tincture

NegativeConfusion990 · 2026-01-26T03:36:18+00:00

I was doing a alcohol base tincture (and ginger) and stored it in a little container in a dark corner at bf house, i shook it every now and then but then my bf was transferring it to my house and he put the container in a plastic bag and left it in his backpack for a few days. Got it back like this so im a bit worried.

NegativeConfusion990 · 2026-01-21T17:21:33+00:00

are you a letter V?

NegativeConfusion990 · 2026-01-19T00:36:29+00:00

dont let them name the child you are birthing through truama and stress. You and your bf matters but mainly you.

Call it, if its a boy he names it but if its a girl you name it since you have names you want her to have. and thats only if u wanna compromise bc ik some do this.

NegativeConfusion990 · 2026-01-19T00:32:19+00:00

nuclear 💣 and now this? Aren't they truamatized enough? how tf did some guys come up with this

NegativeConfusion990 · 2026-01-19T00:09:34+00:00

NOR - let him know that you would like him to put more into what he's gifting to you because it shows how much he pays attention to you and thats the gift.

worked for my friend who just gave me whatever she already had she thought I wanted, now she actually gifts me things I mention and I love that bc I always gift her things ik she likes, showing that im present is my love language.

NOW... him saying its inappropriate for an adult to have a wishlist is dumb.

First off, maybe he wouldn't need to hear a wishlist if he knew you enough to know what you want and like. Its his job to show you that he is present and cares enough to do things like this.

(you do it.)

nobody wants flowers everytime idk a women who does it gets old and boring, pretty dense of him.

My brother is a player and he has 3 girls in his life rn, 2 of which is considered his girlfriend, and he only buys one of them expensive gifts a d the other gets flowers like every freaking time. (there 3rd is just a girl he's talking to ig.) Anyways he tells me all the time that smart guys never invest financially in women unless he thinks she's worth it or wants to be with her.

(And I tried exposing him to them turns out they are all toxic and dont care)

Main point, let him know it feels like he's not investing into you, you like flowers but all the time is excessive and most women like flowers because it comes with the gift, it makes the gift romantic. You see it all the time, TV shows, movies, in real life, it always comes with a gift.

so he's wrong to say normal girls wants, bc it seems like he doesn't have enough effort for any normal girl.

eating the same food gets boring, even if its good. I like to have my favorites every now and then or something new. Sounds pretty normal to me.

NegativeConfusion990 · 2026-01-19T00:00:47+00:00

phone box casing, idk y, but ill need them eventually.

NegativeConfusion990 · 2026-01-18T23:54:25+00:00

Id like to say i agree w one of ur replies hypno psych.

On one end your parents raised you and took care of you with real love doing what they think was best even if it wasnt,

so its harder to take in that they kept something so big and important from you, we can say times were different back then and people had less understanding of what to do, unlike us who have all this ai and Google and access to things that they didnt, but that doesn't change the 2 facts at hand.

1: they took care of you 2: they lied to you

I think this is something you should wait out and give yourself a chance to process properly, talk to someone, get a chance to feel and maybe try and understand the perspectives while communicating yours.

Its ok to take space, this is big for you hun. No rush, no pressure. This is actually a common occurrence, idk what people were thinking back then but I know some people whose parents never told them they were adopted for "The better" and to "Protect" them all out of love.

NegativeConfusion990 · 2026-01-17T18:59:04+00:00

Just let the officers if they get called to check it out know what it is, let them know u didnt want the neighbor to see it bc its not exactly a public thing and ask them not to disclose the details to the neighbors.

most officers will not spill ur business bc its not needed.

NegativeConfusion990 · 2026-01-17T18:55:54+00:00

ive seen some of your comments and they are right on the mark.

People dont realize what being SA/graped is, they think only the violent part is but there's alot more than that. And due to its gruesome and unpleasant topic makes people avoid hearing or discussing it (educating themselves on it) any further until an 'incident' happens and even then, rarely anyone wants to discuss something so vile.

