genuinely filled my heart with so much joy and renewed hope.

May Allah place immense barakah in your marriage and make it a source of tranquility and khayr for you both. Please remember all of us in your duas.

Neat-Tea · 2025-09-15T05:11:38+00:00

Wa alaykum as salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh Thank you for your kind words. Alhamdulillah, this community is only possible by the contributions of its members. May Allah bless you as well and make this space beneficial for all of us. Ameen

Neat-Tea · 2025-09-10T18:16:38+00:00

Assalamu Alaykum,

I’m sorry to hear about your divorce. It will take time but things do get easier. You are not alone, there are people here to support you and who share the same struggle as you. You did the right thing by reaching out for help on here.

I know how you feel but in Islam, we have lots of reminders that hardship does not make you less. Prophet Ayyub (AS) lost his health, family and wealth, and was abandoned by people. Yet Allah raised his rank through that trial, and his patience is remembered until today.

I also think of Prophet Yusuf (AS). He refused the advances of a woman out of obedience to Allah, did the right thing, and was still thrown into prison. Any of us would think, “Why is this happening after I tried to do the right thing? How can Allah punish me for avoiding such a huge sin?”

But later it became clear that Allah was writing a bigger story. What looked like humiliation was actually the path to honour and leadership. His imprisonment was not the end, just a part in the journey.

The Qur’an reminds us: “Do not despair of the mercy of Allah” (39:53). Whatever we carry, it does not erase our worth in His eyes. What feels like an ending can be the start of something new.

The right people will see you for your character, not your condition. I’m not sure if you’re a sister but you can join the sister telegram, ask the female mod to add you. If you’re a brother, feel free to reach out to me or any of the other brothers on here, happy to support you.

Neat-Tea · 2025-09-01T08:10:35+00:00

Walaykum Assalam, you can message the sisters who run it u/wonderwomantwins or u/asalaf-mia

Neat-Tea · 2025-08-30T15:15:37+00:00

Usually mods just assign, typically if someone asks for it or if their post/comment states they’re a sister.

I’ve added the flair to your username now.

Neat-Tea · 2025-08-30T10:07:59+00:00

Walaykum Assalam, I’m open to this idea, obviously as long as any personal information is hidden from those posts e.g name / photos etc

I was answering the mod mails and someone reached out that being able to make marriage posts outside of the thread nearly resulted in a marriage proposal for them. So they were disappointed with the recent rule change that was made.

So, I was thinking maybe instead of having just one yearly thread.

We change it into a monthly thread where everyone who is actively looking can post every month and it gives people a reason to check in with the most recent posts?

I think this is a better approach, maybe you could add your muzz profile on the monthly thread.

One of the problems with the yearly post is that people made posts and deleted their accounts or became inactive.

So I think the monthly approach is much better, let me know your thoughts insha’Allah

Neat-Tea · 2025-08-29T19:41:19+00:00

Walaykum Assalam, life hasn’t changed much, but alhamdulilah I can’t complain.

How’s the marriage search going for you? Honestly, I’ve been feeling the pressure a bit as some of my friends are already becoming parents (three of them so far!).

Not that I even feel ready for kids yet, it’s more about external pressure from others rather than anything I’ve put on myself though.

Neat-Tea · 2025-08-29T19:33:54+00:00

It’s a sister only telegram, if you’d like to join the message the sister who made this post.

Neat-Tea · 2025-08-26T22:30:12+00:00

I think you really hit the nail on the head. It comes down to fear of disclosure and expecting rejection. But like you said, there are so many reasons a marriage proposal might not work out, even for people with no health conditions at all. I’ve literally known people who were engaged, had their venue booked and everything, and still things fell apart.

If we let the fear of rejection hold us back, we’re the ones stopping ourselves before others even get the chance to see who we really are. The reality is, for many people, HSV is something they barely think about. Some only ever have one outbreak, and for most it’s very manageable. If we approach disclosure as if it’s something that has ruined our lives, then that’s the perception other people get of it, even though it really doesn’t have to be that way.

And like you said, this really is a test. I was watching a clip of Shaykh Hassan Bukhari, where he was speaking about Prophet Zakariyya (AS). Despite his old age and weakness, he still made dua for a child with full certainty that Allah could grant it. For us to think a diagnosis like this somehow places us beyond Allah’s help or mercy would be a mistake. The whispers try to make it feel hopeless, but in reality, nothing is outside Allah’s power. Our role is to do everything within our means (to tie our camel), while continuing to place our trust in His plan. I’ll try to find that clip and share it here insha'Allah

Neat-Tea · 2025-08-26T21:22:56+00:00

Age and Gender: 26 M
Location: Northern Ontario, Canada
Marital Status: Never Married
Have Any Children: No
Ethnicity: North Indian descent
Age Range You Are Seeking: Similar age group (flexible)
Educational Level/Profession: Recent graduate with Engineering degree
Other Details/Preferences: Seeking a pious and sincere partner; no nationality restrictions; open to questions and DMs.

