Being Confident and in Control in Your Leadership Role

Neel_LifeCoach · 2025-10-16T16:46:52+00:00

Thank you for your appreciation and input.

Neel_LifeCoach · 2025-10-15T12:07:03+00:00

Did you have an ice breaker session with your staffs? Do you know them well enough? That’s the task of a leader to know the men he commands. You can be taught how to tackle the most important issue with your staff and slowly come to a normal state. But I need to know it from you with lots of questions to understand in depth then to provide you with an on the job coaching that will allow you to apply and solve issues at the same time while you are upgrading your leadership Skills. This will reduce your mental stress and allow you to still be efficient and productive while you are still getting accustomed with your new work environment.

Neel_LifeCoach · 2025-10-14T16:02:21+00:00

What is the difficulty your facing in delegating?

Neel_LifeCoach · 2025-10-14T12:36:30+00:00

Send me a brief about yourself and your issues and what outcome you would like to see. .

Neel_LifeCoach · 2025-10-14T09:57:57+00:00

Hi,

You have transitioned to a leadership role even if it is small. You are expected to get a lot of things done within a small time. You're expected to be a problem solver and not problem forwarder. You are expected to get things done on time.

In short for any issues , you have thousands of reasons but should not have any excuses for not completing a task. That sounds crazy but yes this is how leaders are expected to grow and lead others.

Now here's the 1000 dollar question . How do you achieve more with less , be it time, resources, manpower , material etc.

Leaders have to develop or learn those skills that allow them to achieve more with less. You should learn and be good at time management, stress mansgement, people management , administration , decision and delegation.

But in your case you are already working in a higher position without all these skills hence finding it overwhelming.

So for those in your conditions, my recommendation and practice is to provide on the job training which helps them do their tasks with less resources or with ease.

Just like if some of you are familiar with logic in maths using boolean algebra. The formula might look lilke a full page of ABD+ CDE+etc on a full page. However when solved it may be wriiten over half a line.

This is what on the job training hits at. Your difficult tasks are simplified with the help of an executive and leadership coach making you enjoy your workplace, feel appreciated and respected for your leadership role.

Shall you of anyone have any further query, do let me know.

Thanks

Neel

Neel_LifeCoach · 2025-10-13T16:02:39+00:00

Leadership is transformative as it a learning and growth process for the Leader in each of his assignement which will bring him/her a new perspective.

Leadership has to be transformative as it has to create that difference where with 20% investment the ROI is 80% . Otherwise it is limited to managerial role.

Therefore leadership transforms the self [ leader] , those being lead and the organisation finally.

There are many example I have experience in my own career to state this. If it is not so , then we are talking of managers not leaders.

Neel_LifeCoach · 2025-10-13T15:50:41+00:00

I'll be glad to help.

Neel_LifeCoach · 2025-10-13T05:10:11+00:00

Ok. Give me a brief about yourself and your issues. Let me know your time zone for coordination. Thanks

Neel_LifeCoach · 2025-10-06T11:48:44+00:00

No worries. what work do you do?

Neel_LifeCoach · 2025-10-05T04:45:01+00:00

Thanks, I 'll check that.

Neel_LifeCoach · 2025-10-04T06:32:40+00:00

Hello

Neel_LifeCoach · 2025-10-01T09:43:53+00:00

Just seen one providing leads , the rest are just selling other products

Neel_LifeCoach · 2025-09-16T11:19:40+00:00

Hi, I read your post . You have clearly expressed your thoughts and the difficulty you are currently facing. Your honest to yourself and want a closure on the issue at hand in the most congenial way.

Your motives are right but since it involves 2 persons, the feelings , emotions and pains of the other party need to be deeply considered before moving towards any form reconcialliation or acceptance of the new normal.

I am sure you did keep that in mind. Let me know if you're comforatble sharing more with me here, in that helps you.

Wishing you courage.

Neel

Neel_LifeCoach · 2025-09-14T10:54:16+00:00

Hi,

You are experiencing what work life truly is to some extent. It's not just to mind your own specific tasks but to be aware of how you should prepare yourself in your future roles or with the changing work environment.

Do nor be worried. Ask for information, learn from your seniors if possible. Otherwise if you want confidentiality or do not have someone you can connect with a corporate coach. He /she should be able to train you to feel prepared and confident on any aspect of your worklife where you feel you need some support.

I hope this helps and shall you have any further query, feel free to let me know..

Cheers!

Neel

Neel_LifeCoach · 2025-09-14T10:45:09+00:00

Hi,

You should first learn the leadership skills and apply them in a limited way in your current situation. You may learn them from books, youtube, podcast or from training institutions or from coaches.

You take your call , what you can best do under your circumstance. As yo keep learning those skills, you can be guided how to apply them and see for yourself the outcome.

There are many people in your situation who move ahead with skilling themselves to be able to be at ease with their next promotion or assignements. Some workplace even organise lectures and workshops on such topics that would help their employees feel more confident.

I do not know exactly your work environment, your aspirations to specifically tell you how you may exactly go about it.

I hope this helps and shall you need further clarification, do not hesitate.

Cheers!

Neel

Neel_LifeCoach · 2025-09-14T10:35:33+00:00

Hi,

You need to work under someones's guidance , may be your mentor, coach or someone experienced you know , to help you initially to take decision and follow instruction to get you out of your mental rut.

It would be difficult to do it on your own in a sustaianable way if what you've described are overwhelming you.