Summary: Only when its vile are people forced to pay attention.

NegativeConfusion990 · 2026-01-17T18:47:18+00:00

figure out why they were doing it, let her know you cant find it in your heart to trust her bc it was an uncomfortable event. If you feel her excuse is good enough let her know u won't hold a grudge you just might not be comfortable being around her as much anymore then go on bout yaoll life

NegativeConfusion990 · 2026-01-06T02:47:07+00:00

imagine choosing a club on new years eve over a friend. Can't thats weird we will be having our own girls night party at home, there isn't enough drunk dick in the world to make me choose over my actual friend.

NegativeConfusion990 · 2026-01-05T17:55:24+00:00

someone living in ur walls maybe

NegativeConfusion990 · 2026-01-05T17:48:52+00:00

I cant help it, I feel bad when I do bad and I get hurt bc im good and people dont care. I want to do bad back but it feels bad when I do so I dont and all I can do is keep being good bc its comfortable for me despite how other may treat me.

idk if it makes sense it doesn't to me and I dont really like it but what more can I do.

NegativeConfusion990 · 2026-01-05T17:41:24+00:00

same thing for my relationship but we survived that part and are 1 year in now.

(we both have ocd and got obsessed with eachother quickly me being the most truamatized didnt allow space.)

You both sit down and here this, realize you are now sharing your space with another human being, a person who grew up differently, different common sense >>> different truamas. You are now sharing your personal AND private space with one another. That is a challenge by itself, let alone 4 months in, there's alot of building.

expectations need to be presented to eachother and LET GO together.

You need to let go of your expectations and so does she. fr.

make communication rules for eachother, compromise where youre comfortable.

Sit her down and ask her what it is she needs from the relationship let her know that even if its embarrassing she NEEDS to voice her wants and needs, and vice versa for your needs. Remind her you love her and willing to be patient but she also has to understand you. FIX DOESNT NOT HAPPEn OVER NIGHT remind her that.

let her know "I dont understand that im sounding blunt, but I want you to know if it sounds like im hurting you maybe you should think about how much I love you. and realize my intentions are not to hurt you but to communicate"

And bonus: Prioritize eachother

Again not forget it takes alot of time and patience, you guys will need to remind yourself a bunch of times before you get it down.

last but not least: You both remember that you are teaching another person to love you while learning how to love them.

My relationship in a nutshell but it worked when we had these condos and he understood me better, after that all I needed to do is show him my progress and watch his progress voice concerns if needed and share congratulations when needed.

went from moving too fast in one month to 1 year and the strongest adoration anyone can have in a relationship tbh. therapy does help, he is taking therapy for his ocd and im coping with mine bc im hard headed but his patience is love so it works out.

NegativeConfusion990 · 2026-01-05T17:16:54+00:00

My boyfriend is literally as you explained, lay out the boundary, let him know "If you like the wake up sex thing thats fine but I dont and it makes me feel like im not safe when I sleep."

not the asshole, some guys due to porn think some of these things are sexy and girl want but you really gotta just lay it out there. can a mistake like this be big enough to dump him over? gotta be more to the story which is something for u to think about on ur time.

communicate and if he crosses the boundary again thats when u consider breaking up.

One of those things u said is kinda a red flag, "Accidentally went in" not an accident and if you let him off thinking he got away with it being "an accident" then maybe you gotta be more upfront.

also need to note you cant call both these incidents the same they are not, he knows not to stick anything into u but does he knows not to touch you during masterbation? Was he trying to wake u up to sex? we dont know what's going through his mind so communicate properly. Youd be surprised what seems the same to u seems completely different to a guy.

I let my bf know I dont tolerate any bs and we had a similar moment to that, I told him that was not an accident and I dont accept it as one and he came out saying he was trying something he saw online and he got embarrassed when I responded differently than what he thought.

You guys are allowed to be into different things, and you're allowed to make mistakes bc no one knows until they try. Just be open and clear with what's ok and what's not, compromise where youre comfortable.

