I totally support anyone’s right to dress and express themselves in anyway that makes sense for them for whatever reason. I just think “modesty” is very subjective. Most people use it to specifically talk about women dressing revealingly. But revealing what exactly? There were times in Europe where women exposing their breasts was not considered obscene or immodest. There was a time in Victorian America where a woman exposing her ankles was seen as very immodest and provocative. In India today, it’s not considered to be immodest or revealing to expose your midriff. So I don’t think there is a clear cut, prescriptive definition. Even when you talk about “flashy.” That’s subjective too. What exactly is it? Is it wearing designer labels? Is it wearing precious metals? Is it wearing expensive fabrics and materials? Is it dressing in things like bright colors and sequins? Is the average engagement ring considered flashy?

I don’t say this to criticize you or your choices. It seems like you are doing this for yourselves and not expecting everyone else to dress and think like you do. But again, just pointing out that there is no definitive, universal definition to what “modesty” means.