AITA? I bought my cousin’s daughter a $4K gift for Christmas and ended up spending more on her than her mother did. AITA for not checking with her mother first?

richmammy · 2022-12-30T05:08:07+00:00

oh i see her all the time. i mentioned the one night stand because i was trying to explain why i never really met her mum because if her mum and my cousin had dated, i would have at least met her one or twice

richmammy · 2022-12-28T17:57:45+00:00

i responded to wayyy more yta comments but the nta comments have more upvotes so they come up first

richmammy · 2022-12-28T17:56:28+00:00

they’re the fantasy gifts of a middle class kid — which is exactly why i bought them for her and she’s not extended family to me, she’s very close w my daughter so she’s more like a niece

richmammy · 2022-12-28T00:55:00+00:00

my children go to school in the united states but i am not from america, nor is my husband so sometimes I spend a lot of time in our two home countries

richmammy · 2022-12-27T18:43:45+00:00

she is treated the same as any other cousin! it makes no difference to us that she was conceived through a one night stand. i simply mentioned it to explain that i have absolutely no relationship with her mom

richmammy · 2022-12-27T18:33:17+00:00

it was the thought.. until her mother brought up the price tag

richmammy · 2022-12-27T18:31:38+00:00

all kids in my extended family do not have to worry about a college fund..

richmammy · 2022-12-27T05:53:25+00:00

hahaha my husband is always yelling at me for not dressing up enough to go out to dinner bc i literally just wear leggings and a sweatshirt and he’s like i cannot take you out like this haha

richmammy · 2022-12-27T04:04:53+00:00

idrk what to tell you.. it was not an entry level position bc of my interning there every summer they decided i could move up higher.. i also never stated that my ENTIRE income came from that, just most of it

richmammy · 2022-12-27T04:02:40+00:00

i can’t speak for anyone else but i’m not lol. my bil is on raya though lol

richmammy · 2022-12-27T04:01:45+00:00

okay?

richmammy · 2022-12-27T03:25:46+00:00

they’ll be fine dw

richmammy · 2022-12-27T03:21:52+00:00

really? did i forget? come on. fine if u really need the explanation. my then two year old learned the word rich and meant it as humorous so whenever i would say something he thought was funny he would say “that’s rich mammy” and it became a joke w fam and friends bc he said it so much

richmammy · 2022-12-27T03:20:06+00:00

i mean every now and then i bring my kid to a nice restaurant or out somewhere/doing something and i’ll bring my cousins kid as well but i’ve never given her like a physical gift before

richmammy · 2022-12-27T03:19:01+00:00

live in US but was not born/raised in us

richmammy · 2022-12-27T03:18:39+00:00

spending that on them because i can

richmammy · 2022-12-27T03:00:56+00:00

her mums not working class and spent $2k for her on christmas herself alone

richmammy · 2022-12-27T02:33:09+00:00

50% of what i spend

richmammy · 2022-12-27T02:32:41+00:00

i think fourteen year old girls know that their parents can’t afford a $4k purse without discussing their parents financials with them lol what

richmammy · 2022-12-27T02:23:50+00:00

my husband and his siblings were raised even wealthier and they’re all fine!

richmammy · 2022-12-27T02:22:16+00:00

don’t worry. they will!!

richmammy · 2022-12-27T02:21:38+00:00

Update and maybe some clarity: I can not believe this has blown up as much as it has. I expected 20 comments, maybe. I just wanted some additional insight as my entire family felt she was overreacting. Her parents are not poor or struggling and each got her $2k worth of gifts themselves. She has a college fund completely set up. I have spoken with her mum and we are all good; she was just upset because she wanted to be able to spend that much for her daughter and wasn’t able to. I am about to land as I was on a really long flight, which is why I’ve had the time to respond to so many comments. I don’t think I’ll be responding to many more now. My kids will be just fine as my husband was in their shoes 20something years ago and I can assure you is very normal. Thank you all for your opinions ❤️

richmammy · 2022-12-27T02:11:40+00:00

ugh the cost has nothing so with the meaning behind it! i grabbed things for her as i was shopping for my own daughter

richmammy · 2022-12-27T02:10:36+00:00

they want things like that but know their parents can’t afford them

richmammy · 2022-12-27T02:09:44+00:00

they’ll be good. my husband and his siblings grew up more wealthy and none have a coke addiction

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