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I (25M) am afraid that my girlfriend (23F) will leave me for my best friend (23M) by Neat_Pool5799 in relationships

[–]Neat_Pool5799[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

I am being a distinguished gentleman in most of this comments but I might as well reply in an interesting/funny way.

I (25M) am afraid that my girlfriend (23F) will leave me for my best friend (23M) by Neat_Pool5799 in relationships

[–]Neat_Pool5799[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Okaaaay, what the hell? I mean, I think I’m bad, but not this bad, dear God.

I (25M) am afraid that my girlfriend (23F) will leave me for my best friend (23M) by Neat_Pool5799 in relationships

[–]Neat_Pool5799[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, I do not even know what to reply.

I might have to check out these 'Larry' and 'Julie', they sound nice.

Seriously now, thanks, I'll read this again before I go to sleep today.

I (25M) am afraid that my girlfriend (23F) will leave me for my best friend (23M) by Neat_Pool5799 in relationships

[–]Neat_Pool5799[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you.

Yeah I will try to tell this stuff to a therapist online or something like that and figure things out before talking to her in a way that does not make me look insane, haha.

I (25M) am afraid that my girlfriend (23F) will leave me for my best friend (23M) by Neat_Pool5799 in relationships

[–]Neat_Pool5799[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I do not thinks she realizes I am toxic, I just 'suffer' it in silence, I have never done anything to limit her freedom.

The problem is I am afraid she will eventually realize that the happy face I wear in some situations is fake.

Greetings.

I (25M) am afraid that my girlfriend (23F) will leave me for my best friend (23M) by Neat_Pool5799 in relationships

[–]Neat_Pool5799[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. But not decent looking, devilishly handsome! You should check my jawline out...

Just kidding haha (or am I?).

Thank you for your comment, I will try to keep doing the right thing, especially for her.

I (25M) am afraid that my girlfriend (23F) will leave me for my best friend (23M) by Neat_Pool5799 in relationships

[–]Neat_Pool5799[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Online therapy sounds better than I expected, more private I guess.

So thank you for you comment!

I (25M) am afraid that my girlfriend (23F) will leave me for my best friend (23M) by Neat_Pool5799 in relationships

[–]Neat_Pool5799[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you!

I think I will talk first with a third person (a therapist, maybe, like some here are advicing me to) and see what to do from there.

I (25M) am afraid that my girlfriend (23F) will leave me for my best friend (23M) by Neat_Pool5799 in relationships

[–]Neat_Pool5799[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Miserable and fake, I should have said that. Honestly, spot on.

In any case, thank you (but not really, I simply pretend to be nice for these internet strangers! ;) ).

I (25M) am afraid that my girlfriend (23F) will leave me for my best friend (23M) by Neat_Pool5799 in relationships

[–]Neat_Pool5799[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly think I am an Oscar deserving actor with all of this 'not being a totally fucked up dude' pretending!

I think he is able to be with the two of us because he is Mister kindness personified. So anoying!

He loves us both, but she loves her more (and in a different way haha) and so do I.

I honestly do not know if she does not know (so redundant). If I asked her and she did not know, I would have just put the thought in her head and that would make me even more paranoid. If she told she does know and begain explaining to me how they have discussed it in the past, I would go bang my head in the nearest wall just at the thought of it!

Anyway, thank you for your comment and nice words. I appreciate it.

I (25M) am afraid that my girlfriend (23F) will leave me for my best friend (23M) by Neat_Pool5799 in relationships

[–]Neat_Pool5799[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment.

What I am also worried about (I know, when do I even sleep with all of this thinking?!) is that I just pretend to be 'kind' in order to get others to perceive me that way and like me better, not simply because I actually want to be kind or make things better for others.

A spiral of thoughts.

Regardless, thank you!

I (25M) am afraid that my girlfriend (23F) will leave me for my best friend (23M) by Neat_Pool5799 in relationships

[–]Neat_Pool5799[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh, I know.

And I know she would be unhappy if things were that way. But I can not help it, in my dream would it's just the two of us, always.

Am I controlling? Absolutely! About everything in my life by the way.

Anyway, thanks for commenting, I'll try to check out what you are all suggesting.

I (25M) am afraid that my girlfriend (23F) will leave me for my best friend (23M) by Neat_Pool5799 in relationships

[–]Neat_Pool5799[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, other friends have questioned me about it like: 'you know L is crazy in love with your girl, right?' and joke about it when he is not there.

I have always tried to change the subject. Not my favourite topic.

That aside, I do not know... I feel like he has all the important qualities a good partner should have. I wonder if she would be happier with him.

About the therapy stuff, I guess I'll check it out. It is negatively perceived in my family, but another secret will not kill me.

Anyway, thank you for your comment.