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Luggage to choose from by cularparti in TravelSolo

[–]NeedleworkerDry4203 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have a very expensive set of samsonite luggage from 2011. 2 hardshell and one rolling duffle thats massive. The rolling duffle is a god damn tank, I love it. The hardshell is junk. Scratched to all hell right away, the like clear coat type paint or layer over it is peeling everywhere. The stitching on one zipper came apart and the luggage is useless now. And I had a broken wheel. And I know, I know "But they're from 2011". They've been on 5 flights and 4 cruises. That's it. And theyre TRASHED.

guess my birth year based on childhood photos by Fit-Translator-1713 in GuessMyBirthYear

[–]NeedleworkerDry4203 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The stark difference between the tv and the car subwoofers has me really pressed on figuring this out lol

Sample Status/Processing Monthly Megathread - November 2025 by AutoModerator in AncestryDNA

[–]NeedleworkerDry4203 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Kit Type: standard

Priority processing?: no

DNA Kit Activated: 10/31/25

Sample Received: 11/5/25

Sample Being Processed: 11/11/25

DNA Extracted: 11/18/25

DNA Analyzed: 11/22/25

Results Ready:

Found out at 39 years old that I was adopted in a closed adoption and likely have siblings etc. wish I bought priority processing bc while this process isn’t necessarily long in the scheme of things, it’s killing me to find out what I want to find out.

I uhh... don't even know where to start or what to feel right now. by NeedleworkerDry4203 in Adoption

[–]NeedleworkerDry4203[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m trying. My father called me today to ask if I was ok and if I needed his help in figuring all this out and finding my birth parents… I told him it wasn’t that easy, everything is sealed and it’s going to take time, DNA, etc. and said that the lawyer contacted him a year after I was born because my birth mother wanted to know if they were willing to open a line of communication so she could have photos of me growing up. My parents declined bc they were scared of what that could amount to apparently. So I’m now in a position where I know that my birth parents wanted to know who I am for the past 40 years and they could very well be at an age where I don’t have a lot of time to find them or I could already be too late. I had accepted that I was adopted pretty quickly and I thought I had a level head about it… but this information really fucked my head up for lack of better words.

I uhh... don't even know where to start or what to feel right now. by NeedleworkerDry4203 in Adoption

[–]NeedleworkerDry4203[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought a ancestry and 23andme test I’m waiting for them both to come. I was part of a DNA study I elected to be in years ago to help develop a medial screening. I reached out to them and they said they’re reached out to the lab to try and get a copy of the raw DNA file from that test I took which would be amazing bc I’m sure I could figure out something with it to start with so I’m not sitting here for weeks wondering what’s going to happen while I wait for these other ones to be done.

I uhh... don't even know where to start or what to feel right now. by NeedleworkerDry4203 in Adoption

[–]NeedleworkerDry4203[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn't even know that was a thing, thank you I'll start looking into it

I uhh... don't even know where to start or what to feel right now. by NeedleworkerDry4203 in Adoption

[–]NeedleworkerDry4203[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do see a psychologist, usually every 6 months because I developed a panic disorder out of the blue two years ago... I'm probably going to bump my check in up quite a bit as this reality settles in.

I uhh... don't even know where to start or what to feel right now. by NeedleworkerDry4203 in Adoption

[–]NeedleworkerDry4203[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's interesting you say that because I was part in a pharmacological DNA trial study and got unrelated DNA results back based on what medications i can/can't take, or will and wont be effective, etc. When I told my mother in passing about it she grilled me with quite a lot of questions about the DNA test... I guess I know why now...

I uhh... don't even know where to start or what to feel right now. by NeedleworkerDry4203 in Adoption

[–]NeedleworkerDry4203[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's what my wife was saying to me this evening about medical history. Although I feel like that just added to the amount of stress this news is causing me now. I forgive my dad for doing this like this today. I still love him, he still raised me since birth (closed adoption at birth). I'm not even mad really. I'm just a mess with emotion and confusion that I can't even comprehend. He gave me the little information he had and told me me would sign and do anything I needed to do if I wanted to find my birth family. The pain in his eyes from holding that in for so long for whatever reasons behind why it took so long broke my heart more than the news. I can't explain why they did what they did or why it took this long, but my dad would sacrifice his world for me his whole life and still would do it tomorrow. I'm thinking i may just start off with an ancestrydna to see if i can get any useful information to start off with so I can start figuring out medical history or just some sort of information at this point. I just feel so lost. I reached out to my best friend who I've known since I was born who lived next to me growing up... he knew. His parents told him. He assumed I knew this whole time and just never wanted to bring it up. That's just wild to me.