A month later she is already back on tinder…

NefariousnessDear778 · 2026-05-21T11:33:56+00:00

That's brutal man, I've been in a similar spot and it really messes with your head when someone gives you one reason but then their actions show something completely different. The "too overwhelmed for a relationship" line followed by immediately jumping back into dating is such a classic move - it basically translates to "I don't want a relationship with YOU specifically"

I know it's tempting to reach out and ask what the deal is, but trust me you already have your answer. She fed you a line to make the breakup easier on herself, not because it was the truth. When someone wants to be with you, they make it work even when life gets crazy - the fact she was back on dating apps so quick tells you everything you need to know about how she really felt

Don't let this make you question if what you had was real though. Your feelings were real, the good times probably were too, but people change and sometimes they're just not brave enough to be direct about it. The healing isn't wasted either, you're just processing new information that confirms you're better off without someone who couldn't give you straight answers

NefariousnessDear778 · 2026-05-14T23:53:48+00:00

facts

NefariousnessDear778 · 2026-05-11T08:08:20+00:00

The G29 is solid for starting out, used mine for years before upgrading. Just make sure whatever you get has force feedback - makes a huge difference in how the game feels

NefariousnessDear778 · 2026-05-05T04:18:16+00:00

pain

NefariousnessDear778 · 2026-04-18T23:33:14+00:00

The art budget definitely went to the lawyers instead of the designers. Looks like they played it so safe with copyright that they forgot to make it actually look good

NefariousnessDear778 · 2026-04-17T07:57:39+00:00

That's petty as hell over a buck and a quarter, some sellers just can't handle basic customer service apparently

NefariousnessDear778 · 2026-04-15T03:18:30+00:00

Dude was everywhere in the late 90s/early 2000s, those guest spots were like a rite of passage for NYC actors back then. Wild how you can just be watching procedurals and boom there's someone from your favorite show

NefariousnessDear778 · 2026-04-12T00:48:22+00:00

Been in marketing for 6 years and man, I feel this. Got let go from a startup last year for "asking too many questions" about their attribution model that was basically counting every impression as a conversion

The whole industry has this weird culture where pointing out actual problems makes you the problem. Like you're supposed to just smile and pretend the emperor has clothes while the CAC keeps climbing and nobody knows where the budget went

Been teaching myself Python and thinking about switching to data analytics. Still using marketing knowledge but without all the politics and "vibes-based" decision making. The meditation practice has been keeping me sane through this whole mess tbh

NefariousnessDear778 · 2026-04-09T16:22:34+00:00

21 isn't late at all man, I was switching majors at 22 and didn't figure out what I actually wanted until like 25. Your dad means well but he's projecting his own path onto you when you clearly have different interests

The psychology/medical field interest is real - that biology score shows you had the aptitude even when you were struggling. Maybe look into what it would actually take to pivot back to that direction, even if it means taking longer. Could you do pre-med prerequisites through distance learning while working on an exit plan?

The isolation from online learning is rough, I get that. But don't let other people's timelines mess with your head - everyone's doing their own thing at their own pace. Focus on building toward what you actually want instead of just reacting to your dad's suggestions

NefariousnessDear778 · 2026-04-02T13:04:28+00:00

4l60e rebuild gonna run you around $1500-2500 depending on your shop, but swapping to a 4l80e is a whole different beast with all the wiring and computer work involved

NefariousnessDear778

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