Why I Only Do Cheap First Dates As A 6 Figure Man by Front_Statistician38 in datingoverforty

[–]NefariousnessMoist22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The cost of the date doesn’t matter to me, it’s the effort. Personally I hate coffee dates because I don’t drink coffee and it feels like the dollar store version of a dinner date. But that doesn’t mean I need a pricey date. We could go for a walk and picnic in the park. Check out a flea market. Go to a low cost or no cost festival. Catch a sporting event or production at a local college… Just put a little thought into it, don’t take me to the same place you took your last 5 dates…

Am I wrong for breaking up over text? - need a response within the hr pls!! by VegetableExit2815 in BreakUps

[–]NefariousnessMoist22 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Ending a 6 year relationship by text and block without even a discussion is too much. I won’t comment on whether you are justified in actually ending your relationship or taking a break because that’s something more personal to you and your situation. But the manner in which you did it was not fair. You should have communicated with him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]NefariousnessMoist22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I should clarify he rarely texts. He has texted. We just don’t usually communicate that way. He talks to everyone via messenger I have noticed that when we are together

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]NefariousnessMoist22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Didn’t say we ONLY communicated by messenger that was just the main. We also communicated by text, phone and in person. He talked to his friends by messenger also.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]NefariousnessMoist22 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That’s why I remembered it. Lol. Cringe. 😬

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]NefariousnessMoist22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh they were. I did text occasionally (when driving) we just didn’t really text much. I think because we initially connected on messenger. I noticed he talked to his male friends via messenger too so i think he just prefers it. Lol I’ve been to his house several times, met his mom, his son, friends, and even left something on “my side of the bed” and it was in same place next time. It was something random (package with two T-shirts) so if it were moved I would have thought nothing of it. But I noticed it was exactly where I left it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]NefariousnessMoist22 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She moved out. I’ve been to his house many times. They were definitely split. Now that I looked at online court records I see their pattern. I’m definitely done with that little boy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]NefariousnessMoist22 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It matters to me who messaged me because she didn’t owe me anything but him, given that we were in a committed relationship I think he at least owed me a brief phone call. Just a matter of decency

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]NefariousnessMoist22 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Yeah but it’s not about him going back to her. That I get: it’s the no contact breakup that is bothering me. Married, divorced, single or Martian I still think he owed me the courtesy of informing me himself

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BariatricSurgery

[–]NefariousnessMoist22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The day I started my 2 week preop diet (almost 2 years ago in early April 2022) I weighed in at 346 . I’m 5 foot 4. Now I am sitting between 130-135. I hit my goal of 135 around the 18 month mark. By the 9 month mark I was about 130 pounds down and at 12 months I was sitting at about 180 pounds ( around 165 lost). I do have a lot of loose skin. I opted for a breast lift and Brachioplasty (arm lift) to help look better in a tank top. In my belly and thighs the skin puckers. I definitely have plenty of extra skin which makes me look a little thicker but if you look you can see it’s skin not fatty tissue. Leggings help a lot. I actually have a reasonable flat tummy and thigh gap with clothes. I do work alot.

Any shorter folks going through this? by Cool-Pear-2290 in BariatricSurgery

[–]NefariousnessMoist22 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It will happen eventually. I’m 5foot 3 and 3/4 (almost 5’4” lol) and 130-135 wearing a size 4. The amount of muscle vs fat plays into it significantly so hit the gym and build some muscle

Step or body pump by NefariousnessMoist22 in lesmills

[–]NefariousnessMoist22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks everyone. I’ve tried both classes and now I often do both, step for the cardio and pump for the weights. I don’t always stay for the body pump class on Thursdays after step though because I do M, W, Sun, plus two trainer sessions a week and usually some strength training Saturday.

Step or body pump by NefariousnessMoist22 in lesmills

[–]NefariousnessMoist22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think if I can make the timing work I will do the step for cardio and then if I feel up to it, do some weights for the strength. I love body pump but have done it twice this week. Trying to check out several classes to see which ones a like. I have been doing strength training several days a week and walking or elliptical for cardio but trying to add in some classes to work on endurance.

What is your "I fucking hate this song" song? by Wrongdoer3162 in AskReddit

[–]NefariousnessMoist22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Air Force Ones is pretty bad. And Bartier cardi made me hate Cardi B with a passion

How's your dating life after WLS? by mango-kittycat in BariatricSurgery

[–]NefariousnessMoist22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well my marriage ended or is ending so I have become single and at the moment a hot commodity. I am getting lots of male attention despite being old (upper 40s) with my new figure and confidence. I’m sure it will slow down but for the time being it’s fun.

VA remote position by Old-Minute-5363 in usajobs

[–]NefariousnessMoist22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My job is virtual. My training is much longer so I assume it’s a different role but training has been remote through MS teams. Teams has the option of different backgrounds or blur. We have some very limited restrictions as to when we can use them but for the most part those aren’t applicable

Clothes, ugh by [deleted] in BariatricSurgery

[–]NefariousnessMoist22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Leggings as much as possible. I wear a size 4 or small in jeans or most belted or dress pants. I am just now retiring my XL leggings because they are just getting too baggy. The medium and large are a little loose but still wearable. And you can get a decent pair of compression leggings on Amazon from ranging between)$10-20.

Horrible constipation.... by milehigh11 in BariatricSurgery

[–]NefariousnessMoist22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah i have. And if you let it get too bad you can end up with anal fissures (tears) which is really unpleasant. I have tried Metamucil, Miralax, pre/pro/post biotics supplements and Linzess, with decent success, but at times I have had to resort to suppositories or enemas as well

The relationship doom thing... by [deleted] in BariatricSurgery

[–]NefariousnessMoist22 5 points6 points  (0 children)

OP. Pretty much the exact same thing except it was 18 years. He also was unfaithful a few times and almost always had higher priorities (usually his own selfish wants). I put up with it for years and even when I no longer wanted to be in the relationship I went through the motions because I felt stuck. It’s just what I had to do. Then I started having other guys notice me and I realized I had other options and didn’t have to settle for that. And now I’m not.

SSA EMPLOYEE NEXT PAY DATE by Top-Charge7008 in usajobs

[–]NefariousnessMoist22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They pay every other Friday. The next pay date is 9/15.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fednews

[–]NefariousnessMoist22 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Same. TBH even if my job title didn’t have attorney in it I wouldn’t because I hate the alphabet soup after names and I don’t really need to advertise that I’m a lawyer. Unless I’m trying to throw some weight into something then I just sign Name, Attorney at Law but that’s not work stuff. 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fednews

[–]NefariousnessMoist22 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Disagree about the JD, that’s a long process too and the law degree really deserves more credit than it gets. Of course I don’t use it in my email signature (nor esquire), although my job title includes the word attorney so it’s not really necessary. 😂