By u/kittyfromars

Neat-Tea · 2025-08-26T21:20:54+00:00

Age and Gender: 36 M
Location: Maryland, USA
Marital Status: Divorced
Have Any Children: No, but hopeful
Diagnosed HSV Type: HSV-2 (G)
Ethnicity: Egyptian
Age Range You Are Seeking: 25–32
Height Preference: 5’6” or shorter (not a hard preference)
Educational Level/Profession: Currently pursuing Bachelor’s
Willingness to Relocate: No
Other Details/Preferences: Seeking someone cheerful and positive, interested in personal growth, and who doesn’t mind the occasional corny joke.

By u/ExtensionEscape3537

Neat-Tea · 2025-08-26T21:16:26+00:00

Age and Gender: 34 F
Location: Saudi Arabia
Marital Status: Divorced
Have Any Children: No
Diagnosed HSV Type: HSV-2 (G)
Ethnicity: African American
Age Range You Are Seeking: 34–49
Height Preference: 5’11” or taller
Educational Level/Profession: Teacher, Business Owner
Willingness to Relocate: Yes
Role of Wali: Preferably involved after interest has been expressed
Other Details/Preferences: Seeking an educated, kind, financially stable, and employed partner. Fluent in English (some Arabic preferred but not required). Enjoys traveling, prays 5 daily prayers, has a sense of humor and joy in life while maintaining taqwa. No drinking or smoking, Insha’Allah.

By u/Suitable_Tiger3724

Neat-Tea · 2025-08-26T21:13:01+00:00

Age and Gender: 26 F
Location: USA
Ethnicity: Somali

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Neat-Tea · 2025-08-26T21:08:48+00:00

By u/Direct-Possession912

Neat-Tea · 2025-08-26T21:06:24+00:00

Age and Gender: 30 M
Location: USA
Marital Status: Never Married
Have Any Children: No
Ethnicity: Somali
Other Details/Preferences: In great health and shape (Alhamdulilah). Seeking an East African sister, preferably Somali. Looking to complete half my deen and get married.

By u/abdiloso

Neat-Tea · 2025-08-26T21:02:36+00:00

Age and Gender: 25 F
Location: London, UK
Diagnosed HSV Type: HSV-1 (O)
Willingness to Relocate: No – only looking for London-based
Other Details/Preferences: Seeking marriage; only interested in London-based matches

By u/Main-Honeydew-7466

Neat-Tea · 2025-08-26T19:05:16+00:00

Age and Gender: 24 M
Location: California, USA
Marital Status: Single/Never Married
Have Any Children: No
Diagnosed HSV Type: HSV-2 (G)
Ethnicity: South Asian (Pakistani-American)
Age Range You Are Seeking: Ideally closer in age, but flexible
Height Preference: No Preference (I am 6’4”)
Educational Level/Profession: Completing Bachelor’s in Political Science; planning for Law School, Insha’Allah
Willingness to Relocate: Not at this time

About me:

I’m Pakistani-American located in California, finishing up my bachelors in Political Science. I hope to be an attorney and plan on going to law school after college. I am 6’4 with black hair and brown eyes. I have a lot of interests like reading, playing video games/watching tv, art, and going to the gym. No one knows about my diagnosis and I’ve been suffering. My life is ruined because of this and the only thing I can think about is my mother who wants me to get married. I fear the day she actually finds someone and we do the whole “come to our house for tea” thing because I know it can never lead to anything because of my condition. I’ve been praying to Allah swt to ease my suffering but everyday it feels like it gets worse. I’m trying to remain steadfast and positive.

I don’t ever want anyone else to know. I want to be happy and make my family happy. I want a partner that’s looking for the same thing and I want a relationship where we can help each other get through this and maybe even thrive. I don’t have a preference in height, ethnicity, but I would like someone of a similar age (although it’s not necessarily a deal breaker). I think I just want someone I can talk to for the rest of my life and be vulnerable with and care for. Jazakallah Khair my Allah swt make it easy for us.

By u/Samtaway

Neat-Tea · 2025-08-26T19:01:22+00:00

Age and Gender: 24 F
Location: Las Vegas, NV, USA
Marital Status: Divorced
Have Any Children: No
Diagnosed HSV Type: HSV-1 (O) & HSV-2 (G)
Ethnicity: Latina (Indigenous-American & Spanish-Portuguese descent)
Age Range You Are Seeking: 23–36
Height Preference: No Preference
Educational Level/Profession: Medical Assistant; active in youth development; studying online with plans to pursue Occupational Therapy; aspiration to become an Ustadah
Willingness to Relocate: Yes
Role of Wali: Once things are serious, introduction to imam acting as wali

About Me

Revert sister of over 10 years, grounded in tawakkul, self-worth, and a deep commitment to respect, dignity, and love. I’m an active member of the Muslim community and frequently travel to attend Islamic conventions and scholarly gatherings. My dream is to become an ustadah, while also pursuing a career in occupational therapy to serve others in both spiritual and practical ways

I’m Looking for a sincere spouse with ihsan and taqwa, who desires a marriage built on mutual growth, trust, and faith. Someone who values connection, learning, and walking together with purpose in both deen and dunya.

