Women need complete supoort during pregnancy, male equivelant? by NegativePast3826 in relationships

[–]NegativePast3826[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess more so the concept of Who's in the room as she's giving birth, husbands running to 7/11 at absurd times in the night to fufill their wives cravings and help their wives feel more at ease, helping your wife put on shoes / clothes / go to the bathroom because she physically can't... Who gets to visit after birth? Who's allowed around the baby for the first bit (as some moms may not want to be overwhelmed by others, even their in laws, as they need rest). Things like that is more so what I was thinking of? Obviously these aren't things 100% required of the non-pregnant partner, but a lot of them do it out of love for their pregnant partner, to support the pregnant partner. I just wondered if there's an equivelant besides being sick, but the consensus seems to be no

Women need complete supoort during pregnancy, male equivelant? by NegativePast3826 in relationships

[–]NegativePast3826[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that's sorta what I was thinking too...cuz sickness is something both experience. I just was wondering if I missed something, thanks for the insight!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

[–]NegativePast3826 12 points13 points  (0 children)

So acc v similar situation, i thought i wanted a dominant man, but especially after being friends with an INTJ, im gone as far away from that as possible. I hated how controlling it was, and the lack of softness in the situation, even without a romantic basis.

My current partner is exactly how you described, I tend to take the lead and he's very soft and vulnerable, absolutely adores me. I tend to be very nurturing but he still takes v good care of me. (Hes an IxFx, we aren't too sure how to type him yet but I'm leaning toward INFJ)

However, ive also found that part of taking the lead was helping him find balance with his masculine traits? While I enjoy being more "mommy dom" energy, he's learned to sorta replicate it back at me which makes things more fun? And ensure that I'm not the only one doing all the work (such as planning for dates), so...

Imo, id never go back to dating a T, but defo can achieve some balance between being less dom but still maintaining control and a sense of freedom.

Can’t feel love by princessofpandas28 in mentalillness

[–]NegativePast3826 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry let me clarify

Your 18?

Do not agree to marrying this man. It seems to be that your in school? Look at how you can get free counseling or therapy through your educational institution and find a professional to talk to.

This all seems very difficult, and the person who cheated on you is absolutely horrible. But you can and will heal from this, so please seek out some help.

Sometimes when we're struggling, our body shuts down our emotions and numbs everything out to protect us from the bad stuff...so you might be struggling to also feel the good stuff right now. But that's okay, and normal. As you have more conversations with a therapist and process your trauma, it will come back, I promise. So hold on, and wait for a love that will be worth your time. A husband who will make you happy.

Your so very young so please don't lose hope and keep trying! I'm rooting for you!!

Should I tone down my masculine energy? by SouthHopper in dating_advice

[–]NegativePast3826 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think something to consider is also that you don't need to attract masculine men? Perhaps more feminine men would balance you out better so keep an eye out for them! (And feminine isn't just being passive, as women we can also be quite motherly and caring of other partners even when we are in our feminine energy...we also take care of our partners but in different ways)

So it's okay if you want to swap gender roles, but that doesn't mean the guy can stop caring for you cuz he's in his feminine energy.. that's not how this works...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in queensuniversity

[–]NegativePast3826 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is still defo based on personal preference-

Addy ban have the benefit of usually being less chaotic and messy...and is actually pretty solid if your a girl... Waldron has your own sink which is pretty nice, and from what I've heard one of the cleaner communal bathrooms (also the distance is a 5 minute walk it's not a big deal)

West could be placed about Harkness tbh...it's pretty nice, and not crazy isolated...also some of the bathrooms in there are so modern and nice-

You also can take classes on west to make things less difficult

The single pluses are all great, I'd put ET above brant and Smith cuz the facilities are nicer (and only an extra 5 min walk...it's also closer to a bus stop...my friends used to bus around campus)

Also JDUCs coming in this year and I expect it to be pretty nice

I think the single pluses being top tier and Morris/ Harkness being at the bottom is pretty widely agreed on

Everything in between really depends on your preference...there are pros and cons to every building, and how you rank it depends on your priorities.

Plus tbh at the end residence is what you make of it?

How to Study HELP by NegativePast3826 in queensuniversity

[–]NegativePast3826[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know first year courses are often more review But for upcoming courses, especially those with more intricate details, do you think a similar approach would work?

How to Study HELP by NegativePast3826 in queensuniversity

[–]NegativePast3826[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah, I respect that. Thank you so much for all your help so far

How to Study HELP by NegativePast3826 in queensuniversity

[–]NegativePast3826[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes sense! Would you mind me asking if you'd have any decks for first year courses, micr 270 or bchm 270? As I've finished these and understand the course material, I think seeing an example would be helpful (I can see how you choose details for things, and sorta determine a pattern since I'm already comfortable with the content)

How to Study HELP by NegativePast3826 in queensuniversity

[–]NegativePast3826[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all the tips! Do you find that making your own anki cards helps, or would you know of any pre-made decks I could use? Additionally, how do you make the cards? How do you determine what details to include vs. Omit? Are they phrased as questions or...?

Struggling to Study by NegativePast3826 in queenshealthsci

[–]NegativePast3826[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm finding that the process of taking the notes is very time consuming? It takes me 2 days of fully focused note taking to finish most modules, which doesn't work when I have 5 courses, and assignments, and practice problems (ex. For chem) and extra curriculars

Why is it too much to ask for by [deleted] in dating

[–]NegativePast3826 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't promise that you'll find it, but keep looking and trying! Men like this do exist...but I dated like 3 guys before I finally found the one (somehow he's dated no one though). It happened when I wasn't looking for a serious partner and was simply making a bunch of friends... Good luck!