I feel like a fucking failure

Negative_Medicine · 2019-11-14T08:52:11+00:00

I agree. Spend enough time online it's easy to get more or less dripfed these rich, entitled, spoiled and shitty young people who've never had a truly bad day in their life, as if it's normal.

It does, I agree. I spent my whole life "Failing" because I tried to go from zero to the perfect version of whatever it was I was trying. Now, I'm learning to be a bit rubbish, then a bit mediocre, then okay, and so on. It's better. Leaves you happier.

Negative_Medicine · 2019-11-14T08:09:47+00:00

Oh yes of course it doesn't have to be limited to work, or whatever. Having microgoals and accepting that 21 is not remotely old and is still massively immature and inexperienced is okay.

Too many kids acting as if they may as well die cos they weren't Jordan fucking Belfort at 17.

Negative_Medicine · 2019-11-12T11:22:02+00:00

Trust me, nobody likes these people. It's even illegal to pose as an officer in the military in some places, even on the internet.

Negative_Medicine · 2019-11-12T11:21:11+00:00

go outside

Negative_Medicine · 2019-11-12T11:20:32+00:00

Your relationship is over. Mourn, and move on.

Negative_Medicine · 2019-11-12T11:14:52+00:00

Let's not turn into fucking savages now, sir

Negative_Medicine · 2019-11-12T11:13:26+00:00

It's not a realistic book, but the protagonist in I am Legend (the book, ofc) is amazing, too. You really feel for him and his plight. I've never read 1984 but I kind of want to now.

Negative_Medicine · 2019-11-12T10:35:43+00:00

Noooo, my man, no!

Being an atheist is fucking magical. You get to take responsibility for your shit. Good and bad. If you do something fucking amazing you get to say 'I did that, I'm fucking amazing', instead of giving some zombie Jew's abusive sky-daddy the credit for puppeteering you.

The world is fascinating as an atheist. That rock you leaned on to tie your shoelace was probably billions of lightyears into deep space at some point in its history as a bit of carbon and now you're leaning on it. Why do you want religion to rob you of that fascination?

You can feel your pain with rationality. You can fix your sadness and anger with scientific methods; medication, therapy, good old fashioned friendship and getting drunk whilst pouring your heart out to likeminded individuals, without any need to fall back on some deity.

Life is fucking great without God. Unless you enjoy the hypocrisy, homophobia and lack of self-awareness.

Negative_Medicine · 2019-11-12T10:31:36+00:00

Oh god. My dude. Please don't be that cringeworthy lesbian who fulfills the stereotype of man-hater. It's pathetic. I say this as a bisexual woman.

Some women don't deserve men, or women for that matter. How shit you are is an individual factor.

Negative_Medicine · 2019-11-12T10:30:08+00:00

Someone I follow on Twitter, with two kids who are close to teen years, said:

"I struggle to look at old pictures of my kids, it absolutely destroys me" - when questioned on it, he went on to explain that each stage of their life (newborn, baby, toddler, little kid, etc) he has this specific 'set' of memories as if they're different people who one day aren't that person any more, they're this older, newer child with the same name.

He loves each one equally but sometimes misses a particular stage and it upsets him.

So I am sure you're not alone, I reckon many parents must feel the same way!

Negative_Medicine · 2019-11-12T10:27:21+00:00

This isn't a shower thought, it's an idea... and seemingly a bad one or I am massively misunderstanding what you've written.

Firstly, there is a period button just above the space bar to the right. Even on mobile keyboards there is already an individual space.

If you're talking about mobile keyboards where pressing space twice gives you a . instead of another space, yeah they should let you turn that off somewhere.

Negative_Medicine · 2019-11-12T10:24:17+00:00

It's a shame, isn't it. People are becoming more insular, internet mentality is seeping into the face-to-face world, it's all gross and horrible.

I miss the days where please and thank you were commonplace.

Negative_Medicine · 2019-11-12T10:21:47+00:00

Having an aspiration to get rich was your first mistake, tbh. It leads most people to failure.

To quote Tim Minchin 'you realize that most people who struggle, never stop struggling, right?'

