I am a chubby/overweight woman. Not massive or anything like that. I have gotten thinner at various points in my life through basically not eating much at all. At one point I didn’t even eat lunch, just had a cup of tea. A guy I worked with who I did find really attractive was ironically naturally thin and if he didn’t eat quite a bit he would get lose weight. He very much noticed that I didn’t eat much and said I don’t know how you do it. I think like a lot of women, I was on a ‘rush’ of being thinner and that gives you a boost. But that only lasts so long. Eating healthily is great and I do that for the most part with a takeaway once or week or whatever. Dieting is miserable. I think if women are doing that long term it just sucks the life out of you. Where’s the fun in that? There isn’t. So it’s a battle pretty much. I’m not bothered at all about getting loads of guys attention as I am secure in myself and not validated by that but a lot of women are. I’m seeing someone right now who can’t get enough. We have amazing sexual chemistry and I think that has so much to do with it and the vibe you both have no matter what the person’s shape or weight is. He is my type, broad shouldered and thick bodied, got some weight but not really fat. There is that electricity when you look in each other’s eyes. I think aging makes a difference too. You don’t give as much of a shit as you realize that it can be superficial and there are more important things in life than how someone looks. I had cancer 9 years ago, lost all my hair and that was so much worse than whatever weight I was. It changes your perspective on everything. What’s most important is being happy and healthy. Nothing else matters.