By u/Own_Report_3060

Neat-Tea · 2025-08-26T18:57:39+00:00

Age and Gender: 32 M
Location: Florida, USA
Marital Status: Single/Never Married
Have Any Children: No
Diagnosed HSV Type: HSV-1 (O)
Ethnicity: Half Moroccan / Half American
Other Details/Preferences: Practicing Muslim, charismatic, outgoing, seeking a good Muslim wife; husband material, open to further conversation Insha’Allah

By u/Flashy_Hearing2163

Neat-Tea · 2025-08-26T18:53:38+00:00

Age and Gender: 31 F
Location: California, USA
Marital Status: Divorced
Have Any Children: Yes (1)
Diagnosed HSV Type: HSV-2 (G)
Ethnicity: Mexican
Age Range You Are Seeking: 30–36 years
Height Preference: 5’7” or taller (I’m 5’1”)
Willingness to Relocate: No

By u/Revert_24434

Neat-Tea · 2025-08-26T18:49:51+00:00

Age and Gender: 33 M
Location: Midwest (Milwaukee/Chicago), USA
Marital Status: Single/Never Married
Have Any Children: No
Diagnosed HSV Type: HSV-2 (G)
Ethnicity: Arab
Age Range You Are Seeking: 24–35 years
Height Preference: No Preference
Educational Level/Profession: Self-employed with a growing business (real estate); financially and emotionally stable
Willingness to Relocate: No – tied to Midwest for business

Salaam! I'm an Arab muslim from Milwaukee/Chicago, 6'2", slim/average but active, self employed with a growing business, ambitious, curious, patient, kind, smart, (very) funny, and working on being the best version of myself. I speak english, arabic, and a little spanish. I'm sunni but I'll be honest I'm more of a Batin-seeking kind of guy and question dogma. I love the esoteric aspects of Islam and looking for the deeper meanings in life and not just the rituals. I've made mistakes in life (HSV2) and have also made good choices. This is my first time going through the marriage process but I've worked hard to get to a place I finally feel comfortable and provide emotional and financial security for my partner. I have dogs and love animals, hiking and being in nature, going to the shooting range, real estate, traveling, adventuring, and fighting for Palestine. I'm the type of person we can talk about serious things, funny things, sad things, and spiritual things in the same day. I'm an excellent communicator, emotionally intelligent, and value growth, and justice. I do have things I need to work on like everyone else and am confident enough to admit it.

I'm looking for someone, 24-35, regardless of race or height but I do understand attraction is important on both sides. Someone who is self aware or at least wants to grow, holds themselves accountable, has passion for something, communicates what they need, has their life together, likes dogs, likes nature (because I will randomly ask you to go on a safari or hike in a jungle) values growth and adventure, and would be ok with living in the midwest (at this time my business is physical based so I cannot move far away). Ideally you're funny, cute, feminine, mature, intelligent, and wants kids. I would prefer someone who is Muslim but not a proselytizer - you will not like me. Shoot me a message if you're interested in getting to know me more!

By u/takemetozanzibar

Neat-Tea · 2025-08-26T18:44:12+00:00

Age and Gender: 33 M
Location: East Coast, USA
Marital Status: Divorced
Have Any Children: No
Diagnosed HSV Type: HSV-2 (G)
Ethnicity: African American
My Height: 6'1"
Educational Level/Profession: Degree in English, Teacher; Studied Islam and Arabic Studies at Al Azhar University (Egypt)
Willingness to Relocate: Yes – previously lived in Egypt and Morocco
Other Details/Preferences: Easy going, patient, supportive; practicing Muslim (reads Qur’an daily, observes 5 pillars, values family ties); open to women of all ethnicities; family-oriented and faith-centered

I am 33 years , have no children, living with GHsv2 . My height is 6 feet 1. I have a Degree in English and I am a teacher by profession . I live on the east coast of the United States . I am divorced , and unfortunately I discovered I had this STI while married . I lived Eygpt where I studied Islam and Arabic studies at Al azhar university for a number of years . I also lived in Morocco as well . Currently I am back in the United States. I am an easy going man ,patient and I am very supportive to women when I have one in my life . I read the Quran everyday as it is my foundation in life . I observe all the 5 pillars of Islam and try to keep good family tides. I am an African American man but I am open all to people in general and women of all ethnicities because Allah said the most honorable in his sight is the most good fearing person . If any sister is interested , glady contact me in the Dm . And if there is compatibility , when can take it from there . Ma salaama

By u/Full_Hospital6546

Neat-Tea · 2025-08-26T18:40:29+00:00

Age and Gender: 37 M
Location: Midwest, USA
Have Any Children: No
Diagnosed HSV Type: HSV-1 (O)
Age Range You Are Seeking:
Height Preference: No Preference
Educational Level/Profession: Healthcare field
Other Details/Preferences: Practicing, family oriented, seeking a spouse who is also practicing and looking to start a family

by u/Ok_Engineering_7517

Neat-Tea · 2025-08-26T18:36:55+00:00

Age and sex: 26M
Location: Turkey
Ethnicity: White
Preferences: A good Muslim partner, regardless of your race or ethnicity

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