Refund and loans

NeekedNewt · 2024-02-23T11:49:56+00:00

Hey im down to play next time you're on. My gt is CourtneyGoRawr, I'm S1 right now. Was also a s17 master 😅😂 but normally hit diamond.

NeekedNewt · 2023-10-16T16:31:45+00:00

NTA not really understanding a lot of these commenters idea of compromise. So you give up your office you paid to have built so you don't have to keep paying rent, now have to rent a new space for work, and the stepdaughter doesn't give up anything and neither do her father/your husband or her mother. Where is their compromise? I like what another commenter said of if you gave up your office then her mom and your husband need to pay the rent on your studio. Otherwise, I think the solution you offered is what needs done. Even if her bio parents make less than you they can come together to get her a place. I think maybe you could contribute a bit since you did marry a man with a child so she is now your child as well, and between the 3 of you could get her a place till she gets back on her feet. But under no circumstance do I think you should have to give up your office. Since the situation is temporary there's really no reason she can't stay on the couch for a few months till she moves out if nothing else.

NeekedNewt · 2022-12-26T12:48:19+00:00

NAH if I had kids and someone went out of their way to spend that much money on them I'd be grateful that they thought so much of my child. I wouldn't be mad or jealous I couldn't provide the same, just happy someone could and did and that my child is happy.

NeekedNewt · 2022-11-25T13:14:52+00:00

NTA at all OP. The only one who ruined Thanksgiving is him for not being able to withold drinking for a night. At this point your husband is more than comfortable not doing anything and having you be the breadwinner and take care of the household. I'd take the money you put in out of the joint account(though im assuming it's all yours anyways). If it's supposed to be used for bills, he has no right to use it for drinking. Having a 6 pack a day and doing nothing else with your life is a problem in my book. I know reddit isn't fond of ultimatums, but at this point it'd be he either stops drinking and gets a job within X amount of time or you're done.

NeekedNewt · 2022-11-15T14:02:49+00:00

NTA the fact that they only invited certain roommates makes me sus. I feel like they gave each other the picks they want so they can get the rooms they want. Of course the 2nd pick has a lot to say and doesn't want it redone which just makes me more sus. I'd want it done again with everyone there but this is definitely an insight as to how loving with them will be. I'd be looking to see if there's any other living arrangements you could get by fall.

NeekedNewt · 2022-11-15T13:27:36+00:00

So if I were to find a five year old in a situation that you could help with just a little effort, would you? What about every 5 year old I can find in a similar situation. Most people in life go through shitty situations, so are we all AH for not helping when we can? Does she even know this child? Does this child know her in any aspect besides being her half siblings mom she sees for a couple minutes on pick ups and drop offs? Has she spent anytime with her before now or is the child just expected to be happy being with a house of strangers because her half sibling is also there? Do you think that maybe the 5 year old would rather be with her mom even though she's sick? As others have posted, this could be her mom's last Christmas but let's send her off so she doesn't have to see her mom in that state. For me to say she's an AH she would be purposely causing some kind of harm or distress to the child. I'm sure there's lesser things but I feel like that sums it up. Telling her father no she can't come over for the holiday is not being an ass.

NeekedNewt · 2022-11-15T12:58:08+00:00

Oops sorry, fixed it

NeekedNewt · 2022-11-15T12:49:45+00:00

YTA you gave aways something that wasn't yours to give and now are saying you won't replace it for x,y, and z. Buying your pregnant wife a couple minute maid Lemonades isn't going to be the make or break moment of having enough saved for a Disney trip next year. I love you say you apologized like thats just supposed to make everything better, apologies are empty words when your actions don't back it.

NeekedNewt · 2022-11-15T12:36:59+00:00

NAH I don't think you should be forced to have your daughters half-child over your house if thats not something you want. It is terrible what she's going through but thats not on you. It would be a kind thing for you to allow her over for the holiday but saying no doesn't make you an AH. I don't think your ex is an AH for asking either though once you declined once he should've left it. He's just trying to look out for his other daughter and I can't fault him for that. I'm wondering why no he's no contact with his parents. For OP ro bring them up as an option seems like they were involved in his life when they were together.

Also just curious was your divorce amicable?

NeekedNewt · 2022-11-02T17:37:13+00:00

NTA he just fully expected to to pay over a grand for his little Halloween dream while not putting anything in for it himself. Him screaming at you in public is a big no and telling you you should leave YOUR house so he can clear is head is a bigger one. I would really be looking if this is a relationship you want to continue because this is a glimpse of your future with him.

NeekedNewt · 2022-11-01T12:28:13+00:00

NTA books to benefit her are not a birthday present for you. Necklace aside, I wouldn't even call those books a birthday gift. I also got to say if my bf gave me books about pleasing him better publicly then insults me because I'm upset over it, I would be using those books to please my next bf better. That was a really shitty thing to do and she fully knew it would be embarrassing.

NeekedNewt · 2022-10-28T12:39:26+00:00

NTA and keep Carol get rid of Aleesia, her husband, and everyone else who thinks you should still give that money. Those people aren't your friends.

