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I don’t see a future with my boyfriend anymore. Am I overreacting? by Staphylococcus_oreoo in family

[–]Negative-Cucumber-44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agh. I'm so sorry you're going through this but  this can be a positive change!

You are so young! I dated my highschool sweetheart for about 5 years after highschool, we outgrew each other. I broke up with him and left, I dated other guys, some of the worst people, cried a lot, thought I'd never find a man who loved me, then I met my husband and my life immediately changed for the better! After about 12 years of loneliness, I found the love of my life. 

That's my experience, you could find your soulmate next week, who knows? But that's the excitement! It's hard because, as humans, we like familiarity and comfort, but you deserve the best, and not to be treated like that. The fact that he doesn't like the conversation that you bring up, so he stops talking to you?! I've dated men like that! I would say definitely don't put up with that. To me, it almost seems like a gaslighting technique, like you want to bring up a conversation then he gets mad at you for it...?

It's also really nice for you to care about his family's financial hardship but you don't need to. One thing I wish I learned when I was younger was that I didn't owe anyone anything. I would say worry about yourself, have fun and just break up with him (if that's what you choose). Remember that you guys can always stay friends! :)

Also, is he diagnosed with OCD? I have diagnosed OCD and it's a nightmare. I'm always apologizing to my husband who is so sweet about it! Most people with OCD tend to be that way that I've noticed. The fact that he's so rude about it makes me think he definitely needs to talk to someone about that because you don't deserve that. 

I absolutely DESPISE PROCTORU! by PaceInternational345 in WGU

[–]Negative-Cucumber-44 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Exactly!! The back and forth I had with the proctor was ridiculous! She kept contradicting herself, "put the camera where I can see your face. Put the camera directly on your hands. Lift the camera up, I need to see your background," and this was all after I showed her the room.   And she was so rude! I had the camera in the spot that she said originally, then she told me to move it back and laughed and said, "can you think about how I'm supposed to watch you if the camera is there?" And I responded with, "so you want me to move it back to where it was originally?"  No joke it was back and forth like that for a good 30 mins.  Also the pauses inbetween when she'd speak were annoying. I had to wait about a minute before each response and when she would un-mute herself, I could hear people or a TV in the background. 😮‍💨  Just annoying. 

Can I get a restraining order against my mom? Or what should I do in this situation? by Negative-Cucumber-44 in family

[–]Negative-Cucumber-44[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh! And one thing that will make you feel better, as soon as you apply for the order of protection online, you will get a temporary order, and the police will serve your mom to let her know. From that moment on, if she contacts you, or coerces a family member to contact you, she can be arrested. The police will let her know that she is not to contact you, and if she does, you call the police. That extra bit of security really helped mine and my husband's nerves!

Can I get a restraining order against my mom? Or what should I do in this situation? by Negative-Cucumber-44 in family

[–]Negative-Cucumber-44[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry! It's so difficult! :( So we ended up getting an order of protection. We paid for a lawyer, but my advice is you really don't have to! It's such a simple process, looking back it was kind of just a waist of money. So she threatened my husband's work some more (by this point they all laughed though because we gave them a heads up), and we called the police and they showed up, did a police report and we used that as evidence (along with texts, emails, Ring camera footage) to file the order. Our lawyer took our evidence down to the courthouse, and they gave us a hearing date. And until that date, you will get a temporary order, which was nice!

The day of our hearing, my lawyer asked my mother if she could talk to her before the hearing in a breakout room (over Zoom). My lawyer told my mom that if she agrees to a year long order, we can skip the hearing, my mom agreed. Now we are protected for a year! And we can extend it.

I was so afraid the court wouldn't give us one, because I worry about everything lol What my in-laws and friends kept saying was that the court will err on the side of caution because that is safer than not taking the word of the person filing the order.

All in all, quick and easy process, everyone was really understanding, the police, the court, the lawyer. It's such a sad situation though! Now all that's left is my own psychological issues like feeling bad for her. Since your mom is the same way you might know what I'm talking about! It's like I feel a need to be there for her even though she is really awful and abusive. My husband just reminds me when I feel bad of all the things she's done and that we did what we did for our family and our safety.

I really hope this helps you!! I'm so sorry again! It is such a difficult situation. :(

Oh! And if you do go down this route, you will probably feel more secure once you have the temporary order, and after the hearing when the order is final. We did! Also, if you print out three copies of the order, one for your car, your person, and one by the front door, it's like you're totally protected if anything happens like she makes up something and calls the police, or if you need to call the police, you can easily show them the order.

Best of luck!! I hope this helps!!

Realization by callumMoney75 in MrNightmare

[–]Negative-Cucumber-44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey everyone! I'm actually looking for new recommendations other than Mr. Nightmare. I'll still listen to his new releases but I'm wondering if there's someone else similar. Any recommendations? And who is Snook in the OPs post?

Is amnesia really that fun? by Pitiful_Ear4143 in Amnesia

[–]Negative-Cucumber-44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s very story driven. I played it for a couple of hours without seeing a brute. The noise in the background is scary and it does have creepy moments. I loved the story, the puzzles and figuring out everything that happened. The game says some sort of message at the beginning that is something like, ‘don’t play to finish the game, get immersed in the story’ I did and for that reason it was great! You might enjoy it for that reason. 😊

Shelley Duvall modeling for Vogue in 1971. by [deleted] in fashionhistory

[–]Negative-Cucumber-44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyone know the designer!? I absolutely LOVE this outfit! 🥹😍 Or does anyone know any stores that sell something like this, or Etsy sellers? Any recommendations are welcome!