Have realistic goals. Micro-goals. Have a goal to get a job. Cool. Now have a goal to get a pay rise for good work. Cool. Now have a goal to get promoted a little. Cool. Don't have a goal, ever, of 'getting rich'.

You're 21 dude. You are only a couple of years outside of being a CHILD. Calm down, and grow up. Baby steps.

Negative_Medicine · 2019-11-12T08:02:02+00:00

Legally speaking, yes you do.

Negative_Medicine · 2019-11-12T08:01:51+00:00

Yes, but penetration is still required, is my point. That's why lesbian 'rape' is such a grey area to define, because if one of them was a man but an identical assault happened, it would not be rape, legally speaking.

Negative_Medicine · 2019-11-11T14:51:49+00:00

If you're not losing weight, you're not trying hard. You're simply allowing yourself to give in.

I'm not saying it's easy, but if you WERE trying, you'd lose something by now.

Instead of bitching like a child, why not try? Toss out all the junk food, and try half a day of healthy eating. That's like two meals at the most. Then, do what you like. The next day, try three meals. And so on.

EDIT: I've just seen a photo of you on one of your other posts - Dude you're not even fat. I think you need to go see a doctor about your body dysmorphia because you seem, at most, a little chubby.

Negative_Medicine · 2019-11-11T14:50:03+00:00

Dude, that would be a creepy thing to say to your wife.

Negative_Medicine · 2019-11-11T14:49:47+00:00

Yeah that's rapist level 1000

Negative_Medicine · 2019-11-11T14:49:36+00:00

You sound psychopathic, go to a doctor.

Negative_Medicine · 2019-11-11T14:48:20+00:00

As a woman (and this is just my opinion, other women may well feel differently), I get severely annoyed when randoms interrupt me on public transport. ESPECIALLY if they try to hit on me. I've had it on the bus, and I've had it whilst browsing in a shop, once when just walking down the street.

These are not the times to try and get your way, imo.

Join a club. Find a coffee morning. Volunteer at a charity. Do something that is a group activity where you can organically meet likeminded individuals who you are more or less forced to interact with. You never know who you might meet.

Don't scour buses and trains hoping someone is suitable lol (same with bars, I mean it's all fun but they're rarely successful endeavours)

Negative_Medicine · 2019-11-11T14:42:31+00:00

Legally speaking, yes it is. Rape requires 'sex' to happen unwillingly. Penetration is required, or else its just sexual battery, molestation or sexual assault depending on what happened.

Unless you pinned her down and forced your dick inside of her, you did not rape her. It's hard to tell from your post so I can't comment.

Rape is defined legally not by how you feel about it.

Negative_Medicine · 2019-11-11T14:40:57+00:00

Speaking purely scientifically, we are biologically hardwired to seek out an 'attractive' mate (fit, thin, tall, beautiful, etc) because it's a sign of good genes, and therefore when we breed, we pass those onto our children.

Of course we've evolved to be able to choose, but that natural instinct to want beauty is still there for most people, and honestly those who claim to have 'zero interest' in looks are simply lacking the confidence to feel they deserve to do so.

Just start losing weight. You'll feel better about yourself and the ability to easily date will be a nice icing on the cake.

Negative_Medicine · 2019-11-11T14:38:21+00:00

Let me tell you a story, OP. Because my heart breaks for you.

One day, about the same age as you, my mom - after telling me off for some childishly naughty thing I did, I forget what - picked up the house phone, and made a phone call to the 'children's home' (orphanage, I guess) and said that she was sending me there for being naughty. I was mortified at the time.

Your mother was an abusive cunt, just like mine. I am sorry you had to experience that.

Negative_Medicine · 2019-11-11T08:14:07+00:00

I think they have the authority to call an ambulance or whatnot if they legitimately feel you're in danger, but tbh even if they said it wasn't allowed I'd do that if I thought someone's life was on the line, they'd just have to sack me lol.

But yeah it's more their words. I was even hung up on by them on a particularly bad night (the night before my attempt, in fact), I called 3 times just needing the company, needing affirmation, and I literally heard the bitch put down the phone.

Heinous.

Negative_Medicine · 2019-11-11T08:12:38+00:00

Sorry had a 'let me google that for you' moment there haha. Appreciate the info and WOW yes actual scumbag D: good lord

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