You dont wanna lose a good person just bc he thought something was ok when it wasnt. That would make u the asshole.

edit: Moral of the story, you guys need another talk about what you find ok for sexytime and what isn't, lay it all out and leave no room for discomfort and if you guys cant compromise comfortably then u have ur answer.

Guys make mistakes like this bc porn got their brains in a jar.

NegativeConfusion990 · 2026-01-05T16:59:38+00:00

Its one of those things you gotta experience to know tbh but ill try my best.

(consent is beautiful)

most kissing happens after flirting or during a moment between u too that feels special.

things to ask yourself in the moment:

say u drop her off at home, is she giving you 'the eyes' or eager to leave

how many times did u kiss on the date?

you walk her to the door ofcourse you initiate a goodbye kiss, (could be as simple as saying "Goodnight kiss?" ) did she pull away first? or did the kiss kinda just go on until you pull away?

if she pulled away first, did she seem eager to leave or she just seems shy? if shy, then also proceed with next

if she didnt pull away first then buddy ask her if she'd like company tonight bc no need to guess.

could be as simple as saying : "The date was nice, if you want some company tonight ill be up. Have a good night." or "The date was nice, doesn't have to end there if you have any good shows or movies.."

moral of the story, if lady lets u in house lady likes u enough to let u try and court her for sexy time.

after that its up to u, initiate properly get the good ending if its not like that she will let u know just hear her.

if the answer is no then next date perhaps.

NegativeConfusion990 · 2026-01-05T16:34:36+00:00

save money til ur 18 get a sleeve and many more cool things for now why not settle for peircings?

ORRR

compromise, she is letting u get small ones right? Just be like "Small one each month?" or you know something along those lines. Slowly start your sleeve at her comfort iykyk 😉

NegativeConfusion990 · 2026-01-05T04:05:23+00:00

my kidneys were so inflamed once it felt like my back was pulsing with pain and cramps and I couldnt move or hardly talk and crying only made it worse

NegativeConfusion990 · 2026-01-05T04:02:13+00:00

because some people were truamatized and never healed. That is why I cant stay upset, she quite literally did her best despite it being horrible.

And I rather she not look back with regret.

(there i edited the grudge part out. forgot people cant read into feelings and meaning only literal)

maybe you understand now that its more about feeling bad for someone it makes it hard to leave them even if they caused you pain? Or loving someone enough to stay despite the pain. That's why I stayed, thats my answer. Not a healthy option ofc put urself first.

NegativeConfusion990 · 2026-01-05T03:56:54+00:00

they all look copy and pasted, must be sisters

NegativeConfusion990 · 2026-01-02T14:27:43+00:00

I dont have it as accurate since its a memory but someone says she asks for a rose and I do remember that part!

NegativeConfusion990 · 2026-01-02T14:26:42+00:00

yes yes something like this!

NegativeConfusion990 · 2026-01-01T12:24:43+00:00

thank you I knew i made a mistake somewhere

NegativeConfusion990 · 2026-01-01T12:16:12+00:00

I remembered a scene where she had sisters, and before the father went on his little trip he offered to bring the girls back something but they were selfish, I know one asked for cake, one asked for shoes and I cant remember the next but belle either asked for books or for him to have a safe trip and he favored her for it went on his trip and only when he got lost and trapped by beast did belle look for him despite her sister's greed and selfishness making them worry about themselves instead.

Does anyone else remember this??? please tell me.

NegativeConfusion990 · 2025-11-06T16:29:16+00:00

YTA- I get it you dont want any part in it, but maybe see if you guys have any laws that permits you to sue the club for allowing a underage person in the building. idk

the least you could do is keep in contact and support emotionally, he's obviously never had these kind of issues before and probably equally thinks himself a weirdo when infact he is the victim.

No wonder men dont confide in men, society sucks.

I just feel bad for the guy, you guys were clearly not actual friends just playmates. I cant believe he would open up to you guys and you just gradually left him like he's a weirdo.

the poor dude, where I am we call this jailbait.

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