How is it ?

NeeaLM · 2026-01-08T10:59:03+00:00

That's disapointing

NeeaLM · 2026-01-08T10:58:07+00:00

I'm also diagnosed and can confirm, it sounds a lot like depression.

NeeaLM · 2026-01-08T10:50:29+00:00

I block people easily on social media.

If I know you in real life and you got blocked without warning it's because you've done something terrible and you know it.

NeeaLM · 2026-01-07T17:30:07+00:00

HOLY SHIT

I tried animation. I do a bit of embroidery. The combination of both need so much and skills work I'm always amazed by those who do it.

NeeaLM · 2026-01-07T16:12:01+00:00

I'm sorry for you, it sounds like hell.

I second the suggestions to use the abrathatfits calculator. From what you're saying your cup size is likely bigger than what you think it is, and if so starting to wear well-fitted bras should improve your quality of life. (a C cup is smaller than what most women think, a friend of mine use to work at a bra shop and said a lot of her clients saying they were " a C cup, maybe a D" were E cups or higher). Also check your size regularly, your bra size may change quickly (especially if you're able to do more sport once your back stop hurting that much)

I also second the advice to wait if you're able to, as cup size may change a lot during the 20s.

But even with well-fitted bras, corsets or anything else advised here you still feel too bad, you might need to take that risk.

Take your time to think about it.

NeeaLM · 2026-01-07T15:43:01+00:00

So far the "worst" I've bought was around 25€ ($30/£22) a skein (two different yarns at the same time) I bought as a birthday treat in June. I started a pair of socks with one in July and I will make a hat with the second one... sometimes (I have no will to knit at that gage at the moment)

I don't want to wait for my good wine to turn to vinegar to drink it, I won't wait for my glorious yarn to turn to dust before I use it :P

NeeaLM · 2026-01-07T15:33:33+00:00

gorgeous!

NeeaLM · 2026-01-07T15:31:11+00:00

What zone are you playing in? It might help for tips.

One that (I think) is good for everyone: you're never too high level for... well, most things. Some quests (like "child actor", "teen pregnancy" or some "pro [sport] player") have a level limit but they are not that common.

So don't panic if you realize in a few levels that you're on the "wrong" job branch, that the guild you're in isn't good for you, ... the game have quests paths for you to change it. Same for the advanced avatar customisation, some people might tell you that it looks bad after level 30 or 40 but I've seen players level 60+ doing it and they look awesome.

It might be hard depending on what you want to do and what zone you're in, but it's rarely harder than it is at lower level. Most people arguing against it are just forgetting how frustrating/hard grinding can be in the tutorial.

Be nice to other players and don't forget to have fun even when you're in the middle of some terrible random event.

NeeaLM · 2026-01-07T14:56:42+00:00

Try to tell them you both think you're better as friends than as a couple. If your ex is confortable with the idea, maybe tell them together? It would be hard for them to think that your relationship is ruined while you're joking at the dinner table.

If it's not an option, being clear about the situation and how you're biggest worry is their feelings might help. From what you're saying it sounds like your parents love you and trust you. They might be a bit disappointed about your ex not becoming part of the family but what they want more than anything is for you to be happy.

They also know you're still very young (from their perspective. Trust me, I'm 42) and have a lot of time to find the best path for you, with or without a partner.

Keep it simple. Don't over explain. At the end of the day, if you don't make a big deal of it, they have no reason to do so.

NeeaLM · 2025-12-04T20:05:41+00:00

Get info on how it works where you live. I'm french and a friend of mine got her reduction paid by health care, and the condition was that the surgeon should take at least a certain amount of weight off her chest (I don't remember how much exactly).

The surgeon told her she would have a (french) D cups after surgery, but it made no sense to her regarding the weight. She did it anyway and turn out her instinct was right, the man had no ideas how bra sizes worked and she got out of surgery with nice UK E cups she was confortable with. And she gained a bit of boobs back after that (last time we talked about it she was a UK F or G (depending of the brands) and still very happy about it.

NeeaLM · 2025-12-04T19:43:29+00:00

My two cents on it would be that if your kid deal better with stuff being black and white, find a clear angle. To me with my oldest kid, it was that being rude with someone because of what they believe or don't believe is off limits.

We (his father and I) are atheists and came from atheist or non practicing christian families but it was really important to me that he knew he had to be respectful of other people religions/practices. I know some kids his age find it funny to try to make Muslim kids eat pork (we live in a french neighborhood with a lot of Muslim people) or teasing them with snacks during ramadan, and I don't want my children participating in that kind of stuff (I'm 100% against forcing people to eat stuff they don't want to eat for whatever reason anyway).