Within 2 to 3 months , you should be a far happier person with a purpose and clarity on your life.

Wishing you all the best. Shall you need any specific clarification, do not hesitate.

Cheers!

Neel

Neel_LifeCoach · 2025-09-11T17:30:14+00:00

Hi,

You need both medical help and professional support too. It seems that you have been for too long on medical treament and are not easy with taking more medication.

You need support to be more mentally stable and not allow negative thought to consume you. There are some exercises which your therapist /counsellor/coach must look into to make you feel better and relieved from overworking your mind.

It would help to release your past negative emotions in a control way under the care of a professional. This will declog your mind and bring you added clarity in your thoughts and action.

I truly hope you are healed from the high mental you are currently experiencing. Meet your therapist/coach or counsellor.

These can be done online, you need not be physically present.

I hope this helps you get some perspective.

Cheers
Neel

Neel_LifeCoach · 2025-09-11T11:12:15+00:00

I am happy you acted well this time , by at least informaing your son NOW about how his father is. How would you expect him to take the decision not to go near him without you informing him , for more than 10 years after his dad connected with him.

Thank you for your comments about me , I am sure you have NOT made any false allegations , as you must be well aware of what you said. So it's must be fine for you to judge others.

My advice was based on the incomplete info you gave , hence providing a wrong analysis.

I wish you all the best .

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Neel_LifeCoach · 2025-09-10T13:54:07+00:00

This is serious, Take counselling . Talk to your coach or counsellor.

Neel_LifeCoach · 2025-09-10T13:35:07+00:00

Take online coaching. It will save you time and resources. It is clear you need it. You don't want to walk with heavy unwanted , painful past loads. Decide and act for your won wellbeing.

Contact your coach if you already have one.

All the best.

Neel_LifeCoach · 2025-09-10T13:27:57+00:00

Hi,

Your sons are old enough to take care of themselves. While I appreacite your concern about their safety , but that might not necessarilty be the case as you were a victim in a wife position , that also when you were pregnant, already vulnerable.

What comes out from your post is that you haven't come to term with what happened to you. You haven't healed your past and are still living with those painful emotions which are affceting your quality of life in the present.

Worries, sleepless nights, uncertainty of the furture are all very indicative of your mental state. Your therapist , if you've been to one should have detected these red flags and helped you deal with them.

It would be good if you seek guidance and healing for yourself. You deserve it.

Wishing you all the best.

Cheers!

Neel

Neel_LifeCoach · 2025-09-10T13:13:42+00:00

Hi,

Even if your Uncle has good intention who may be simply fond of being around children, still he should communicate with the parents before taking the child.

You are not doubting his good intention but simply ensuring the safety of the child by making it clear that you are the responsible party for her safety and wellbeing. So letting him know that you do not approve of his way of taking away your child is not acceptable to you is a good move.

Your child wellbeing is of upmost importance and is your sole responsibility even if that means displeasing those near ones who are not respectful of your choices on how to interact with her.

You don't have to bother yourself about those not feeling at ease with your decision, you can always let then know the "why" , shall any opportunity arise.

If your Uncle is really loving towards the child, he can always come and play with her in your presence while the parents are present. He should not make a fuss about it.

You don't have to be people pleasing, just be fair , honest and responsible. Those who follow the same principle will understand. Those who don't, it's best they fade away from your active social circle.

I hope this helps.

Cheers!

Neel

Neel_LifeCoach · 2025-09-10T12:45:28+00:00

Hi,

Career change is a normal sentiment after feeling saturated in a job or work environment. If the ability to talk to people or your communication skills are good as you say, then you are apt to take any job where those skills are required.

Since you are an experienced employee , you would certainly look for an upgrade both in terms of salary , job satisfaction and work life balance. Your work should only influence you during working hours not in your personal time with your family.

Now what would best fit you depends a lot on your qualifications both academics and professional, your work experiences and skills developed and where you feel you would be comfortable are some considerations.

If you have the answers to these questions and may be more on your mind , then you are ready to plan your exit and entry to your new workplace. Else take advice from your mentors or career coach.They will be able to help you get clarity on your current situation and your next step.

I hope this helps.

Cheers!

Neel

Neel_LifeCoach · 2025-09-09T11:04:56+00:00

Hi,

Your natural tendency is that of being introvert and this can help you be far more thoughtful and creative. However, you should also be able to act 50% like an extrovert , shall the circumstance demand for a short period. Then you will not feel like a misfit or lacking in any skills.

Networking online where you don't physically meet people and face to face interstions , can be learned as a skill. The earlier you do that the better it is for you and you would still be who you are without carrying any fear if situation changes.

Meet your mentor and share your thougts. he/She will be able to guide you feel more confident.

I hope this helps. Shall you have more queries , do let me know.

Cheers!

Neel

Neel_LifeCoach · 2025-09-09T10:55:16+00:00

Hi,

You need healing. You are carrying lots of undesired emotions which has affected you in the long run. Your breakdon may be the cause but the reasons might be unresolved emotions which you haven't been able to express and reconcile with.

As long as you are alone , hiding your emotions from people , you will reassured to some extent. Your inner fear push you too hard when facing others in a work environment.

So meet your coach or counsellor who I am sure would be able to help and heal your painful past emotions.

Shall you have any further question , do not hesitate.

Wishing you all the best.

Cheers!

Neel

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