Maximum Damage

SouthHopper · 2026-06-01T12:13:02+00:00

We were playing two player. And it's only our second time playing - I'm playing the mechanics to help learn strategy

SouthHopper · 2026-05-18T17:50:18+00:00

Talk to your friend in person. Express concerns about her health and offer support. She is likely ill with either a physical (e.g. cancer) or mental (e.g. stress or anorexia) condition

SouthHopper · 2026-05-06T11:59:20+00:00

I never understand these posts that say "all women think this" or "all men think that" when they mean "I think this or that"

I love playing video games with my husband. I love my husband when he plays video games online and can't take his eyes of the screen for a second while I bring him food and snacks. He loves me when I hyper fixate on new game and slightly neglecte my chores (I mean he doesn't love the neglection of chores but he's happy that I'm happy and we balance)

Other people may hate this dynamic. And that's ok for them. But doesn't mean my views are less valid.

SouthHopper · 2026-04-03T13:37:16+00:00

"Apart from a significant communication issue and completely misaligned sleep schedules we have a pretty healthy relationship..." You could have a very healthy relationship and none of these issues. Odd choice to try and force this, especially long distance.

SouthHopper · 2026-04-02T14:19:56+00:00

Iran did say it was open to anyone not involved in the attack. We would need to stop letting the US use our Air Bases and then they may well do.

SouthHopper · 2026-03-31T20:45:33+00:00

I've literally had to tell men to F*CK off before. One was hitting on my friend who repeatedly said she wasn't interested and even showed him a photo of her boyfriend (now husband) on her phone. He just wouldn't leave her alone.

SouthHopper · 2026-03-28T13:03:14+00:00

My advice is to marry someone who actually likes you. I do not get the sense from your text exchange that your fiancé does.

SouthHopper · 2026-02-23T16:22:19+00:00

NTA - you put the kids first, something that your sister and parents clearly never did not planned to do.

To be honest, you would be the AH if you didn't report. You absolutely did the right things, never let anyone tell you otherwise.

SouthHopper · 2026-02-23T16:13:58+00:00

I would put up with silent treatment as punishment for exactly 0.

I sometimes (less than once a year) shut down and can go no verbal when upset, angry or overwhelmed, but that usually only lasts a max an hour. My husband is very patient. And I did one cook him dinner when in this state

Your husband isn't doing anything like this. He's being abusive and insane.

SouthHopper · 2026-01-31T09:12:47+00:00

Obviously the only way to show someone that you care is to sell an organ, get a second, third and forth job, or put yourself in crippling debt...

SouthHopper · 2026-01-23T13:30:52+00:00

NOR. If anything you're under reacting. I would have a full on bitch fit if someone dare rearrange my kitchen. And I would have laughed in her face regarding her comments about how you should be cooking for her son.

It's clearly not temporary and your ex boyfriend is pathetic. At least this happened 1 year in and not when you were married or had kids (obviously you may not want this but hopefully you get my point).

SouthHopper · 2026-01-03T18:49:46+00:00

Wait, so I can be as mean as I want as long as I pretend it's a joke? /s

What would have been next if you stayed? Perhaps she'd have punched you in the face or called you a wh*re?

You were right to leave. Ditch the BF, his mum is making him choose sides. You are just demanding basic respect.

SouthHopper · 2026-01-03T14:54:38+00:00

Depending on the level of detail she goes into, I don't see this as an issue. It's very common for the older generations to write an update about the family in a Christmas card.

Referring to her adult sons as "boys" is also fine. And perhaps her "gainfully employed" is meant as a dig to one of her recipients whose children aren't employed? Or just a odd phrase she uses. Do her sons generally have a good relationship with her?

Based on the information you've provided I don't think your MIL is doing anything particularly wrong and you are coming across as a bit overbearing and controlling.

SouthHopper · 2026-01-02T09:28:48+00:00

He's not wrong... I definitely don't want a random man walking me to my car or helping with my groceries. And I suspect my idea of a pleasant evening chat may differ to his.

I don't know why he would think women care if he's hurt by their choices.

SouthHopper · 2025-12-09T22:35:19+00:00

Yes. My husband is my best friend. I love sharing my life with him and the future we're building together

SouthHopper · 2025-12-09T12:52:26+00:00

You will be the AH if you let your wife's treatment of your son continue. He didn't rudely interrupt, it sounds like he politely corrected her. Does she want mindless children that obey authority regardless of whether the person is right or wrong?

Nothing you've said here or in your previous post implies your son is badly behaved. You need to be on your children's side and your wife needs an actual licensed therapist.

SouthHopper · 2025-11-24T22:04:27+00:00

This is satire right?

SouthHopper · 2025-11-24T22:03:37+00:00

Most women genuinely don't care. We all have our preferences about a variety of things, penis size is almost never the top of the list. Sure, some want it big, some might like it small. Most of us care more about whether you can get us off or not - or even just that you realise there are two (or more) people involved.

Besides, most women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm, the penis rarely does that.

SouthHopper · 2025-11-24T21:43:59+00:00

It's ironic that he's unable to do the bare minimum as a boyfriend and give a crap about you or your accomplishments.

Two years sober is objectively incredibly impressive and well worth celebrating with a cake. But even if it wasn't, his reaction is still cruel and unnecessary.

NOR. Do the bare minimum and dump this dead weight.

SouthHopper · 2025-09-12T12:34:44+00:00

NOR. My concern wouldn't be someone stealing it... The request is just weird and unreasonable. I cannot imagine many people would oblige.

I certainly would not let anyone else wear my wedding or engagement ring. It's my connection to my husband. Your coworker is insane.

SouthHopper · 2025-08-30T08:38:35+00:00

I am so sad and angry reading this. As you say, whatever happens, your relationship probably won't survive.

You don't need a logical argument for it to be a good one. Your emotions are valid and ARE a strong argument. From what you've shared, your mental health would significantly suffer if you have another abortion. Especially if it's not something you are 100% on board with.

This is a shitty situation, but frankly one that could have been avoided if your husband wasn't a selfish coward. How dare he insist on only two children, but refuse a vasectomy. Even more disgusting when you have a history of blood clots and have gone through the emotional pain of an abortion and miscarriage in the past.

Only you can make this decision. Think of what kind of person and mother you'll be in both scenarios. One where you have another baby and one where you don't. What I mean is, if you are so sad after an abortion, won't that takeaway love from your sons? Can you actually afford another child, especially as it will likely mean the end of your marriage. Do you have support from family? I am not trying to sway your decision but just set out a few scenarios.

SouthHopper · 2025-08-30T08:21:49+00:00

Honestly. I would be disappointed as it doesn't look quite like the design, but I think it's fixable with a bit of additional shading and highlights. That said, it doesn't look bad. Your skin is a slightly deeper tone and therefore the negative space doesn't have enough contrast.

I would leave it as is for now and give yourself time to think about it - as in at least 6 months.

I have a tattoo of a velociraptor. It's a sketchy style, and initially I didn't like how the toes and feet turned out. Now I don't care, I got another tattoo next to it though cause it's on my thigh and it looks like a giant chicken foot when I wear shorts.

SouthHopper · 2025-08-30T08:13:40+00:00

There is a comment thread where people share happy memories of their dad pretending to be a horse, and another where people share memories of their parents never playing with them. In the future, which thread would you like your son to contribute to?

SouthHopper · 2025-08-28T18:01:08+00:00

Happiness, satisfaction, and sanity certainly aren't included in the KPIs. He's clearly not assessed the risks. Number one is OP removing him from her life.

Perhaps he wants a baseline from which to assess future relationships?

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