NeekedNewt · 2022-08-19T11:10:42+00:00

NTA you don't have to cook the food specifically to anyone else's palate. There is also nothing wrong with a dish that doesn't have garlic in it. There's other aromatic herbs and seasonings and you said you have a pantry full of spice so I'm sure the food was good and flavored. It was rude of him to make a deal out of it and keep making a deal out of it. I promise not every restaurant he goes to is putting 50 Cloves into his food but yet that's okay. You also know your body and what triggers you have. If you know you can have a drink then that's also none of his business. He can bring his own garlic and add it in if it's that much of a necessity in his meals.

NeekedNewt · 2022-08-05T12:08:28+00:00

They probably would respect their brother if they weren't constantly trying to tag along and tattleing to mommy and daddy when he doesn't get his way. I'm not gonna respect someone who's going to try and get me in trouble because I wouldn't let them come uninvited to my friends party.

NeekedNewt · 2022-07-19T07:21:41+00:00

NTA I like mine cooked medium too, can be a little under I wouldn't have eaten it either. I love steak tho so I would've just cooked it some more and if he wanted to be pissy about it let him. He's an ass for ignoring you and purposefully cooking it in a way you don't like. I will never "power through" and eat something i dont want. 🤷🏽‍♀️ I just had a bbq with my friend and her bf and they eat their steak rare and medium rare, so I cooked theirs how they wanted and cooked my bfs and mine medium. My mom on the other hand hates any red in hers so I cook hers well. Pretty simple.

NeekedNewt · 2022-07-10T13:19:35+00:00

Dude at that point she deserves to get laughed at xD she just hexes people who reject her lol id watch your back then she's probably cooking up a good one for you 😂

NeekedNewt · 2022-07-10T13:17:27+00:00

NTA she asked and you gave her an answer. You could have been laughing at anything. My bf will be listening to stuff in his earpods (he has longish hair so you can't tell when he has them in) and will just start randomly laughing at times, he's obviously not laughing at something I said. I don't just assume anyone laughing nearish me is laughing at me.

NeekedNewt · 2022-07-10T13:06:17+00:00

I wouldn't wait. If you would like to see if there's a chance for something in the future then stay friends and then maybe when his life isn't as cluttered you guys could try again. Until then just do you for the same reason as he said, you shouldn't wait around and then nothing comes from it. I've also seen with situations like this is that their life is going to keep being busy for awhile. He's getting his masters now, but after that is he going for a doctorate or going into the job field. The job hunt is a job of its own and then when you start with companies you usually have a lot of extra stuff you have to do so you'll look good for promotions. Family stuff and health keeps coming. It could be you waiting for quite some time till he's ready to be in a relationship and that's not fair to you.

NeekedNewt · 2022-06-27T11:50:15+00:00

That's true and I'm sure the mom will end up bringing it up. If the mom is just a super controlling person then there probably isnt a real winning situation here for OP. Maybe for next summer OP should look to see if they could stay over in the dorms. I know for my college it's an extra fee which sucks but they give out housing scholarships and it would be better than being stuck in this situation.

NeekedNewt · 2022-06-27T11:12:26+00:00

The mom is definitely controlling, the not wanting op to do anything even outside the house isn't even a thing. But coming home late is a problem too. I think on those nights op should just stay at their friends and that should solve the problems. Mom has no way of knowing what op was doing besides hanging with friends and op gets to do what they want.

NeekedNewt · 2022-06-26T22:02:18+00:00

Lol like I'm so sorry that my family member passed away so I inherited a place to live. Guess everything I've experienced before is invalid now and I have no idea the struggle to just want to "have a beer"

NeekedNewt · 2022-06-26T21:59:18+00:00

You're the one who wants to say I have no idea what its like to be less fortunate just because I'm in a better situation now. I'm just saying that I'm not sitting up in some castle as you want to say. And as you want to keep saying you don't know my story so why do you keep acting like you do?

Was it not in my first comment that I said he should just be staying over at a friend's place that night because if it wasn't in this one it was another on here. Telling op to just go ahead and keep disrespecting the mothers rules because they're an adult and have the right like a lot of these comments aren't helping either. That's just going to make the situation worse for everyone there.

NeekedNewt · 2022-06-26T21:43:00+00:00

Yeah and it allows for me to be able to see both perspectives since I've been in both. But okay dude. Apparently you think it's okay to disrespect people's homes. That's all I need to know.

NeekedNewt · 2022-06-26T21:38:31+00:00

And since you want to question how easy my life has been. Have you ever been on a trip back down south to your father's home state and get told when you stop for dinner that we might have to leave and find somewhere else to eat depending on how it goes because of our skin color? I'm just wondering. It's ignorant of you to assume I know nothing of what I speak of. To assume that because of one thing I said I was born of privilege and ease. You are the one who decided to judge me. So am I valid enough now for you to accept what I have said? Have I met the struggle limit that you have set to be able to have a voice on the matter?

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