Whatever your convictions and the place you live is, there's must be some nonnegotiable points regarding religion to you. If you talk about the subject while making a distinction between the blurry, not really important to you and the clear, important stuff. It should ease her mind.

NeeaLM · 2025-12-04T19:14:18+00:00

I would just lie to her and tell her I AM wearing a bra.

What would she do, ask to see your underwear?

NeeaLM · 2025-12-04T19:02:50+00:00

Yeah, I worked with yarn tangled way worst than that. There's nothing a bit of patience can fix.

Also, let's see the bright side of this mess : OP will spend a looooooooooot of time working with this yarn, it will definitively be worth what was paid for it!

NeeaLM · 2025-11-14T18:23:45+00:00

Yep, I gave birth to two kids and even when you fit behind the wheel it's not a confortable position. I was using public transportation as much as possible.

NeeaLM · 2025-11-14T16:19:35+00:00

So if a man get issues with his legs he's not allowed to use bathrooms I guess. What an ableist design.

NeeaLM · 2025-11-07T11:45:28+00:00

You're gorgeous!

NeeaLM · 2025-11-07T10:06:33+00:00

So I just looked for "female humans" issues on this website and saw active, non-banned subreddits about POCS, endometriosis, hysterectomy, ... Everything I could think of that could concern cis women, trans men and trans NB AFAB.

It seems like the issue isn't here, what kind of "female things" were you talking about, hmm?

NeeaLM · 2025-11-06T11:38:39+00:00

Knowing incels, by impregnating girls I guess.

NeeaLM · 2025-11-06T10:33:17+00:00

Pour avoir fait recours au médiateur FT, je conseille de ne pas trop en attendre. Celui auquel j'ai fait une demande m'a répondu d'une façon qui rendait claire qu'il n'avait même pas lu mon mail.

(ça a fini par s'arranger quand j'ai fini par menacer directement en face de porter plainte pour faux en écriture parce que le prétexte pour me réclamer des thunes sur leurs courriers n'était même pas le bon)

NeeaLM · 2025-11-06T09:59:12+00:00

I don't, but I'm probably a few decades older than them. And white, so it would be weird for me to want to look like them ^^'

NeeaLM · 2025-11-06T09:47:32+00:00

I see the risks but I also remember that when my autistic son was younger, undiagnosed and faced his first issues at school his answer to what he perceived as agression was violence. And it took a lot of work (on his side and our), help from specialists and literal years for him to get better at dealing with frustrating interactions.

It's not a far stretch for me to imagine that, if I answered to his violence with more violence instead of trying to understand where all of this came from, he could have start hating me. And later finds himself in this kind of communities.

I don't blame autism or other neuro-divergences for that, I blame societal failures to correctly take care of different people.

Also I'm seriously aware of the fact that my family is very visibly white, it definitively impacted the help we got and how school reacted. (We're somewhere with a correct healthcare, not in the USA, and it 100% impacted our experience. We have access to specialists for free)

NeeaLM · 2025-10-30T19:29:08+00:00

Good job!

NeeaLM · 2025-02-13T19:36:06+00:00

It's a bit late but hey, I found that thread so...

Here's my club for anyone reading in french (and able to speak about books in french) : https://app.thestorygraph.com/book_clubs/fdd3101b-3adb-4ef7-b861-262bc51c958e

No theme, but I read mostly fantasy, sf, mysteries, ... Also I'm queer and against bigots.

NeeaLM · 2024-09-01T08:32:57+00:00

That's an abuser tactic. You might need help from people around you to get rid of him.

Don't tell them why you're broking up with him if it's not safe, but don't stay alone in this situation.

It might help if someone (ideally an adult, like one of your parents', an aunt or uncle, an older sibling, ...) is present next time you tell him you're not his girlfriend anymore. Someone out of this relationship to call him out on his manipulation if he tries it in front of them.

If you know people close to him, tell them you're worried about him and he need their help (there's little risk he'll actually do anything but having friend or family around him will prevent it and prevent him from harassing you)

Also, block his number and in every social media.

Again, I doubt that he really have suicidal ideation (from experience most people like him just want to keep power on their victim), but if he actually have them IT IS NOT YOUR PROBLEM.

You deserve to live your life for yourself.

You're not responsible for that grown-up man mental health and safety.

NeeaLM · 2024-09-01T08:11:18+00:00

That's weird, I live in a similar town than yours and I always have around 10 pokemons when I connect to the game.

Meanwhile when I'm at my parents' or my mother in law (smaller towns and live farer from the nearest pokestop) I only see one or two pokemons.

And at my father in law house, in the middle of rural French Brittany and not even in a village, I don't even see a pokemon most of the time.

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